Shamrocked Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 Usually, I am the one to give out dating advice, but I'm a little stumped as to how to proceed. I went out on a date on Saturday night - it was one of those "first date" things and it went wonderfully. We spent about 6 hours together, amazing eye contact, we had a good rapport, etc. As we were walking, he would nudge me in a playful/teasing way and he seemed to find excuses to touch me a lot. (And by 'touching,' I'm not implying anything gratuitous or inappropriate.) At the end of the night, he got a bit nervous and asked me if we could go out again - I, of course, said yes. He then gave me a hug, we continued to talk, he got a bit braver and gave me a kiss on the lips, we hugged again and then we made out for several minutes. The date ended very nicely and there was an absolute ton of sexual attraction/tension to make the night a lively one for us. I'm not going to lie; I'm really into this gentleman, but I'll be the first to admit that I need some clarity. I've read that "He's Just Not Into You" book and I have read through these forums - all of this combined with my good sense tells me that I absolutely need to wait around for him to call me. However, some of my girlfriends have told me that I should send him a quick email thanking him for the date and telling him that I am looking forward to our next date. I came out of a LTR a few months back and I'm kind of feeling like a fish out of water in this whole dating-thing. In my opinion, the email could be construed as desperation or as pursuing. However, I'd like to hear other thoughts on this. -S-
My_Other_I Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 What's wrong with sending a quick email? It's not like you are going to be begging him to see him ASAP. If he is into playing games then I suppose he will view it as desperate. If he is into you and is mature, he will see it as a nice gesture. Just my 2cents
gfto Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 Nothing wrong with sending the e-mail. Sounds like he's into you. If so, he'll call within four or five days, regardless of whether you send the e-mail.
Author Shamrocked Posted May 9, 2006 Author Posted May 9, 2006 Thank you gfto and My_Other_I for your replies/advice - it is much appreciated. -S-
Star Gazer Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 I agree - if he's a punk who likes to play games, he might think the email isn't a good approach. If he's a good guy, he'll appreciate it. I send an email or a text the day after most first dates to thank them, even if I didn't enjoy myself. It's called manners.
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