whichwayisup Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 ILYBINILWY Took me a second...But I got it. Geez, what is it with you long coded capped short forms for words?? hehe..Remember when I first joined LS, I didn't know what "TBSXWW" was?? Now I know, but back then, I was like WTF? Ha, you don't wanna know what I thought that was code for........lol
whichwayisup Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 Thanks, WWIU. I think that's what I need to do. You're welcome. I think that is the only real way you'll find out for sure what is what. So, don't be sitting around waiting for him either! Make plans with your girl friends and GO out! Just keep busy and try not to think about him too much.
summergirl Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 Translation: they dont love you or they dont love you anymore. My ex broke me up with that line. Stay away if someone tell you that kind of line taken from Tom Cruise movie. Leave him/her first because you will get hurt later, remeber there is only 1 parachute on the plane and you have to use it first.
stronggirl Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 Could it be that those who utter this statement are more likely love junkies? You know, in love with being in love --- and may not necessarily realize what true love really is about? I definitely think this is the case. Those were the exact words my boyfriend said to me, but we were IN love. At the age of 34, he had never been in a relationship for longer than 6 months, and i was no different. He is either in love with love, a love junkie, or a committment phobe. We had so much fun together, so many of the same passions, good sex, and lots of laughter. It was when it started to become more like reality and less like the honeymoon that he bailed.
reddog63 Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 To me this one is easy.....because I am living it. To me it means this...........you let unresolved conflicts go far to long in a marriage.........I guess it boils down to communication........but after so much time you look in the mirror and realize that you do not "feel" in love with spouse anymore.........that if you could you would probably walk away. It is analagous to an ax being worn down to a dull blade and one person thinking there is no way to get it sharp again. Some people will say you can, the person on that side of the fence feels like it is impossible. But then again, thats just me.
The slayer Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 "I care about you, I do have some kind of positive emotional feelings towards you, but you don't turn me on or inspire romantic feelings in me [anymore], and I want to find that with somebody else." This is such a perfect example of how to communicate something abstract and complex that most people fail to comprehend, in a consise and honest way, that is not open to interpretation or misunderstanding, that I think you should immediately become secretary general of the UN reservoirdog1 !
stronggirl Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 To me this one is easy.....because I am living it. To me it means this...........you let unresolved conflicts go far to long in a marriage.........I guess it boils down to communication........but after so much time you look in the mirror and realize that you do not "feel" in love with spouse anymore.........that if you could you would probably walk away. It is analagous to an ax being worn down to a dull blade and one person thinking there is no way to get it sharp again. Some people will say you can, the person on that side of the fence feels like it is impossible. But then again, thats just me. well, i think you are right. and then also i think different people have different thresholds. in my case, i think my ex had a lot of issues growing up with communication and intimacy, and so i think he has a very low threshold. my ex told me he "doesn't like conflict....ANY conflict" and will avoid it at all costs. that's why i think, at the age of 34, he has only been in relationships that last about 6 months..... the reality is, is there is some conflict in relationships ALWAYS, one just has to learn how to be a good communicator and not let things build up inside. i think guys have a harder time of that. but the people that are willing to work through those issues are the ones that will find, not only i believe true love, but also growth in themselves. now i know in some cases, it just will never work no matter what. i guess i am just talking of relationships that start out strong with lots of love and chemistry.
stronggirl Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 To me this one is easy.....because I am living it. To me it means this...........you let unresolved conflicts go far to long in a marriage.........I guess it boils down to communication........but after so much time you look in the mirror and realize that you do not "feel" in love with spouse anymore.........that if you could you would probably walk away. It is analagous to an ax being worn down to a dull blade and one person thinking there is no way to get it sharp again. Some people will say you can, the person on that side of the fence feels like it is impossible. But then again, thats just me. so what part are you living? what is your outlook on the situation?
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