Guest Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 I'd have to say I was after the good looking guys. Who cares if he's popular? If he's really good looking he'll be popular anyways. At least by all the girls! hehe thats me And i know, i know, confidence is #1, but i was saying out of those two specifics, which would be more important.
Author Bballswingr Posted May 11, 2006 Author Posted May 11, 2006 wow i suck at posting, two guests posts will be coming up soon which were mine.. o well :/
alphamale Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 I would say looks over popularity. And who likes someone who has the mental capacity of a herd animal? but aren't many attractive people less intelligent, on average, than their more homely counterparts?
catgirl1927 Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 but aren't many attractive people less intelligent, on average, than their more homely counterparts? Oh indeed. No doubt, pretty people are pretty much morons.
Buttaflyy Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Oh indeed. No doubt, pretty people are pretty much morons. No way!!!! And yes, I'm speaking for myself
Sand&Water Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 but aren't many attractive people less intelligent, on average, than their more homely counterparts? Overall, yes. Example: Jessica Simpson.
MadDog Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 but aren't many attractive people less intelligent, on average, than their more homely counterparts? It just seems that way, with girls especially. This is because if a girl's pretty, she can get pretty far in life just based on that fact alone. I mean, if she can snag a rich, successful dude, she's pretty miuch set for life.
Sand&Water Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 It just seems that way, with girls especially. This is because if a girl's pretty, she can get pretty far in life just based on that fact alone. I mean, if she can snag a rich, successful dude, she's pretty miuch set for life. Makes me wonder at what the world has come to. It's so sad and disturbing. Maybe going bankrupt isn't so bad afterall.
basscatcher Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 I wouldn't want to be with a man who was popular and really good looking.. It would make me nervous all the time. I would paranoid he was cheating or loving the attention he got too much from other females.. I tend to pick men who are just a little bit different.. I like different. I don't want the man every one else seems to want..
luvtoto Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Not always true. I had a friend who was well known, lots of friends. He was a smooth talker but all his talk was garbage and BS. All lies to make his life seem better to everyone else. Well, I realize that, but the OP only gave two choices. I figure I picked the best of two evils. You mean, there were more choices?
MadDog Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 I wouldn't want to be with a man who was popular and really good looking.. It would make me nervous all the time. I would paranoid he was cheating or loving the attention he got too much from other females.. I tend to pick men who are just a little bit different.. I like different. I don't want the man every one else seems to want.. I don't mean to be antagonistic but it sounds like a lot of insecurity in action there. It almost seems like you pick out the guys that aren't too desirable because you feel like he won't have many options and you can feel like you're his best one. Wouldn't it feel better to know that he had a bunch of options but still chose you?
basscatcher Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 I don't mean to be antagonistic but it sounds like a lot of insecurity in action there. It almost seems like you pick out the guys that aren't too desirable because you feel like he won't have many options and you can feel like you're his best one. Wouldn't it feel better to know that he had a bunch of options but still chose you? Typically when I've dated a man who is popular and very good looking I lose him to more attractive females.. Hence, I learned not to get involved long term with those types of men. Once my face comes off they run..... I tend to find them shallow anyway...
prfrogkisser Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 I agree with alpha! Oh and a big cock doesn't hurt, either! (Well, actually maybe it could! ) I have to agree size does matter lol:lmao:
Pyro Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 Well, I realize that, but the OP only gave two choices. I figure I picked the best of two evils. You mean, there were more choices? No, only two choices, but you questioned the possibility that a more popular person may have a good personality, and it always doesn't hold up to be true.
