a4a Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 Ok WTF is the deal with this scenario??? (first off I am enjoying a piece of choc.cream pie so I may not be able to fully concentrate on how to express myself at this time) At H's friends last night, friend is heading out of state with other biz associates for a biz. endeavor. H's friends mentions how the property owner said he will cover all expenses including whores. After a brief discussion with my H about this and asking the H if his friend speaks like this on a normal basis to other women or men my H says no. He seems to do it around me more than ever. This is a constant around me. It is like he has to strut his penile capabilities around me. He also confessed to me alone that he cheated on his wife and if I were ever to tell he would kill me. H and he have been best friends for 30 plus years..... what is his need to tell ME these things and not my H?? I hear about knob polishing, whores, tits, ect. keep in mind I do not joke about such things like I do here on LS. I never hit on him, joke about it, or even think such things about him in my mind. I am trying to figure this out....... and since my H and I have gotten married he seems to be treating my H with less respect almost PA type behavior. The friends marriage is on the skids but he sticks to it for the kids and fear of being drained $$. I noticed it is getting worse and worse. What is your opinion on this, why would he do this (in front and behind my H's back) also out of the blue called my H an a**h*** to me on the phone for no reason. (which did not go over well with me at all). Does he have a case of the hots for me? Is he actually pissed at my H for getting married and taking it out on me? Is he envious of my H and my relationship? (there is a weird competition thing going on) This is not a huge ordeal but very curious as to why he would do such a thing.
whichwayisup Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 (first off I am enjoying a piece of choc.cream pie so I may not be able to fully concentrate on how to express myself at this time) LOL! That is funny! Look, he is testing the waters and flirting with you! He wants your ATTENTION! He also could be opening the door a crack to see how you will respond. To see if you're "into" him abit... What an idiot. Tell him to NOT discuss that kind of stuff with you as he is telling you things like that. Add in too, that he is your HUSBAND's friend and buddy, NOT yours.
catgirl1927 Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 He sounds like a moron. Your thread title is hilarious. Send me some pie, dammit!!!
Author a4a Posted May 8, 2006 Author Posted May 8, 2006 LOL! That is funny! Look, he is testing the waters and flirting with you! He wants your ATTENTION! He also could be opening the door a crack to see how you will respond. To see if you're "into" him abit... What an idiot. Tell him to NOT discuss that kind of stuff with you as he is telling you things like that. Add in too, that he is your HUSBAND's friend and buddy, NOT yours. I was kinda thinking this same thing and that is why I brought it to my H's attention today during lunch. His/ H's best fri. (lets call him L) wife hates me with a passion. I am starting to wonder if something was not said to her by L to further fan those flames.... she did not even say Hello to me last night. She is the Kitchen Chicken Hyena I have posted about. ( the one who refused to cut checks to my H and the employees) This whole thing is weird and it is unfortunate that biz is involved in all this and I cannot just tell them both to F- off! Something I never put much thought into at all but he jumped in our shower undressed in the same damn bathroom H and I were getting ready to go in. I did not peek ect.. H was standing right next to me.... we were in such a rush. It was nothing to me.... starting to put a few things together....along with that instance.... ice cubes down my back... the constant pointing out of hot woman..... talking about the knob polishing ect.... Hummmmmm???? Now do I call him out on this or just shut up and take the high road? This could make a real mess. We are all supposed to go off for a couple of day at the end of the month including a over nighter to the redneck gala of nascar ....... yikes Perhaps I am just looked at as a good buddy? But why not say these things to my H then?
Alexandra Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 Does he have a case of the hots for me? Is he actually pissed at my H for getting married and taking it out on me? Is he envious of my H and my relationship? (there is a weird competition thing going on) All of those and what WWIU mentioned, he's just a classical attention whore. Now do I call him out on this or just shut up and take the high road? Attention whores feed on attention. Of ANY kind. Even if you find a way to break it to him that you find it inappropriate and don't like it he will still do it because you gave him attention so my suggestion is to be colder, laugh less at his jokes, don't make too much eye contact just let it be clear from your attitude that he's not interesting. At first he may intensify attacks but a sustained batch of this should cure it;)
Author a4a Posted May 8, 2006 Author Posted May 8, 2006 OMG I am a retard. I think WWIU hit the nail on the head.... holy s***! He got so angry on our wedding day.... very angry even the day after. He also popped me well over a few thousand secretly for few rescue horses. Only the 3 of us know about it, I just mentioned it and the cash was in hand. He gave me a b-day kiss.... which I was shocked by..... that is something not done in our circle of friends at all. I don't even hug people unless toasted beyond conciousness I never even thought that maybe he was hitting on me????? Am I retarded or just making this up in my head?
catgirl1927 Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 I think he's jonesing for a little a4a action! I also think he's a jerk and a tool. I'm glad he donated to the horses though. That's the only think so far that I don't hate about him.
