freddyboy Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 hi, my gf wanted to take a weeks break to think over our relationship. some things are great, and some things she's thinking may not work in the long term. (she says i can lack passion sometimes, but am otherwise a great boyfriend). Should i treat this as the beginning of the end, and start healing, or is there a chance this is just a break that she needs to reaccess the situation? would it be considered a second chance if we get back together even though we didn't officially break up? much thanks.
silentcharon Posted May 11, 2006 Posted May 11, 2006 hi, my gf wanted to take a weeks break to think over our relationship. some things are great, and some things she's thinking may not work in the long term. (she says i can lack passion sometimes, but am otherwise a great boyfriend). Should i treat this as the beginning of the end, and start healing, or is there a chance this is just a break that she needs to reaccess the situation? would it be considered a second chance if we get back together even though we didn't officially break up? much thanks. Techinally, it's not a break up or a second chance thing, because you're not breaking up. Taking a "break" makes it so that the relationship is put into limbo where her end decision can make or break the relationship. Your post is too vague! I would suggest that you do not contact her at all during the period of time she wants to think about it, but don't expect it to be a week's time if it lasts longer than that. If it ends up being too long, like a month or so, you should ask her what's up, because it isn't good to be in limbo for too long. She either wants you or not, right? So if it ends up being a long time, you can tell her that while you respect her decision, you don't want to wait around forever, and that you want to start healing as soon as you can if her decision ends up having to end the relationship. Because it isn't fair to let her do her thing while you're hanging on waiting for her. Best of luck.
AnnaJ Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 I always have the saying "if she doesn't know what she wants, then she doesn't want you enough". How long have you been together?
freddyboy Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 I always have the saying "if she doesn't know what she wants, then she doesn't want you enough". How long have you been together? We've been together for 10 months. I thought everything was great, except we were going through a slow time where it felt like we were starting to develop a routine. I don't know what to do.
Guest Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 hi, my gf wanted to take a weeks break to think over our relationship. some things are great, and some things she's thinking may not work in the long term. (she says i can lack passion sometimes, but am otherwise a great boyfriend). Should i treat this as the beginning of the end, and start healing, or is there a chance this is just a break that she needs to reaccess the situation? would it be considered a second chance if we get back together even though we didn't officially break up? much thanks. i think that you should forget about her and move on because to me it seems as if she wants to move on.
Carlthecoffeeaddict Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 I agree......this could be a warning sign that she is going to eventually break up with you.
lone56wolf Posted May 20, 2006 Posted May 20, 2006 Ahh ... the old "time for a break, I need some space, time out" thing. Sometimes you're lucky and they're not just giving themselves an easy out. It's been my experience that means "explore my options" and your time in her world grows short. Don't go looking yet - but better have some kleenex handy. Wish you the best.... Wolf
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