sreep5678 Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 I had a good friendship with my colleague for the past 1.5 years. we were close & able to support each other a lot. i used to help her in her work almost out of way & she was a bit dependent on me for everything related to her work. 6 months ago a guy (though known to me, but of not a good reputation) become close to her. In the meantime we two got into a small argument & this started to drive a wedge between us. by the time that the argument was resolved, the guy got more close to her & they were seeing each other regularly. i directly asked my colleague to stop this relationship as it seems to hamper our work & friendship (she started making excuses to meet him as she knew that i would finish the work started ). but this resulted in a big fight with myself & herself getting out of control, with enough abusing & mud slinging on each other. it seemed to me that whatever i said has created a an opposite impact of what i intented & she didn't even considerd me worth listening too. this condition was resolved by our friends & we agreed to continue our professional relation only, which we continued for a month. following this i went for a months leave to care of parents illness. all my friends called up except her during this period. i called her up to thank for the help she did in my absence, but even afterthat she didn't call back. when i came back i found that she is fully along with the other guy all thime except at office hours. but since the day i came back she seemed to become more tensed & i thought that it is better for me to talking to her only when she speaks. i am continuing to do so but except for the day i came back she hasn't spoken to me at all for the last 1 week. well the problem is that i am not able to concentrate on my work at all after the big fight & so has affected my productivity. similarly she is also affected but seems to be much worse, as she is getting more tensed up with every passing day. i too feel a bit sorry for her but for the way she behaves now a days (she is trying to totaly independent of my help in her work , which to an extent is also good for her & secondly being completely dependent on ther other guy - god only knows when he is going to dump her). the thing is that i don't want her to get hurt in future due to my action & besides we have to work together next year on a project. now i am totally confused should i lead on with my life & completely ignore her. should i maintain only a professional relationship if she comes for that. should i try to win her friendship back & forgive her past behaviour & keep a blind eye on her present relation you may give ypur own suggestions too
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