Touche Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 Nice friend to your H! Of COURSE he's flirting with you. He's SO transparent, A! I agree with whoever said, be cool around him and don't laugh at his jokes too much, don't look him in the eye, etc. He'll get the message. Or take him aside and tell him he's being innapropriate with you. I actually had to do this once with a client of mine once. And he took it well and apologized. But at first I was stupid. I thought he was just being friendly. DUH!
Author a4a Posted May 8, 2006 Author Posted May 8, 2006 I think he's jonesing for a little a4a action! I also think he's a jerk and a tool. I'm glad he donated to the horses though. That's the only think so far that I don't hate about him. He does have some good qualities about him...... otherwise I would not bother to share anytime with him. We do get along well in most cases and laugh about the same stuff. I just never thought that way about him and guess never suspected him to do so..... do guys do this often? H's other single friend went on the war path with me once he found out we got serious.. he used to fetch me beers and act all attentive.....then I went off the market and he got angry towards me as well..... is this common? The anger s***?? It is so friggin weird..... man I am confused and stuffed with choc. cream pie. I feel like such a tard if this is true...... oh man... oh s***..... s*** s*** s***. this is not cool at all. I was hoping that the relationship could be repaired between H and L..... 30 years....... and it all started going to s*** once we got engaged...... before that we were all good except the kitchen chicken wife of his.
whichwayisup Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 The best revenge? Silence. No reaction, nothing, nada, ZILCH! That way nothing ever has to be said or dealt with. It remains HIS problem, his issue! And, you have a peace of mind that you never got sucked into his little f***ed-up and twisted game of ego.
Author a4a Posted May 8, 2006 Author Posted May 8, 2006 The best revenge? Silence. No reaction, nothing, nada, ZILCH! That way nothing ever has to be said or dealt with. It remains HIS problem, his issue! And, you have a peace of mind that you never got sucked into his little f***ed-up and twisted game of ego. I don't know what to do..... he asked me a favor. Which I will do. I got a 2 days to spend with him in close quarters.... for some damn reason I feel guilty..... wtf is that about? He is not physically attractive to me at all.... so that is not it. He is a workaholic and not my type at all..... so why the guilt feeling.... sinking guilt at this newly exposed possiblity that he is hitting on me in weird PA manner.... I guess I just don't notice guys hitting on me. Unless they are blunt and try to shove a room key in my hand or something.
Alexandra Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 for some damn reason I feel guilty..... wtf is that about? He is not physically attractive to me at all.... so that is not it. He is a workaholic and not my type at all..... so why the guilt feeling.... sinking guilt at this newly exposed possiblity that he is hitting on me in weird PA manner.... Well I presume one enjoys the attention even if one dislikes the giver of attention;)
Author a4a Posted May 8, 2006 Author Posted May 8, 2006 Well I presume one enjoys the attention even if one dislikes the giver of attention;) I don't dislike the guy. That is the thing, I don't like that he was disrespectful to my H. But I don't know what transpired between them for him to say my H is an a**h*** to me. Outside of work we usually have a rip roaring good time together. A 30 yr. plus friendship is a big thing to step in the middle of. I never thought of him thinking of me that way.
catgirl1927 Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 OK, then, if you say he's ok. Perhaps this is just immature behavior from an otherwise OK guy. Some people have a tough time dealing with the "one that got away."
Mz. Pixie Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 I KNEW this was the husband of that crazy woman. Weren't you going to put some laxatives in some of her food or something?? I think it's a couple of things- He sees your H in a good relationship with a hot woman and a good marriage and he's jealous that he doesn't have it with his skank. He wants what your H has- like a competition thing because they are good friends. I've experienced this before- the best friend of a guy I dated used to hit on me all the time. He was a hottie- and I later found out he slept with another gf of this guy! I was definitely not interested because he was my guys' friend. He sees how his wife acts around your husband and it makes him jealous of your H. Now, not only does your H have a hot wife, but his wife clearly likes your H too. He's just a crass jerk.
Alexandra Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 I don't dislike the guy. That is the thing, I don't like that he was disrespectful to my H. But I don't know what transpired between them for him to say my H is an a**h*** to me. Outside of work we usually have a rip roaring good time together. A 30 yr. plus friendship is a big thing to step in the middle of. I never thought of him thinking of me that way. I didn't say you did dislike him, I said even IF you did you'd possibly still be flattered.
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