luvtoto Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 I don't get it. Recently, I joined an online dating site. I've had a couple guys that showed interest in me. I mean, I liked their profile, they liked mine. He clicks, I click, we click = we are both interested in each other. They hot list me. But, when it comes time get to know each other, I send off a brief email. A couple, 2 brief sentences..................and then nothing. Crickets. It's very annoying.
Art_Critic Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 You might change your pic.. if you're using the one in your avatar then they will think you're a dog Online dating is a game of numbers.. the more tries = more successes Damn.. you changed it to a cartoon ...
Author luvtoto Posted May 9, 2006 Author Posted May 9, 2006 You might change your pic.. if you're using the one in your avatar then they will think you're a dog See...I take people's advice on LS! Maybe I'll get some hot guy with this pic.
Lonestar Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 I don't get it. Recently, I joined an online dating site. I've had a couple guys that showed interest in me. I mean, I liked their profile, they liked mine. He clicks, I click, we click = we are both interested in each other. They hot list me. But, when it comes time get to know each other, I send off a brief email. A couple, 2 brief sentences..................and then nothing. Crickets. It's very annoying. Just cause someone views your profile doesn't mean they're interested. I look at some fugly profiles, sometimes just for fun, or maybe because they looked at mine and I want to see who's checking me out. Keep trying. Eventually you'll hit someone who will answer your email.
Author luvtoto Posted May 9, 2006 Author Posted May 9, 2006 Just cause someone views your profile doesn't mean they're interested. I look at some fugly profiles, sometimes just for fun, or maybe because they looked at mine and I want to see who's checking me out. Keep trying. Eventually you'll hit someone who will answer your email. Oh no..they aren't just lookin'. They want me! I got the secret email that they're secretly interested in me. Shhhh...it's a secret.
Author luvtoto Posted May 9, 2006 Author Posted May 9, 2006 See...even on LS, a couple posts then nothing. [crickets] The guy I that is IMing me right now has been a member ever since the last time I was on, which was over a year ago. Hmmm...kinda seems like a red flag to me. Why would he be a member for two years straight? Who knows.
blue16 Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 See...even on LS, a couple posts then nothing. [crickets] The guy I that is IMing me right now has been a member ever since the last time I was on, which was over a year ago. Hmmm...kinda seems like a red flag to me. Why would he be a member for two years straight? Who knows. Maybe because he is getting so much action from online dating so he keeps using the site for that purpose.
BeFree Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 I online dated once. Hated it. Went on a ton of dates and never really clicked with anyone in person that i did online. In the end, you should meet someone the good old fashion way, imo. That way you know if there is spark right away.
Author luvtoto Posted May 9, 2006 Author Posted May 9, 2006 Hey, there mr. heartbreaker! Maybe because he is getting so much action from online dating so he keeps using the site for that purpose. That's kind of what I was thinking. He's 12 years younger than me, too. It doesn't hurt to make a friend, I guess.
Author luvtoto Posted May 9, 2006 Author Posted May 9, 2006 I online dated once. Hated it. Went on a ton of dates and never really clicked with anyone in person that i did online. I know what you are talking about, BeFree. I really liked this one guy that I chatted with online last year. But when I met him, he looked 10 yrs older than his pic. I felt like shutting the door on him for wrongly protraying himself. But, nice little me went for a drink with him. It was very awkward and never want to have a date like that again! Now, I have to have a recent photo!!
Author luvtoto Posted May 9, 2006 Author Posted May 9, 2006 Just curious, what dating sites does everyone use? www. datemypet . com JK!
mini696 Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 Why would he be a member for two years straight? Who knows. I made a profile up on one of these sites a LONG time ago, and a year or two back I went back onto the dating site and there was my old profile... I get the same thing as you... A few good emails... Then nothing.
Author luvtoto Posted May 9, 2006 Author Posted May 9, 2006 I get the same thing as you... A few good emails... Then nothing. Well, at least I know I am not the only who has experienced this. Online dating can make a person very cynical. Even though, logic tells me the reasons they do not email back have nothing to do with me...it still feels that way sometimes. Guess you have to have pretty thick skin to participate.
littlepiggy1 Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 The thing to remember is that most people on there are probably messaging at least several other people at one time, if not more. I wouldn't get discouraged after a mere couple of guys not emailing you. Non-responses are something you just get used to. That said, myself and others have had relatively good experiences. I had a friend that did it for about a year. Dated probably a dozen girls during that time. A couple were psychos, but he ended up meeting his current fiance. As for myself, I tried it a couple years ago initially. Went on one date and wound up in a 20 month relationship (which ended a couple months ago). I hopped on again recently and have been on a couple dates, but I have realized it's way too soon for to get back in the dating game.
