maxima888 Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Anyway...I've met this girl a few months ago from a girl I was dating. She is the girl I was dating best friend. Anyway some how we ended up liking each other but I never expressed my feelings because she 'had' a boyfriend but they splited up. And she told me she liked me for a long time and was suprise I didn't realize it. She would always tell me to hang out and always complimanted me. I thought she was just being friendly in nature. Well about 2 weeks ago she told me how she really felt and told me she liked me a lot... So during that week we've been on the phone every night and we ended up going out last thurs. The date went great... dinner/movies/stroll by the bay... the very next day was her best friends birthday party and I was invited as well... I went and something came up and I had to leave in a hurry and didn't really get a chance to tell her(the girl I am seeing/dating)... but I did tell the birthday girl I had to do something...anyway I think she got a little bit upset(the girl I am seeing/dating) that I didn't tell her... anyway we talked on the phone for a little about it and everything seems to be cleared up. Alright this is when the strange things start to happen which leads till now... She said she was going to call me later on that night but instead she texted me saying she is going shopping and will call me later...that never happened...so i thought maybe she was tired and she would call me tomorrow(sunday)...alright that didn't happen so I gave her a call (sunday night) but caught the voicemail instead. I left a msg but she never called... So Monday rolls by no call...I figured she wanted to space so I didn't call.. Tuesday afternoon she gives me a ring and said she was really tired from work and she wanted some time to herself...she just started working at a hospital for a few months only which I understand why she was tired. Anyway she was going home while she called me and said she would give me a call later on that night... that never happened...so I figure she fell asleep from being tired... So today she gives me a text and tells me she will call me tonight but still no call... Is she playing games? Not interested anymore? Maybe she is truely just busy and tired? whats up? Any advice would be great...
jerbear Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Since she started a new job, I'll say tired and busy; depending on what she does. Nurse, doctor, etc... She should at least call and spend 5 minutes or you call tomorrow (thursday). After that you'll get your answer.
Author maxima888 Posted May 11, 2006 Author Posted May 11, 2006 thanks to for the fast reply I was trying to edit my post (a lot of grammer errors) but edit thing stopped working... New to the forum thread thiings... I really hope its the job thing because I really like this girl a lot... She started working at the hospital 3months ago...and I guess she is still adjusting to her new job.. I just find this very confusing when she say she is going to call but ends up not... Sorta stressing me out because I think about it so much..
MadDog Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 This is almost the exact situation I'm in with the girl I'm dating. She works long hours at a demanding job so I don't know whether to take her not calling me back as disinterest or just her job. It almost makes me wonder if we're dating the same girl. What part of the country are you from? Anyway, I've concluded that her interest in me and whether we're going to advance from dating into being a couple will become clear only with time. There's nothing I can do at this point to figure out where she stands. If I bring up the whole not calling me thing, I come off as desperate (which I'm not) and perhaps too serious. All I can really do is to try to hang out with her again and gauge her interest in me based on how she interacts with me.
Author maxima888 Posted May 11, 2006 Author Posted May 11, 2006 hah I'm from the NY area... Yea I don't want to come off looking too desperate also... I mean I text her back stating I understand and its cool you know... but it does make me wonder... And your totally correct with the only time can tell theory. Hopefully this is the case..
MadDog Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 hah I'm from the NY area... Yea I don't want to come off looking too desperate also... I mean I text her back stating I understand and its cool you know... but it does make me wonder... And your totally correct with the only time can tell theory. Hopefully this is the case.. Phew! I was seriously thinking it might have been the same girl for a second. Yeah, there's nothing you can do to find out the truth sometimes except to wait. How does your girl sound when you actually talk to her? Does she sound happy to hear from you? The thing that throws me off about mine is that when we talk, she sounds really enthusiastic and happy. But then invariably the "I'll call you tomorrow" followed by no call happens. Whatever. I've got other things in my life to worry about right now. If she wants to miss the MD train, her loss. There are thousands of hot girls out there waiting to get on, I'm sure.
vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Yah MD's right when he said that it just takes time. This may sound irrelavant but does she possibily have a few guy friends? If so she may be trying to leave her options open. At least for me I have alot of guy friends so I try to talk to them all as much as I can, but usually I spread it out because I don't want to lead a guy on by talking to him everyday. It even goes for a guy I do like because I don't want to come off as needy. BUT this guy that I've known for awhile kept calling me wanting to hang out, and I kept kinda blowing him off because I could tell he wanted to be more than just friends, (he told my friend) so while I still wanted to leave my options open, I would just talk to him every once in awhile, to keep him just in case, lol. WELL anyways I finally told him that I want to start seeing him and hanging out with him more, because I see potential there. Luckily he stuck around. Ok so it might seem like I'm playing games but I just want you aware of what girls act sometimes. Although, she might really be busy with work that's understandable. But texting you and telling you that she'll call is kinda iffy. As long as she calls you back the next day than I wouldn't worry about it, but if she texts you and says she'll call tha night and then calls you say almost a week later than I would stop calling her and wait for her to come to you, because like in my case, if the girl really likes you she'll come around, and stick to her word. Well I hope I didn't ramble on, probably did but I just wanted to give you an example I guess, and plus I'm really tired so forgive me But keep us posted!
MadDog Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Well what if she doesn't call sometimes but will always at least text to say good night or whatever? What's that say? She's got options but not as many as you? Haha.
vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Well what if she doesn't call sometimes but will always at least text to say good night or whatever? What's that say? She's got options but not as many as you? Haha. MD- you're funny lol I'd say that's cute if she texts you to say goodnight, I'm sure if she did have alot of guy friends she wouldn't be texting all them goodnight, at least I don't, and plus that would get expensive lol I hope you're girl comes around, but like you said it's her loss huh?
MadDog Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Who really knows--she is a girl after all. If you want to guess why a girl is behaving a certain way, you basically write down 4-5 random explanations, put them up on the wall, and throw a dart. Whichever reason the dart hits is just as good of a guess than analyzing and trying to interpret female behavior. My explanations are: 1. She'd dating other guys 2. She's caught up in work 3. She has multiple personality disorder 4. She's confused about her sexual orientation 5. She's got the hots for me and she's afraid of what will happen if we hang out again I threw a dart and it landed on #5. Kinda what I suspected.
Pantero Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Who really knows--she is a girl after all. If you want to guess why a girl is behaving a certain way, you basically write down 4-5 random explanations, put them up on the wall, and throw a dart. Whichever reason the dart hits is just as good of a guess than analyzing and trying to interpret female behavior. My explanations are: 1. She'd dating other guys 2. She's caught up in work 3. She has multiple personality disorder 4. She's confused about her sexual orientation 5. She's got the hots for me and she's afraid of what will happen if we hang out again I threw a dart and it landed on #5. Kinda what I suspected. NICE! To the OP: As I read your post, I initially thought that she's playing games. After I finished reading, I'm not so sure and like what these guys have been telling you...only time will tell. Hope it works out. And if it doesn't, no biggie. There will be more.
MadDog Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 This goes out to you maxima: "Why do you build me up (build me up) Buttercup, baby Just to let me down (let me down) and mess me around And then worst of all (worst of all) you never call, baby When you say you will (say you will) but I love you still I need you (I need you) more than anyone, darlin' You know that I have from the start So build me up (build me up) Buttercup, don't break my heart "I'll be over at ten", you told me time and again But you're late, I wait around and then (bah dah dah) I run to the door, I can't take any more It's not you, you let me down again (Hey, hey, hey!) Baby, baby, try to find (Hey, hey, hey!) A little time, and I'll make you happy (Hey, hey, hey!) I'll be home I'll be beside the phone waiting for you Ooo-oo-ooo, ooo-oo-ooo Why do you build me up (build me up) Buttercup, baby Just to let me down (let me down) and mess me around And then worst of all (worst of all) you never call, baby When you say you will (say you will) but I love you still I need you (I need you) more than anyone, darlin' You know that I have from the start So build me up (build me up) Buttercup, don't break my heart You were my toy but I could be the boy you adore If you'd just let me know (bah dah dah) Although you're untrue, I'm attracted to you all the more Why do I need you so (Hey, hey, hey!) Baby, baby, try to find (Hey, hey, hey!) A little time and I'll make you happy (Hey, hey, hey!) I'll be home I'll be beside the phone waiting for you Ooo-oo-ooo, ooo-oo-ooo Why do you build me up (build me up) Buttercup, baby Just to let me down (let me down) and mess me around And then worst of all (worst of all) you never call, baby When you say you will (say you will) but I love you still I need you (I need you) more than anyone, darlin' You know that I have from the start So build me up (build me up) Buttercup, don't break my heart I-I-I need you-oo-oo more than anyone, baby You know that I have from the start So build me up (build me up) Buttercup, don't break my heart" This song's at the end of the movie, "There's Something About Mary." Such a funny movie.
vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 MD-perhaps did you watch that movie lastnight on cable? lol
MadDog Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 MD-perhaps did you watch that movie lastnight on cable? lol Haha. No, was it on? That movie's so hilarious, too bad I missed it. I remember watching in the theater and I couldn't stop laughing. The only movie that's as funny is "The 40 Year Old Virgin."
vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Haha. No, was it on? That movie's so hilarious, too bad I missed it. I remember watching in the theater and I couldn't stop laughing. The only movie that's as funny is "The 40 Year Old Virgin." Yah it was on FX lastnight lol and yes it is pretty funny I have it on dvd. But I haven't seen "the 40 year old virgin" yet maybe I'll go rent it today lol.
Author maxima888 Posted May 11, 2006 Author Posted May 11, 2006 aw man I wanted to see 40yr old virgin...if its that funny I should deff rent it or something... haha thx for the song MD... Yea, she didn't call last night so I assume again she is tired but I did text her good morning today but no text back... aw it sucks but hey...whatevers, you know..life moves on... Do you guys think I contact her way too often? Making myself seem needy?
vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 aw man I wanted to see 40yr old virgin...if its that funny I should deff rent it or something... haha thx for the song MD... Yea, she didn't call last night so I assume again she is tired but I did text her good morning today but no text back... aw it sucks but hey...whatevers, you know..life moves on... Do you guys think I contact her way too often? Making myself seem needy? Maybe we'll see each other at blockbuster, lol jk Well I would suggest not calling her for awhile, although it might be hard, if you don't contact her as often she'll start to think you're not interested anymore. Which it's a good test because that way you will kinda know if she likes you are not. Eventually she'll come around and start calling you more often if you lay low. Sorta like playing hard to get ya know? I don't know if it's good advice but I've been on either sides of the situation and it always seems to work for me. And you're right you don't want to come across as needy because that might turn her away. So just keep your mind busy with something else for awhile, like rent that movie
MadDog Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Yeah just stop texting/calling her altogether. If she's into you, she'll eventually get back to you. No call or text from my girl yesterday all day either. I'm not going to do anything until she contacts me. If she never does, that would be quite foolish of her.
Author maxima888 Posted May 11, 2006 Author Posted May 11, 2006 babe25, yea imma deff try what you said... Imma lay low for awhile and see what happens... yea its pretty hard sometime trying to resist myself from picking up the phone and just either text or call her.... MD, hahah keep it man! Your doing better then I am lol... I couldn't resist and texted her this morning... Dating is so complicated haha
vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 babe25, yea imma deff try what you said... Imma lay low for awhile and see what happens... yea its pretty hard sometime trying to resist myself from picking up the phone and just either text or call her.... MD, hahah keep it man! Your doing better then I am lol... I couldn't resist and texted her this morning... Dating is so complicated haha Yah because it might make her think that you're seeing someone else in the meantime, and if she likes you she'll come running! so just kinda play her game back ya know? dating is complicated though and it seems to be all a big game which is unfortunate but that's usually what happens.
MadDog Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 She called me up a little past noon today and sounded really tired. She had just woken up because she had been busy until really early in the morning. I've concluded she's into me but is just really busy. Would a girl call up a guy right when she wakes up if she's not interested in him? I don't think so.
vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 She called me up a little past noon today and sounded really tired. She had just woken up because she had been busy until really early in the morning. I've concluded she's into me but is just really busy. Would a girl call up a guy right when she wakes up if she's not interested in him? I don't think so. You've got a point
Author maxima888 Posted May 11, 2006 Author Posted May 11, 2006 ahh... she called me just before but I missed it... I called back and left a voicemail but she never called back... I don't get this girl..
MadDog Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 ahh... she called me just before but I missed it... I called back and left a voicemail but she never called back... I don't get this girl.. Play your position like a shortstop brother. A shortstop. . .
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