Distracted Posted May 10, 2006 Posted May 10, 2006 So long story short- I broke up with ex BF about 6 months ago. I've been doing NC to the fullest extent that I can (no e-mails, texts, phone calls, stalking, etc.) but because we share several friends and live in the same neighborhood I do run into him on occasion. When that happens I ignore him. He hasn't tried to contact me either until a few weeks ago. I ran into him out one night, he was intoxicated, and he grabs my hand and starts going on and on about how amazing I am, what an awful boyfriend to me he was... etc. I agreed with him and walked away. Anyhow last weekend, I went camping with a group of friends. He was not suppose to be attending the trip, but he showed up. it was very ackward and uncomfortable- we were pretty much on display all the time, but we were civil- there was some actual conversation and I didn't do or say anything I regret. HOWEVER, Monday night, I had three glasses of wine, and at 11pm I decided, despite near perfect NC, that I should call him and seek his advice about a career issue I'm having! What an idiot- thankfully he didn't pick up, but now it looks like I was trying to hit on him, which is the last thing I want. So my question is... should I let this go or try and talk to him and explain myself? If I try to explain myself does that make me look worse? Honestly I know I shouldn't care, but my pride is important to me and I feel like in this I've done it some serious damage.
GB111 Posted May 10, 2006 Posted May 10, 2006 I don't believe you've done any damage. If you try to contact him AGAIN, then it looks like you really are trying to speak with him. My ex called me the other night, left no message, and didn't call again. I'm assuming it was either to yell at me, or she accidently pressed the "send" button. He's probably pretty close to what I'm thinking. Best, GB
Numbheart Posted May 10, 2006 Posted May 10, 2006 Yup, forget about it. Even asking if you should try and get in touch to explain the situation is almost looking like you want to get in touch with him, althought I understand where you are coming from.
riobikini Posted May 10, 2006 Posted May 10, 2006 re: " So my question is... should I let this go or try and talk to him and explain myself? " Don't stir in it. And you *know* what I'm talking about. -Rio
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