vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 I have a lil dilemma going on that involves dating guys. The thing is I have alot of guy friends maybe even more guy friends than girl friends, but that's just because I get along better with guys I think because some girls can be catty to me or just too much drama. Well anyway, most of the guys I'm friends with have told me that they like me more than just a friend. This one guy I've been seeing for 9 months, pretty much just as friends with benefits kinda thing, I would say he's the hottest of all of them, but he's really cocky, so I honestly can say that I can let go of him. Then there is these 2 guys that used to be friends, not really anymore but I talk with both of them. The difference of them is that 1 guy is the bad boy, popular type, very good looking, which of course is I like because I like the thrill of a bad boy, but even though we both kinda like each other, and we've had sex, we never really talk about being gf/bf and for some reason I'm kinda scared to ask. The other guy is a good boy type whereas he's a genuinely nice guy, has good intentions, good looking, and he just told me that he wants me to be his gf. The thing is I keep putting him on the back burner so to say because I've been kinda holding out for the 2 bad boys to come through. Another guy has tried to call me a few times but I never answer the phone because I just met him and I really don't know him. Then last but not least, I have a friend that I've known for awhile, although now he lives in another state, and I've liked him for a long time, he's also a good guy and really good looking, 2nd to the hottest guy actually. I'm not trying to sound shallow but to me looks are somewhat important and attitude/personality. The guy that lives out of town is visiting some friends that live here and wants me to hang out with him too, because he told me that he's liked me ever since I was with my ex which was a year ago. But like I said the other "good guy" just asked me to be his gf, but I don't want to keep holding him off if me and the out of town guy don't hit it off. So what should I do?!!? And plus I don't want to lose the bad boys either because I love hanging out with them because we have alot of fun. I hope this wasn't confusing, but as you can see I'm confused with the whole situation. I'm just stressing out about it though lately and I don't know what to do, because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings and lose friendships
Cecelius Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 I'm not sure exactly how to help since it seems like your problem is just that you are very popular. However, I believe this post will stand as a good guide for all the dudes reading out there about why to avoid dating girls with lots of male friends...
gemmab2020 Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 If you aren't totally sure about the good guy that wants you as his girlfriend, then don't go exclusive!!! That's not fair on him or you. You will only end up miserable if he's not what you want. The bad boys however, will they treat you properly though???
TheSwordfish Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 In a situation where in you can't choose, its best to find another guy oustside of this network of yours. I once (three months ago) had choices in spades, concentrated on one girl I liked the most and blew it. By doing that others lost interest as well. From my experience, you have many choices at one point and suddelnly you have nothing.
Author vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 9, 2006 Author Posted May 9, 2006 cecelius- yah you're right about this post being a good guide for guys because usually if a guy wants to get exclusive with a girl, the guy wants the girl to drop most of her guy friend contact, and that's hard for a girl like me to do. So I think it's easier on both ends if the girl doesn't have alot of guy friends to begin with. gemmab2020- that's where I'm stuck because for once I think I need a good guy in my life, because for one, it would be a healthier relationship and you're right I would be treated properly as opposed to being with a bad boy. I definitely don't want to hurt anyone's feelings especially the good guy, and all I think I can do at this point is to be honest with him. Although I've tried to be honest with him before, even when he's seen me with other guys and he still sticks around, so I kinda don't understand that. theswordfish- it probably would be the best thing to look for a guy outside the loop. and like you said I don't want to focus on just one guy right now because I don't the others losing interest in me and then end up never talking to me again. so I'll have to figure out something or figure out what's really important to me I guess. One more question: Like I said in my last post, I have mostly guy friends and a few very close girl friends. The reason why that is, is because most of the time girls try to start drama with me or I get a bad vibe from them, like they judge me from the outside and avoid getting to actually know me on the inside. Thats why I say I have close girl friends because they know me better. So I don't understand why that is, but sometimes I even get mean looks! And that's why I have more guy friends because I get along with them better and they don't cause drama. But like I said I don't understand and one girl even called me a brunette paris hilton! yah I do like fashion and dress nice/girly so I don't know if they think I'm a snob but I'm really not on the inside!
TheSwordfish Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 But Girl friends want you as a friend, and guy friends probably want to see you naked....... Well, I don't really beleive in friends of the opposite sex unless the girl is married or not my type at all. If one person wnats more, there is no real friendship there.
Author vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 9, 2006 Author Posted May 9, 2006 But Girl friends want you as a friend, and guy friends probably want to see you naked....... Well, I don't really beleive in friends of the opposite sex unless the girl is married or not my type at all. If one person wnats more, there is no real friendship there. I understand about the girl part, but like I said sometimes girls think I'm a snob or something and won't even be my friend, and that's why I just have my close girl friends because they are like me and I guess aren't intimidated or something. You're right some guys I'm friends with seem to only want one thing...like you said but I'm a fun girl too. So I guess it's a shock to me that a decent guy is actually interested in more than just the outside. And maybe I should give him a chance huh?
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