elisabeth160 Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Here's the deal. There's this guy from work that I adore. Were good friends. We get along great, joke play, can talk about nething, ect. Were awesome together. We've hooked up a few times so we knows there's sexual chemistry. The problem in what seems to be a perfect friendship? He's married. He's 22 yrs old with 2 kids. He messed up when he was 18 and got his gf prego. Did the right thing and married her and takes care\provides for them. But she doesn't treat him right at all. He's trying so hard to better himself for her and his kids. But she doesn't care... Anyways, back to the point. They've seperated for the time being due to some major issues. Well we've talked on the phone every nite, go to lunch eveyrday. And I went to go see him at his house to keep him company cuz he was alone. Well we ended up sleeping together. My ? Is.... I adore this guy. Would love to be the one to treat him how he deserves... But I'm not sure on his feelings. I want him to know how I care for him. Is this my chance? When he's seperated? When he can see there's better out there for him? Help!!!
Guitar Wizard Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 At the very least you could wait till he's divorced... That's just me though.
erika2610 Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Here's the deal. There's this guy from work that I adore. Were good friends. We get along great, joke play, can talk about nething, ect. Were awesome together. We've hooked up a few times so we knows there's sexual chemistry. The problem in what seems to be a perfect friendship? He's married. He's 22 yrs old with 2 kids. He messed up when he was 18 and got his gf prego. Did the right thing and married her and takes care\provides for them. But she doesn't treat him right at all. He's trying so hard to better himself for her and his kids. But she doesn't care... Anyways, back to the point. They've seperated for the time being due to some major issues. Well we've talked on the phone every nite, go to lunch eveyrday. And I went to go see him at his house to keep him company cuz he was alone. Well we ended up sleeping together. My ? Is.... I adore this guy. Would love to be the one to treat him how he deserves... But I'm not sure on his feelings. I want him to know how I care for him. Is this my chance? When he's seperated? When he can see there's better out there for him? Help!!! I wouldn't do anything. There's always a chance they'll get back together. And how do you know she treated him like crap? You only have what he tells you to go by.
stillafool Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I agree with erika2610 they just may get back together. Yes he married her when he was only 18 and she was pregnant but he didn't have to marry her. He must have loved her then and they have another child together so I would think they both were very much in love. Also it's common for both spouses to feel that the other treats them like crap when they are having problems. If you want a chance with this guy give him 6 months and see if he's still separated and filing for a divorce. However I have to warn you if he's only 22 and already married with 2 kids, when and if he does divorce he's not likely to want to jump into a serious relationship. He'll probably want to act as a single 22 yr. old man would and play the field.
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