STLguy Posted May 10, 2006 Posted May 10, 2006 My GF and I have been dating for 5 months, girl is 20, I'm 21, girl is amazing but has little freakouts that are seriously starting to annoy me. She's both extremely independant and motivated on her schoolwork, which is great, but it's almost excessive. Almost everytime she has a test roll around she absolutely freaks out about it. She gets extremely moody and snappy and is difficult to be around. When the tests are over she's great again. Well it's the last week of school and this last weekend she was freaking out about finals, like usual before tests. I borrowed her car today to go to some meetings I had because mine is in the shop and I got a call from her saying she was ready to take a study break. I ask if she wants to come over here and she agrees to so I go pick her up. She's snappy as soon as she gets in the car and promptly starts to study as soon as we walk into my room. I sit in bed next to her and she ends up lying down on me and continues to study. She studies for about an hour then says she's going to leave and go back to her books at home. I ask her to stay another 15 minutes and she agrees to. We get in a conversation about the next two nights (whcih are the last nights we have together). She says she's going out with one of her friends tomorrow night and going to another friends house on Thursday for the graduation party they are having, but that she'd come over around 9ish Thursday night, but that she wasn't spending the night because she had to work early. During the weekend when we discussed it she said she was going to spend both nights with me. I ask her about coming over after her friends thing tomorrow and she says she has to work early. I really don't want to seem needy, I want her to go to her friends things, but seriously, it's the last two nights we have together, I'd think she'd want to be with me. So I say to her "I am your boyfriend, I'd think you'd want to spend time with me." She kind of laughs at this and says something along the lines of "did you just play that card." Eventually she agrees to come over tomorrow night and spend the night Thursday. During the 15 minutes she spent before she left she did kiss me and pull me close and all. I really just don't know how to read her. If this was something she just started doing I"d definately be worried, but it isn't, she's always like this when she gets stressed. What's the best way to handle this? What's the best way to get across to her I want to spend more time with her without seeming needy? Did I do the right thing by "playing that card?" I really don't think something is wrong in the relationship. Just 3 weeks ago she gave up her virginity to me. I don't think that's something she'd do if she thought the relationship wasn't going to go somewhere. I'm just confused. I was really looking forward to spending both wednesday and Thursday together because I'm not going to be able to see her much during the summer.
Guest Posted May 10, 2006 Posted May 10, 2006 I guess no one is replying because this is kind of long, so let me just ask a shorter question. If your boyfriend said to you "you're my girlfriend, you should want to spend time with me." What would you think?
Philipek Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 School's stressfull, but it won't last forever. She obviously loves you, and you say yourself that everything's ok. So stop worrying too much about it.
MadDog Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 Philip's right. You already knew she has a tendency to freak out about tests. You let her know that you'd like to see her and she was nice about it. Why would you be mad about that? It sounds like she cares about you but she, very similiar to another post I just responded to, prioritizes your relationship lower than you do. Or put another way, she prioritizes school and friends higher than you do when compared to your relationship. This doesn't mean she doesn't care since some people like balance in their lives and don't want to make their lives all about their relationship. I personally think it's healthy to have a balance between relationship, career/school, and friends.
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