sick of it Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 my ex and i hung out with this other couple. we all knew we were getting married. ... well, ive been apart from my ex for almost a year now and im not over her....however shes moved on. this other couple just got engaged the other night. im still very close to them and very happy for them. but of course it gets me a little depressed. i know my ex knows and im sure the thoughts of marriage are in her head now with the other guy. her college graduation is in a week or 2 and im so deathly afraid that shes going to get engaged. i havent spoken with her in a long time and i have no right to anything but i cant help feeling the way i feel. im so afraid that im going to get a phone call telling me this. i expect her to call...im sure she will. i dont know why though. have you ever called an ex that youve hurt to tell them that? i really dont want to love like this anymore.
KittenMoon Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 I feel your pain. I just spent the entire weekend with one married couple and another couple that's a hairsbreath from engagement, celebrating a third couple's marriage (in two weeks). This was my ex's and I's very intimate group. It's maddening, literally (if you're read my recent post). I, the girl who never wanted to get married, now cannot wait until I find the match I am as confident in as my friends are in theirs. But I'm not even at square one- I'm still trying to move on from the ex as well.
Author sick of it Posted May 8, 2006 Author Posted May 8, 2006 i did read your posts and i felt just like you. lets get a drink
Author sick of it Posted May 8, 2006 Author Posted May 8, 2006 you were ina relationship about as long as i was...your ex isnt with someone now is he? mine got very serious very quickly...im so afraid of her phone call.
KittenMoon Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 you were ina relationship about as long as i was...your ex isnt with someone now is he? mine got very serious very quickly...im so afraid of her phone call. I feel very lucky mine has not (with 97% certainty) moved on to anyone else. So there I cannot relate. But remember that it's just as easy for things to fall apart as they are to start. Yeah, we need some drinks.
Author sick of it Posted May 9, 2006 Author Posted May 9, 2006 so...have any of you called the ex to tell them youre engaged...or recieved the call?
2020vision Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 I swear to GOD, that is why I changed my number. Granted, I know that he has a crappy relationship with her. They are moving really fast and I just can't help but think that the next thing I am going to hear when I answer one of his calls is "I love you, but I am getting married" OUCH, I just dodged that one thank goodness...maybe I am just paranoid, but who knows....sorry I did not answer your last question, but thank goodness I can't (on the receiving end of course )
etherealism Posted May 10, 2006 Posted May 10, 2006 I, the girl who never wanted to get married, now cannot wait until I find the match I am as confident in as my friends are in theirs. But I'm not even at square one- I'm still trying to move on from the ex as well. I understand how kittenmoon and sickofit feels ... one of my friends (who's like 25-26) recently got engaged ... it seems that everybody is getting married or happily involved in a long-term relationship. and that somehow, I fell off the bandwagon. I believe fate smiled down upon me for once when I met my ex, and now I cannot understand why it decided to turn its head upon me once more. for the past 2 days, I spent time with my best friend and her baby. and after the breakup the times I've spent with her, her husband (one of my ex's best friends), and baby in their house - no matter how brief ... it made me long for something of my very own. today I had to shake the image of my exbf and I, and our married friends spending some downtime together in their new home. I made up some excuse so I could leave it was too overwhelming.
Author sick of it Posted May 10, 2006 Author Posted May 10, 2006 i was the one in my group of friends that was going to get married first. everyone that saw us together thought we were getting married, and when i told people we broke up, thats what i heard "i thought you two were going to marry eachother"... now im the only one without a relationship...and thats ok, but shes jumped right into one and is ready to marry him. 5.5yrs with me and i get ditched...8 months with him and she wants his kid. i remember a time when i was craved by her and she told me the life she wanted with me. thats the hardest part i think...knowing everything she ever told me, shes giving to him. its like i earned it and he gets it.
wahaha1 Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 I am glad that my ex didn't notify me about his marriage couple of months after our brokeup. However, a dumb updated me about this news, it still hurted a lot.
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