stillafool Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 I am ashamed to say but I am a 50 yr. old mw who is on the brink of having an affair with my exboyfriend who is now a 54 yr.old mm with kids. I thought when people got our age they knew better. I know a lot of people now have EMA with younger people. Both men and women seek younger for affairs. I know when I was a single woman I dated younger men all the time. How many of you are older having affairs with older people and didn't you think you'd know and do better by now?
StoneyHeart Posted May 10, 2006 Posted May 10, 2006 Well, I'm not older yet (at least not ready to admit so at 31), but I'm older than the 1st time that ended badly and started "friendship" up again anyway.........sometimes I have no idea why we don't live and learn so I feel what you are talking about *****I SHOULD KNOW BETTER*****. I think age is irrelevant, this forum is full of those that are smart enough to know better until something clicks and we feel alive, unfortunately with wrong person. I believe the pain of it all is just as low as the high though and I want to (not sure I do) believe a real relationship is out there that will feel as good as these fantasy relationships.....only time will tell.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted May 10, 2006 Posted May 10, 2006 An affair represents youth and excitement. All of us want that... not just the young people. I guess as long we still have feelings, we are going to fall in love - sometimes even with the 'wrong' people. The trick is falling out of love. That is tough. As your story proves, it doesn't go away! Hang in there. Do the right thing, and you will be happier for it. Know in your heart that you are a good person because you make tough choices.
Jessie61 Posted May 10, 2006 Posted May 10, 2006 At 37 and my MM turning 42 soon, are we old enough to know better? Yes, of course, but age does not come into it. Love can hit you at any stage in your life. I recently read about a couple, she was 88 and he was 95. They had been going steady at the nursing home for 6 years, and now they had decided to marry! There was a picture of the happy couple kissing in the newspaper... So, you're never safe!!!!!
movinon05 Posted May 10, 2006 Posted May 10, 2006 Well I look at it this way. I'm 46 and wasted 7 years of my life, had much heartache and drama that I would never want to go through again. What has this taught me? I'm only here on this earth for as long as I'm here, and all I have to do is remember what I've gone through to know that I want better for myself while I'm here. If I should choose to get myself involved with something like this again, I can only imagine I'll be kicking myself in the future and belittling myself for having done the same stupid thing again. I'm of the mindset now that I want to enjoy life. And so I look to surround myself with positive things and people to keep my mind focused.
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