Resentments and Past Issues Interfering with 2nd Chance

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Me and my ex reconciled a few months ago after three years together (during the 3 years we broke up 3-4 times). This was our umpteenth attempt to reconcile and after last night I totally give up.

 

While we were out to dinner I sat listening to my boyfriend go on and on about himself - it's always about him, never me. I stopped him and asked him if he knew when my birthday was. He couldn't tell me. I asked him if he knew the name of the company I work for. He had no clue. I asked him if he knew what my job title was. He was speechless.

 

Somehow this closed the chapter for me - I felt like after 3 years and all we've been thru this was exactly what I was trying to convey to him - that he's just not into me.

 

During our reconciliations all I hear is how I'm not this - or I'm not that. Last night at dinner I just got so sick of it and turned the tables on him. He couldn't answer simple questions about me and I broke up with him right then and there. I said I'd had enough and this was it - I proved my point about how all these years he never seemed interested in me, etc.

 

Still he makes it sound like it's no big deal and he can't remember anyone's birthday........ But not even knowing where I work and what I do after three years? When I asked him these questions last night and he gave me blank stares - I dunno.......everything finally died.

 

I can't keep beating a dead horse. I've given up. 2nd chances, 3rd chances - they don't work and nothing changes. I gave him way too many chances and look where it got me. I bet if I had closed my eyes and asked him what color they were he wouldn't have been able to tell me.

 

This and proved my point that as much as he claims he loves me - he knows nothing about me after 3 years of trying to make it work. That felt awful and when I said it was time to break up - he drove me home and said "Have a nice life". I said "I plan on it".

 

Did I waste all this time on someone who never cared about me to begin with? Ugh.