jessssss Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 thsi weekend i'm going out of town with my bf and 3 of our guy friends to a race. we are meeting up with his best friend, his best friends' dad and sister. they are very nice and i really do like them. my problem is everytime they get around it's like they are judging my every move, my every comment to my bf and also they seem to take him over, like he always has to do what they say and forget me. its' my bf's best friend so i dont' wnat to say anything or jumpto conclusion but ti's irritating and i'm not looking forward to hte weekend now. i know best friends are there to protect but ive known these people so long why do they still make me feel this way or maybe i'm doing it to myself?? i dont' wnat to look whiny in front of them so i never get ill about it at the time. last time we all went together my bf got on a guy kick and was talking to me like i was one of the guys, i ahd been drinking and got emotional...so now i feel stupid being around them too cause he made me cry...ugh...how do i handle this/?? does the bestfriend hate me and feel like i'm taking my bf/his best friend away?? ugh. any advice???
whichwayisup Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Tell your boyfriend exacly what you said here and also, go out of your way to be kind to his bestfriend. If the bestfriend gives you hassel, call him on his actions and his behaviour! He's a guy, so he won't be too upset - And he'll probably respect you more for standing up to him! If you sit back, cry and let him be an ass, then he'll continue to BE an ass! Another thing, don't let the bestfriend intimidate you, or make you feel bad. Only worry about how your boyfriend makes you feel.
Guitar Wizard Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Tell your boyfriend exacly what you said here and also, go out of your way to be kind to his bestfriend. If the bestfriend gives you hassel, call him on his actions and his behaviour! He's a guy, so he won't be too upset - And he'll probably respect you more for standing up to him! If you sit back, cry and let him be an ass, then he'll continue to BE an ass! Another thing, don't let the bestfriend intimidate you, or make you feel bad. Only worry about how your boyfriend makes you feel. Good Answer Yep, she's right, if you have a problem don't remain silent, say something. Just sit him down and really talk to him, and tell him how you feel.
Author jessssss Posted May 11, 2006 Author Posted May 11, 2006 i'm going to try to tonight...i don't want it to come across that i dont like his best friend...i'm really afraid that's how he's going to take it. i'm going to try my best this weekend-trying to make this my turning point in how everyone views me and mine and bf's relationship. thanks!
Walk Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Can you post how it goes afterward, and if it worked for you or not? I've had a situation like this come up in the past, and I'm sure others will too, and I'd love to hear how it turns out for you. What you did, how you did it, and what results where from it. I'd really like to know.
Author jessssss Posted May 12, 2006 Author Posted May 12, 2006 i'll post when i get back...i hope it goes well...i think it will. i mentioned last night that i want to get time in with him and not be all by myself. (it is all but one girl going--all guys) he seemed really cool and laid back about it - like "duh" to me...so i guess that's a good sign. i'm definitely gonig to be me and one of my friends told me-it's not like it's your dad or your bf's dad or any family member of either of you...have fun and dont' worry bout it. i'm gonna try!! i'll update everyone on monday
Walk Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 it's not like it's your dad or your bf's dad or any family member of either of you...have fun and dont' worry bout it. i'm gonna try!! i'll update everyone on monday That's a good way of looking at it. Have a great time!
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