dgiirl Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 I agree with littlepiggy. I get so many emails, it's hard to keep up. Then I get none. I guess everyone in my area emailed me already lol But also, those one liners could be difficult to start a conversation with too. You need to make sure you're asking THEM enough questions for them to respond with. If you are just answering their questions, they have nothing to go on to reply with. So yah, you talked about what you like to do and what books you read, then where does it go? It's like talking about the weather. It's going to kill the conversation real quick
Author luvtoto Posted May 9, 2006 Author Posted May 9, 2006 I agree with littlepiggy. I get so many emails, it's hard to keep up. Then I get none. I guess everyone in my area emailed me already lol But also, those one liners could be difficult to start a conversation with too. You need to make sure you're asking THEM enough questions for them to respond with. If you are just answering their questions, they have nothing to go on to reply with. So yah, you talked about what you like to do and what books you read, then where does it go? It's like talking about the weather. It's going to kill the conversation real quick When I email guys, I like to joke around...but, none of these guys seem to have a sense of humor...AT ALL! If you joke around, I'm assuming that they are assuming I am crazy or unstable. Everybodies just so damn serious and no fun. Like, "Hello. How are you this nice evening? I sure do like your smile in your photo." Bland as hell!! So, whenever I spice my replies up a bit...be clever or unique...I never get replies. If I keep it boring...I get noticed. Ugh. I feel like I can't be myself.
Pyro Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 When I email guys, I like to joke around...but, none of these guys seem to have a sense of humor...AT ALL! If you joke around, I'm assuming that they are assuming I am crazy or unstable. Everybodies just so damn serious and no fun. Like, "Hello. How are you this nice evening? I sure do like your smile in your photo." Bland as hell!! So, whenever I spice my replies up a bit...be clever or unique...I never get replies. If I keep it boring...I get noticed. Ugh. I feel like I can't be myself. I don't mean to be a downer but are you aware that they do have people who work for the website and they sometimes wink or start up a conversation with members like yourself just to keep their interest on the website, so that you will continue to be a member and continue to pay that fee. I am not saying anything negative about you, its just a possibility.
alphamale Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 It's very annoying. on line dating is a total waste of time...forget it.
Author luvtoto Posted May 9, 2006 Author Posted May 9, 2006 I don't mean to be a downer but are you aware that they do have people who work for the website and they sometimes wink or start up a conversation with members like yourself just to keep their interest on the website, so that you will continue to be a member and continue to pay that fee. I am not saying anything negative about you, its just a possibility. on line dating is a total waste of time...forget it. You two may be on to something. The guys on these sites, just seem like they are from another planet. No one seems like they have any warmth or have a real personality. It's all very strange. You are right, Riddler...the first email I received before I joined was from a guy my age, he was very successful and had an awesome body! He wrote me. I joined (not just 'cause of him) Then, he finally wrote me back last night, 2 weeks later. What the hell? Just weird and unexplainable.
Pyro Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 You two may be on to something. The guys on these sites, just seem like they are from another planet. No one seems like they have any warmth or have a real personality. It's all very strange. You are right, Riddler...the first email I received before I joined was from a guy my age, he was very successful and had an awesome body! He wrote me. I joined (not just 'cause of him) Then, he finally wrote me back last night, 2 weeks later. What the hell? Just weird and unexplainable. Like I said on another thread, it doesn't hurt to try online dating, but if you feel like that you are not getting anywhere, then drop it. Personally, i love the excitement of meeting people in real life.
littlepiggy1 Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 But also, those one liners could be difficult to start a conversation with too. You need to make sure you're asking THEM enough questions for them to respond with. If you are just answering their questions, they have nothing to go on to reply with. So yah, you talked about what you like to do and what books you read, then where does it go? It's like talking about the weather. It's going to kill the conversation real quick I've had the same experience. I always try to find a couple things in a person's profile and ask questions about that. Sometimes I just get very stilted replies. To me, that's a sign of non-interest and I move on.
littlepiggy1 Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 When I email guys, I like to joke around...but, none of these guys seem to have a sense of humor...AT ALL! If you joke around, I'm assuming that they are assuming I am crazy or unstable. Everybodies just so damn serious and no fun. Like, "Hello. How are you this nice evening? I sure do like your smile in your photo." Bland as hell!! So, whenever I spice my replies up a bit...be clever or unique...I never get replies. If I keep it boring...I get noticed. Ugh. I feel like I can't be myself. Eh, I found there's a fine line when it comes to joking around 'n stuff. If you're too straight up, it's bland. If you're too funny or goofy, it comes across as a bit crazy. You have to strike that balance which is difficult. And it's made even harder by the fact that it's text only. So there's no critical non-verbal messages to add context to the text. And yeah, a lot of people are extremely generic. I can't count how many profiles have the usual "I like to have fun and I'm looking to meet new people..." type message. Duh! That's what we are all there for! I'm almost tempted to write an anti-profile with the exact opposite of all the boring cliches... I'm sure it would get some interesting responses.
littlepiggy1 Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 on line dating is a total waste of time...forget it. Eh. Myself and others I know have had success with it. There are a lot of nice people online, it's just a matter of finding the right ones.
Author luvtoto Posted May 9, 2006 Author Posted May 9, 2006 Like I said on another thread, it doesn't hurt to try online dating, but if you feel like that you are not getting anywhere, then drop it. Personally, i love the excitement of meeting people in real life. Well, then how do you get the conversation going then? Got any secrets?
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