NRyda81 Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 How's everyone doing? This is my first post on Loveshack by the way My question is this: Do you feel as if there are some places in which you would not feel right taking your S/O? For instance, my g/f wants to go to a nightclub with here. I personally do NOT like idea of going to the club with her. I'm sorry but I am totally against that idea. Pushing drunk idiots off of her all night(and potentially ending up getting into a fight) is NOT my idea of fun. And I discussed her this, but she says she wants to have fun and just dance with me. SHe doesn't have anything crazy to worry about in that setting. But I do. My issue is that, I am getting older, about to graduate,get into my future career. I don't need nor have the time to be getting caught up into foolishness like that. It's not just that, but there other places I just don't feel putting with idiots. But back to the whole club issue, Would you take her there or not? Ladies, what's your take on this?
gfto Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 Welcome to Loveshack. Lighten up. Take her to the club. Dance with her. Have fun. "Pushing drunk idiots off of her" shouldn't be a problem as long as you take her to a relatively classy club.
Dagny Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 Yeah I agree. the drunken oafs won't come if you're with her anyway. Go dance and have fun, a girl deserves a good time. Grad students go have fun too ya know
Author NRyda81 Posted May 8, 2006 Author Posted May 8, 2006 The thing is that I've heard some horror stories about people who taken their girls to clubs. My reaction was always that is no way I will let that happen to me. LOL I mean people have no respect, people will try something even with you around your S/O. Of course there's idiots anywhere but the potential of foolishness is 3x's greater at the club.
Dagny Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 I've heard horror stories about travelling Does'nt stop me from backpacking though There are downsides and upsides to everything. The upsides are having fun, drinking and having a good time. I agree with going to a slightly more upscale club which your girlfriend would probably be more into anyway because she gets to dress up. I've clubbed many times as a lone single girl with friends and never had any trouble.
crazy_grl Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 I've never seen anybody get into fights over a girl at a club. Maybe I'm just not hot enough for guys to fight over, but I know my friends are, and there's been no fighting over them. A few guys have not gotten the idea that their advances were unwanted, but it's always been dealt with without a fight. I don't think you have anything to worry about. Take your girl to the club.
mark1210 Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 I too have been to many clubs, never seen one fight related to a guy overstepping bounds on a taken woman. Of course, I have had my girl hit on before but I take it as a compliment and didn't worry about it. I did have one bad experience but it was not related to me. A girl I was dating got drunk disappeared into the bathroom and well who knows what all happened. Needless to say the date ended there. As long as you can trust your woman you shouldn't have anything to worry about. It used to bother me and I'm a fairly secure person but I eventually got over it. If a girl is going to do something she will do it with or without you present. You just have to trust her and her judgement to do the right thing if the situation presents itself.
sweetie7 Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 If I were you, I would definitely take her. You're lucky she wants you to take her and doesn't want to go alone! But if you don't take her, she might end up going alone. I think she probably just wants to go out and dance with you and have a good time. And there's nothing wrong with that! And if other guys are looking at her, etc. who cares?? She's with you!!
catgirl1927 Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 You're being silly. Life is not a movie. And your girlfriend isn't a sandwich. I doubt you're going to have problems like the ones you describe. Jinkies.
Guest Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 You're being silly. Life is not a movie. And your girlfriend isn't a sandwich. I doubt you're going to have problems like the ones you describe. Jinkies. My g/f isn't a sandwich? I'm sorry I don't understand what you meant by this comment. Could you please explain? That's a new one.
starlet Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 You should take her. She wants to go, and more importantly she wants to go WITH YOU. She could just go without you, you know, and there's way more chance of drunk guys hitting on her if she's there alone. She just wants to go and have some fun and dance, and she wants to do all of that *with you*. So where is the problem??
Walk Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 I used to go dancing sometimes with my ex. Thinking it'd be fun to go out together and get drunk and dance with him. A few times it ended up with me just getting really pissed at him... and a few times that he got upset with me. And overall it wasn't all I had hoped it'd be. I think if you're hesitant on going, then it'd be better if you didn't. Unless you go with the attitude of "I am going to have fun no matter what!", then you're probably going to hate it, ruin her night, and end up bickering by the end of it. So if you feel that you can't have fun, don't go. There's nothing I hate more then taking an SO somewhere and having him destroy any chance at having a good time because he went into it with a bad attitude. Just stay home if you're going to be like that. Let her go alone and have fun without you making it miserable for her. You won't do her any favors by just being a body, your spirit has to be there too.
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