cathyc06 Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Ok, well I have never been on here before but here I go. I married a guy (J) back in January of this year. i love him alot. He is 7 years younger than me but we can never really tell that the age difference matters to us. We get along great. I have 2 kids from a previous marriage and they adore him, although they nor none of the rest of my family no we are married yet. We have been trying to find a way to tell them or to have notehr ceremony to include everyone in. When we started dating he todl me that his ex gf had told him she is having his baby. She and he were together for about a month or 2 while she was seperated from her hubby. She lived with J and his mom at the time. She told everyone it was his even though she was going back and forth with her hubby. Well J spoke to her hubby and his mother and at one time his mother told J that she didn to think ger son could have anymore kids. He and her(js) had a son that had died a few years ago and they had been trying. I hope this is making some sense at all. Anyways, she was saying her due date was around february 22, 2006 and told J she would let he and his mother know when she had the baby( b/c she had gotten back with her hubby. Well she stopped contacting J and his mom at all and she and her hubby moved a few towns away. We finally heard she had the baby on Feb.13,2006 and it took us until last week to track down her number and address. J spoke to her and then I did as well this week. She told us it is her husbands child and it look like them. She had a girl. She says that we can pay and have a DNA test run and she will bring her to the place to do it. We all agreed to let J and I see the baby, and his mother, to see if we can tell by looking at her if she might be his before spending all of this money. She also todl me this week that she had went into labor at first the 23rd of january 2006 and they stopped her labor. She says that the baby was full term when she was born and I ask her about her cycle and hwo she would not relaly know whose child it is. She todl me that she didn to have a cycle last April of 2005 and she only spotted some in May so it could not be J's baby. We are going to see this child tomorrow and it is killing us both. we have been trying to conceive as well for the past several months and are having a hard time. As you can see this just makes this all the much worse. Does anyone know how we can figure up when she might have gotten pregnant?..She lies so much that we do not know what to believe. J says he hopes it is not his b/c she loves drama and she will always cause problems for us as long as she has access to our lives. HEEEELLLPP... C:(
whichwayisup Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 The only way would be to attain her medical records and as far as I know, that's not legal to do. Only thing to do now is have a paternity test done -Make sure both you and your husband are present while they do test. Be prepared for the worst and hope for the best. Can I ask? Does her husband know that she and J slept together? And that this child possibly could be another man's baby?
Guitar Wizard Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Well, you really should get that DNA test done, ASAP. The kid has a right to have proof of who it's father is. See, my mother had an affair, and my father didn't think that I was his, and we had a whole DNA test thing too. It's a lot of stress to put on a kid, at any age, not to mention that DNA tests don't lie, but crazy mothers do. So, I would just get the test done and over with. Whats a couple hundred bucks to know FOR SURE, right?
glittergurl Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 DNA test is the only way. Although I'd never marry a guy who seems to be expecting a baby with another chick; but oh well, I guess these things happen every day now.
Touche Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 DNA test is the only way. Although I'd never marry a guy who seems to be expecting a baby with another chick; but oh well, I guess these things happen every day now. Once again, I'm with you Glitter. What a sad ordeal. Really sad.
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