euges116 Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I'm a college guy, and have been (best) friends with Bryan for well over three years now, since freshman year. This past year he's been kinda neglecting our friendship since he's found a girlfriend (or rather, the girl found him). He's quite smitten with him, but it's to the point where he's, well, let's just say he's spending a lot more time with her than me. Which is normal, but from seeing each other once or twice a week the first two weeks, the last time I saw him was like a month ago, since he's so "busy." And it's not just me, he hasn't been balancing his time with his other friends as well. Okay, that's not my problem. It's summer, and I'm going to Scandinavia with a few buddies of mine. Bryan's never been outside of the States before, and I've travelled alot (Italy/France/Austra last summer). I always send him a postcard. This summer, though, he's got an internship in DC. I've e-mailled him, asking for his address in the capital so I can send him a postcard. It's been a week now, and nothing, no reply. Two questions: 1. Should I ask his girlfriend? They're on the same internship program, both will be in DC. ... and/or 2. If he doesn't reply (and if his girlfriend does), should I send him a postcard? Or should I not to tell him, subtlely, that if he doesn't put effort into our friendship, I won't either? Thanks. Your advice is much appreciated! I mean it.
Tim'sAngel Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I'm prolly the wrong person to give advice about this topic, but I do not make efforts for friendships if I feel like I am the only one attempting to. I have almost given up on a few friendships with people I've known since I was in kindergarten, one of them being someone I have considered in the past as my best friend of 16 years. And I wouldn't say having a new relationship should be a plausible excuse for not keeping up w/u. My best friend just got married 2 weekends ago and is expecting her first child, and I have recently moved in w/my SO and am pretty much starting a new life and I have a 1 year old son. So we both are pretty wrapped up in our lives and we talk on the phone at least once a day! It is all about how much you care for someone. Maybe you should talk to him about the situation and see if he wants to keep in contact w/u, or if he's just too busy to care.
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