KittenMoon Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 Like a lot of people, right now I feel like I am never going to be over him. He was my first love, and it really felt true, and it was for quite a while. I'm trying to reconcile that'll we're going to be apart, we'll never live together or buy that nice old house and fix it up together. That we'll never lie in bed together with the cat snuggled between us, and I'll never get to be an old woman with him. Please share stories about past loves you thought you'd never get over, those people you thought you would spend your lives with- how it was getting over them and how long it took. How you managed to move onto the next person in your life. I know these feelings don't last forever, I just want to hear reassurance about actually getting over them. P.S: I know people have talked about thes in other threads, I'd just like to see them in one place for inspiration
laRubiaBonita Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 what i think of, is 1. he has commitment issues, so he had fears about buying a home, getting married, getting a freaking cat that would be able to snuggle up with us, having kids......... allll these things I WANT.... and i have put my wants behind his for the last 3.5 years and i am doing being selfless. things happen as they do for a good reason.
laRubiaBonita Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 i have dreamt about the ex ever since i broke it off two weeks ago. i have taken him back, used him for sex, asked him what his deal is, told him i do not want him back, etc.... all in my dreams, i think this has been very theraputic for me. he was my first love and i did think he was the one for a while. i also know he had to repaint the interior of his house, every room.
alphamale Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 with the cat snuggled between us, you shouldn't let the cat on top of the bed, KM.
Numbheart Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 Like a lot of people, right now I feel like I am never going to be over him. He was my first love, and it really felt true, You will get over him, no doubt about it. First love break ups are always really hard to deal with, but really need to be gone through as a marker or comparrison. You've never known any better at this point, you have no comparrisons. Your next one may well be worse, however, it could well be a million times better (mine was ), you will never know until you experience it, that in itself, should be all the focus you need to let go and move on. Dont be hung up on your first love, just remember it.
Author KittenMoon Posted May 9, 2006 Author Posted May 9, 2006 You will get over him, no doubt about it. First love break ups are always really hard to deal with, but really need to be gone through as a marker or comparrison. You've never known any better at this point, you have no comparrisons. Your next one may well be worse, however, it could well be a million times better (mine was ), you will never know until you experience it, that in itself, should be all the focus you need to let go and move on. Dont be hung up on your first love, just remember it. Thanks, but I was really looking for stories and other's specific experiences. I just wanna hear about it. you shouldn't let the cat on top of the bed, KM. My cat sleeps wherever he wants, which usually means snuggled up to me on my bed. At least one male in my life still loves me.
Big_A Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 4 years ago I felt almost exactly the way I do now. I recently read a journal I kept while traveling, immediately after the break-up. I wrote so many of the things I feel now. One quote from the journal that I repeated about my most recent ex... "I am going to marry her or die trying." It took me about 6 months before the thoughts of her didn't hurt to much. It took about a year before I realized it had been a couple days since I last thought about her. Then I met someone else and she dissolved into an occasional after thought. I think it is good for me to remember this, there are lessons from my past that are so valuable today.
Numbheart Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 I know these feelings don't last forever, I just want to hear reassurance about actually getting over them. Thanks, but I was really looking for stories and other's specific experiences. I just wanna hear about it. I obviously got the wrong end of the stick!
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