MadDog Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 Typically when I've dated a man who is popular and very good looking I lose him to more attractive females.. Hence, I learned not to get involved long term with those types of men. Once my face comes off they run..... I tend to find them shallow anyway... Well that's no reason to stop dating attractive, popular men. That's like if I said all the hot girls I've dated so far have been drama queens (kinda true) so I'm going to only date mediocre looking to unattractive girls. There are hot girls that aren't drama queens out there just the way there are attractive men who aren't shallow. By the way, what do you mean they run when your face comes off? Are you some type of robot or alien?
basscatcher Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 By the way, what do you mean they run when your face comes off? Are you some type of robot or alien? I was born with a strawberry birthmark on my face and almost all of the men I've dated seen me after I washed my face they are shocked. Even children are shocked. I get stares because of my birthmark.... I feel like I am deformed or scared from burns the way people look at me.. I'm very insecure about it. I take chances with men but I'm always nervous... All the really hot hot hotties I've met have ditched me after seeing me without makeup... It really makes me feel icky.. and I have to fight to keep my head up and keep plugging away... Rejection really knocks me down... This may sound desperate but I take what I can get if a good looking man pays attention to me.. I enjoy it while it lasts without getting my hopes up he will stick around. No one sticks around.. or they treat me bad and i get rid of them.. Story of my life..
MadDog Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 Well pada, I'd say you've just run into the wrong men. It doesn't mean that good ones aren't out there. And just because a man sticks around because he's not attractive or popular doesn't make him a good one if he's sticking around because he feels he has no other options.
burning 4 revenge Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I have to agree size does matter lol:lmao: I need a suicide emoticon
basscatcher Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 Well pada, I'd say you've just run into the wrong men. It doesn't mean that good ones aren't out there. And just because a man sticks around because he's not attractive or popular doesn't make him a good one if he's sticking around because he feels he has no other options. I'm not saying I will date guy's I don't find attractive. Believe me if I don't find a man attractive how can I have the feeling of wanting to touch him. But drop dead model material gorgeous I don't put any hope in. I had two last summer and both of them were gone in the first week and I let them do all the moves.
glittergurl Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 Hey everyone im just wondering, if you had to choose, which trait would you rather have in a guy, popularity or good looks. I have never cared about popularity, and as long as he looked good to me, the rest didn't matter.
Walk Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 The whole idea of "good looking" is completely subjective. For instance, was out with my brother and my bf at a college bar and I was attempting to point out hotties for my brother. My brother likes anorexic looking girls, he thinks they're hot. My bf.. he likes women with a little meat on their bones. Two completely different opinions on what would classify a woman as "hot". The ones my brother pointed out as "hot" my bf stated were nasty. Those my bf found attractive, my brother found disgusting. Neither is wrong. But to use the word as though it describes a specific type of person is rather misleading. Its too subjective.
Walk Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I wouldn't want to be with a man who was popular and really good looking.. It would make me nervous all the time. I would paranoid he was cheating or loving the attention he got too much from other females.. I tend to pick men who are just a little bit different.. I like different. I don't want the man every one else seems to want.. I agree with you, but for a slightly different reason. I've found that I don't want to compete with the ego "hot" guys seem to have. They constantly need to feed it, and I really dislike playing that game. And (I'm probably wrong in this) I think that hot guys are only after trophy gf's. They don't really care what's under the skin as long as the skin looks as good as they do. If they get personality plus skin, bonus... but it really only comes down to genetics for them. I never wanted a guy who could be swayed so easily by outward appearances. Which would kind of be like your theory of feeling insecure and paranoid because I know some other woman will always look better than I do... and if the guy is focused mainly on the outward appearance, then he's always going to be on the hunt for the better model.
catgirl1927 Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 And (I'm probably wrong in this) I think that hot guys are only after trophy gf's. They don't really care what's under the skin as long as the skin looks as good as they do. If they get personality plus skin, bonus... but it really only comes down to genetics for them. I never wanted a guy who could be swayed so easily by outward appearances. Which would kind of be like your theory of feeling insecure and paranoid because I know some other woman will always look better than I do... and if the guy is focused mainly on the outward appearance, then he's always going to be on the hunt for the better model. While you are for the most part absolutely correct, in my personal experience they grow up and start caring about more important things. Then they pick a nice, pretty girl with a good job who loves them and will be a good mother to their kids. But trust me, looking at his exes, he was doing EXACTLY what you're talking about. What a troop of dumb whores...
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