teacher Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 My ex of 3 months emailed me telling me that he wants to get back together and thinks about me all the time... now that he has been away from me, he says he knows that he was just scared and freaked out by the commitment but knows that we are meant to be... he was very selfish right after the break up and kept me hanging on a string for a few weeks... Also, he is dating someone right now... I still love him, and would give it another chance, but how could it ever work? Obviously, he would have to get rid of this girl, but could I ever trust him again? I am so torn and confused right now. He is suppossed to call me tonight, but I don't even know if I am making a mistake by giving him that opportunity! Am I crazy? I just feel like I need to hear him out... Please help!
destination_unknown Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 Do you know if he is still actually dating her? If he is still dating her then i wouldnt talk to him until he is a free agent. If he isnt dating her anymore then that is a different story. If you do talk to him, try to keep calm as possible which is hard if you have been catapulted into confusion. Do what your heart tells you, if you feel doubts then dont take him back. I got back together with my ex as we both hadnt got over each other after two years apart. However, it didnt work and i have been left pretty much screwed. I do however, think I am getting closure which i may never have had if we hadnt tried again. But im not sure i would go through that pain again. Be cautious. Definitely dont take him back straight away. He needs to be making serious romantic gestures to show how he feels. Good luck tonight, let us know how it goes. Stay strong, make a list of things that you will and will not accept. (Not so much for discussion with him but for yourself).
Author teacher Posted May 8, 2006 Author Posted May 8, 2006 he is still dating her, i saw him with her in a car the other day... he claims that he didn't think I would even consider getting back with him, that he thought it was too late... what if he says he will break up with her? i feel doubts that it wouldn't work becuase how could I trust him? I know i still love him.
Guest Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 why is it ppl take back someone who dumped them? and why is it that ppl even consider it when the ex is still banging their new suga? that's not love. that's total blindness. if u take them back u deserve the effing over u end up getting.
Spitkicker Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 why is it ppl take back someone who dumped them? and why is it that ppl even consider it when the ex is still banging their new suga? that's not love. that's total blindness. if u take them back u deserve the effing over u end up getting. You know I was in the exact same position as teacher, but I know now that Guest is right. Time to stop being second hand goods... If things were real.. moves would have been made by now.... I'm not putting up with it anymore.. gone for good.
GB111 Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 Hate to say it, but I tend to agree as well. Sounds like you've actually made some pretty good progress. Not sure I'd go back on that. I begged for my ex back, and if I had done NC, probably could have gotten her back. Having said that, it probably would have bought me another month or so. Once someone decides you're not for them for ANY reason, it's unlikely they'll suddenly look past those reasons once they're comfortable again. Sorry. GB
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