jen_jen_heartbroken Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 Some of you already know my situation, but I'll recap. In a nutshell, my ex-boyfriend dumped me on the phone in January. It was a complete shock to me, and ever since then he's denied my requests for closure or an explanation (but that's another problem). Unfortunately, he lives right next door on the same street as I do, and it looks like that's not going to change anytime soon. It's very difficult to try and avoid seeing him -- which I do, because it's too painful -- because he lives so close. I've run into him on the street quite a few times since he dumped me, and each time I keep my head low and keep walking, not making eye contact with him. My question is, is this the right thing to do? Or should I even look at him to acknowledge his presence. Should I go so far as to wave or say "hi"? This is so awkward. I don't know what I should do.
magda Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 I don't think you should lower your head like you're ashamed, or wave like you're friends. Just look him in the eye, hold a straight face and walk on by.
Chinook Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 Hang on just a second here... this guy dumped you...? A young articulate computer literate, outgoing female...? This guy dumped someone who is out there going getting what she wanted... ? (this from another thread) and you walk out of your house hanging your head why...? You my lady should hold your head HIGH and STARE that sucker out!! I'm not kidding. Hold his gaze and let him be the one who is uncomfortable in YOUR presence.. You know why...???? YOU did nothing wrong. YOU deserve to be respected and honoured YOU do not need him to validate how you feel and who you are. REALLY. Believe me. Because it is true
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted May 8, 2006 Author Posted May 8, 2006 Awww...thanks Chinook and Magda. You're right. I didn't do anything wrong. Except love, trust and believe in someone that didn't deserve it. I'll take your advice next time. My heart might pound out of my chest, but it's what I should do.
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted May 8, 2006 Author Posted May 8, 2006 Actually, when I saw him today the f***er was washing his car. I thought in the back of my mind that he must have a date. Well, it looks like I was right, because it's late here, and he's not home. I wonder how he'll feel someday when he looks out his window and sees me glammed up with some other man picking me up or dropping me off.
Chinook Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 You know .... Jen.... this guy.... he doesn't deserve you at all Really
robot Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 Walk confidently. If you bump into each other and you have to make a gesture to him. Just say hi. If you can't look into his eyes (due to shyness etc). Just look at his nose instead, it gives the effect that you are independent and confident. I promise that if you two were face to face, he will be first to put down his head or look away.
alphamale Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 just treat him like anyone else you'd see on the street walking around. but don't avoid eye contact or put your head down. stand tall, be proud. you are J_J_HB.
jerbear Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 I was about to say put Clean me or wash me on his dusty car. Even put a big smiley face on the hood. I do have to say stand up, head up, and be yourself. Stay strong and stare him down if you have to. You mentioned glammed up, why not glam up and go hang with your friends?
Guest Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 You should move. A fresh start might do you good, plus you won't be torturing yourself watching him day after day going on with his life! A little distance and a little time would probably help you start to heal better.
Guest Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 u shouldn't act any certain way when u run into him. u should just leave him choking on your heel dust as fast as u can. who cares what he thinks while he's staring at the back of u?
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