IceIceBaby Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 Just a little issue here that I'd love some opinions/advice for. I have been with my boyfriend for a few months now. Things are perfect, I think this guy might be the one, etc. etc. The only problem is that I get a little nervous when it comes to sexual things with him. Granted things are great in that area, but for some reason I'm nervous to push it to the next level. He has absolutely no problems (has told me he's fine with how everything is going) and has not pressured me one bit. But everytime I think about taking it up a notch, I worry that I won't be good enough for him. I have dated several men, one long term so it's weird that I'm nervous. But he is a great guy and a very attractive one too, so I'm sure he's dated alot and probably has more experience than I do. I'm worried he's used to girls who really know what they're doing. Like I said, I've got experience, it's not like I have no clue what I'm doing, but no matter how much he tells me everything is fine, I still freak out when it comes down to actually moving to the next level. Any suggestions? Or do I just need to relax?
Buttaflyy Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 Do you drink? Get really drunk one night and lose all inhibitions and if you screw up too badly, blame it on the liquor Yeah, you do need to relax!
MadDog Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I'm not being facetious when I say this: as long as you give good oral, he won't be disappointed. Girls don't have to have any extraordinary skills in bed. It's not like they have to make sure they don't come too quick, etc. As long as they're hot and into it, it's all good. I'd be a little disappointed though if a girl I was with wasn't into oral. That'd be about it.
Author IceIceBaby Posted May 12, 2006 Author Posted May 12, 2006 I'm not being facetious when I say this: as long as you give good oral, he won't be disappointed. Girls don't have to have any extraordinary skills in bed. It's not like they have to make sure they don't come too quick, etc. As long as they're hot and into it, it's all good. I'd be a little disappointed though if a girl I was with wasn't into oral. That'd be about it. That's what is weird to me. I'm fine with oral...have done it in the past, never had complaints. But for some reason I worry I'll dissapoint him.
MadDog Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 That's what is weird to me. I'm fine with oral...have done it in the past, never had complaints. But for some reason I worry I'll dissapoint him. You're just getting nervous because you two have put off getting down and dirty for a while. I'm sure if you actually get into it things will go fine--it's all in your head. So call up your guy and have a nice booty call tonight.
Author IceIceBaby Posted May 12, 2006 Author Posted May 12, 2006 You're just getting nervous because you two have put off getting down and dirty for a while. I'm sure if you actually get into it things will go fine--it's all in your head. So call up your guy and have a nice booty call tonight. Hahahaha...thanks MD!
MadDog Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 Hahahaha...thanks MD! It's your boyfriend who should be thanking me.
Vertex Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 Give him good oral and he will never complain about anything sexual. All I gotta say. I'd say 70% of it is the attitude.
Walk Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I highly doubt you (since you've been in a long term relationship already) that the rest of us women know a bunch of sexual moves you don't already know. It really comes down to how willing you are to please your partner, and to me it sounds like you're so willing that you're freakin' out about it. Forget about his past and concentrate on the two of you now. Its going to be new and different and better with you because he loves you. And just as your freaking out some about your performance in bed, he's probably worried about his performance too.
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