Guest Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 My girlfriend and I are in a LDR at the moment. We usually talk on the phone for a few hours every day. What's the problem with this is that I can usually never say that I need to go to sleep, because if I do my girlfriend gets either angry or starts to pout. The thing is that my girlfriend has sleeping habits that are a bit out of the ordinary, so this often means that I have to go to bed the same time as her, which would often be sometime between 1am to 5am my time. I'm a student, and my classes are usually held in the afternoon, so most of the time it's not a problem for me to stay up late. I usually just talk and talk until she gets tired and wants to sleep. Sometimes, however, I can actually be really tired because of various reasons. A couple of nights ago the clock was approaching 4am and I was exhausted. I told her that I was really tired and wanted to go to sleep. She said no I cannot, so we were talking for another half hour or so. Then I said again that I was really tired so I wanted to go to bed, so she got upset and said fine, bye then and hung up the phone. Now she's still upset with me because of this incident. Now she doesn't feel like calling she said, and when I spoke to her just now she said she didn't want to talk, and she said she was busy and she said that she'll call if she wants to but she's VERY busy, just like I always am VERY busy. To my opinion this is utterly ridiculous and I don't know whether I should call and apologize and say that I won't go off like that unless I have a very valid reason (being tired isn't a valid reason enough for her), or should I just wait until she gets tired of pouting and calls me up again. I think that she feels that I'm rejecting her when I tell her that I want to go to sleep and not talk to her. We've had the same kind of argument every now and then and it always leads to disaster. Does anyone have any good advice?
ChampionSound Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 I think that if you allow her to continue to walk all over you, she will get bored and go away eventually. In my experience, women use irrational conflict as a tool to get closer to you. By putting stress on the relationship, she is testing the waters to see what you are really made of. When she has seen you work through the problem and come out alright, she will have a story to tell herself about how you worked as a couple to overcome an issue. Then she will feel good because she knows that together you can make it through harder times. That's my theory and I'm sticking to it. After analyzing my past relationships, it seems to make the most sense as to why a woman suddenly puts stress on a relationship for seemingly no reason at all (ie, you are tired and have to go to bed). The other option here is that she is totally and completely selfish and demanding, but I don't really believe you would have made it this far without spotting that already. Good luck!
SuperMonk Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 LOL! She is needy, dude. Dump that girl right away. What are you doing on the phone for all that night, You're supposed to be a man. BE A MAN, not some little girlfriend for your insecure emotional wreckage of a teenage girl leftover. LDR? I doubt that she was your girlfriend physically, man I gotta tell all the dudes on here Long Distance just don't work! DUMP!!!!!! and move on.
MadDog Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 She sounds a lot like my ex who was long distance. Bottom line, I concluded she was selfish as hell to keep me on the phone when I was tired. On top of that, your girlfriend is being manipulative by acting like a bitch whenever she doesn't get her way. She's trying to get you to behave the way she wants you to, regardless of how bad that might be for you. Dump her. You'll be much happier. Whatever you do, don't apologize to her.
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