BryteNytez Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Well I had a long intimate night with a girl last night. I lost my virginity with the girl and went down on her several times, she said she orgasmed a good 30 times and seemed to really enjoy herself. It was a nice 5 hour event, a lot of touching and a lot of talking. I loved the experience a lot, except the problem is, I didn't get off a single time. I didn't cum once. I appareantly was good for being my first time but she didn't want me cuming inside her cuz we had no protection (yes I know you can still get pregnant/diseases, precum, all that, it was a heat in the moment thing). She did try other ways to get me off and she just couldn't do it, I guess I'm harder to please? I don't know. But I know cumming isn't the goal of making love, but I started to feel like she was getting a lot more out of it all than I was. The main problem is that in my last relationship, I didn't get anything sexually, I always gave gave gave and it caused a lot of problems and we ended up breaking off. Well last night I spent all that time and effort pleasuring her and after she left I had blue balls and had to relieve it myself... Well she and I promised each other that we'd always be honest, of course all couples do that at first (note we're not a couple yet, but that's another story). So I was honest with her. I told her I felt like she got more out of things than I did. I felt like something was lacking and she knows what it was. She started to feel horrible and bad, which I expected, but now I feel like I may have ruined my chances to have a serious relationship with this girl because I might of made her feel unloved or unwanted. I didn't want to make her feel bad but I felt like it was the right thing to do to be honest and tell her that even for my first time it wasn't that great (cuz I was left a little frustrated) and I didn't want her thinking that I thought it was the greatest thing since sliced bread. Did I make a big mistake by telling her the truth? I worry now that when she thinks back to last night all she'll remember is what I told her and it will kill or overshadow all the other things she felt, the level intimacy we had. I'm scared I might have really ruined thngs and I don't know what to do.
MadDog Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 That's an interesting situation. On one hand, you wanted to be honest. On the other, you were and that made her feel badly. I say, it was good you were honest and if she can't handle the truth, then you're better off with another girl who can. You said you lost your virginity to this girl yet you had an ex you used to please all the time. How does that work?
Alexandra Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 This guy's a fake. "She came 30 times"?!? Either you're right westernxer or if the post is genuine then you have another problem darlin' - she ... exagerrated not so say "lied". This also sounds mighty strange "She did try other ways to get me off and she just couldn't do it, I guess I'm harder to please?" All in all a big "Hmmmmmmm"
MadDog Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 "She came 30 times"?!? Either you're right westernxer or if the post is genuine then you have another problem darlin' - she ... exagerrated not so say "lied". This also sounds mighty strange "She did try other ways to get me off and she just couldn't do it, I guess I'm harder to please?" All in all a big "Hmmmmmmm" True, haha. I didn't even see this post as fake but it could be just some dude trying to brag. He's basically saying, 1. "Yeah, I'm 'hard to please' so I can go for hours." 2. "Yeah, I made a girl come 30 times in 5 hours." My record was making a girl get off 4 times in 1 hour but she was way to exhausted after that to continue. I'd be surprised to find a girl who could keep going for that long. Exhaustion would eventually kick in.
AriaIncognito Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Also, i've not come across any men that were THAT hard to get off. I mean come on, if he was able to finish it off himself, I can't imagine why she would have had a problem, unless she repulsed him or something. We'll prob never see another post on the board about it... Jennifer
Author BryteNytez Posted May 8, 2006 Author Posted May 8, 2006 orgasmed 30 times is a complete exaggeration on her part, that's obvious, and the reasons she couldn't get me off was that A) she started to hyperventilate when doing oral and B) then her hand got tired when doing a hand job At anyrate, the fact of the matter is that I told her that I didn't get much out of it, but I've now been told that for your first time, you're not going to receive a whole level of wow intimacy and I just over expected things. I was just worried that by telling her I didn't get what I was expecting I killed her confidence and her desire to want to be with me, thus, ruining any chances of a relationship.
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