Guest Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 I've never tried this before, so bear with me here. I'm a young man, no longer a teen, but young, and I have a problem. Over a year ago my high school sweetheart broke up with me. Now when I say over a year, I mean well over a year but enough under two not to round up. About 2 months after the breakup I started going out with a new girl and we've been together ever since. The catch is that I'm still in love with my ex and have yet to fall in love with my present girlfriend. This isn't to say that I don't like and respect her (I'd never dream of cheating on her) but I don't treat her quite as well as my previous girlfriends. We've been dating for over a year and I feel like something should have clicked by now but it hasn't. I really like my girlfriend, but I'm not sure that I could see myself marrying her and I don't want to lead her on. She's head over heels for me though and it would destroy her if I broke up with her. I just don't know what to do with myself anymore. Like I said, I've never come to one of these sites looking for advice before, but I don't know anybody who can give me a clear, objective look at this. Any advice or wisdom would be more than welcome.
AnnaJ Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 It's been a year. There is no time limit to when you fall in love with someone but if you are unsure, then the answer is pretty clear. The fact you still love your ex, but would you go back if she wanted you? Don't lead the other girl on anymore if you're not sure what you want, it will end up hurting her a lot more. Best Of Luck Anna J
blind_otter Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 The best thing to do is to wait until you're over a failed relationship before starting a new one. Don't stay with your current GF just because you don't want t omake her feel bad. She deserves to have someone love her as much as she loves them, don't you think?
Dilena Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 I have learned more about myself this past year alone than I have in the last 13 years of marriage to a man I married right out of high school in rebound to a 4 year relationship. What it boils down to is i have always been and still remain in love with my high school sweetheart. I have a good husband, but never understood my feelings. I can't tell you they will ever go away. If your current girlfriend is not aware of your feelings, maybe you should discuss them with her. I hid mine for many years thinking I was crazy, thinking it would all eventually subside and I would fall madly in love with my husband. It never happened. If you do not love her then maybe you should let go for the time being to sort your feelings out. I know it is very difficult to hurt someone, but it could very well save any future hurt. Please read my thread, I received some advice from others here that could be of some help for you to avoid any future problems. "Married, but not w/the one I Love"
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