Confussed

[sreep5678]

I had a good relationship with my colleague for the past 1.5 years. We were close & supported each other a lot. I used to help in her work even out of way & she was to a good extent dependent on me for for her work. 6 months ago a guy(known to me. not of good reputation) became close to her.

After sometime we got into an argument & this brought a communication gap etween us. By the time the argument was resolved the guy got more close to each other & they were soon seeing each other regularly. This started to hamper our work and besides i being protective of her, made me to ask her directly to stop the relationship with the guy. THis went wrong & we had a big fight, with quite a bit of abusing from my side as she was reluctant to leave him. But from her response i came to understand that she was thinking to get more close to the guy. Any our friends intervened & we continued to have a cold professional relation for another month.

 

Due to illness of my parents, i went to their place for a month, during which all of our friends called except her. I called her up to thank for the help she had done in my absence in the office, but even then she didn't call back.

When i came back, i found that she was almost full time with the guy except at work. I thought that it was best for me to talk to her only when needed and am continuing to do so for the past 1 week & in between she has spoken only once. She is now trying to be completely independent of me or my help in her work which is good to an extant. but this has resulted in her being more dependent on him(god only knows when he is going to dump her). but since last week she is getting more tensed day by day as her work has almost come to a standstill. My work is also in trouble as i am not able to concentrate much, but still it is going on as i am able to do it alone without others help.

 

Well the problem is i don't want to hurt her further through my actions , as we have to work together later next year. thats why i am confused

 

should i completely ignore her & focus on my work alone (with no help from my side later on).

should i maintain a professional relation if she comes up for that

should i try to win her friendship back by forgiving her for past behaviour & keep a blind eye on her present relation

 

 

You may please give your suggestions too & please help me out

[sreep5678]

I am really confused as i want to leave her at her own.

I am not able to accept her.

But the next year work has to be done together and it needs a lot of cooperation among work colleagues.

 

please help