visotech Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Is it me or a lot is invested into "the games" of dating? What I mean is people are hung up on the little games of dating, for ex: not looking despretehow frequently to contactnot picking up on the first ringthe 3 day waiting periodplaying hard to getDo you think this is what makes/breaks a potential relationship? Or if two people click they will click reguardless of how the games are played? Personally I like to live in a fairytale land and believe that if its meant to happen it will, reguardless of howmany times you call her, and how you express your feelings to her.
justagirliegirl Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 No, I haven't felt the need to play games. The relationships I have had, we liked each other and we showed it. It either worked out or it didn't and playing games wouldn't have made a differencec one way or the other. This relationship now, is the only time I have felt I was being played with and I did a little of the backing off thing. I just don't feel my needs are being met and so nothing else I do matters so it is time to move on.
jbernardino Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 You said... "Personally I like to live in a fairytale land and believe that if its meant to happen it will, reguardless of howmany times you call her, and how you express your feelings to her" I feel the same way as you. I believe too many people play games, I'm just not into it. Be yourself and don't change , you'll find the right kind of person for you and you'll be happy.
Adunaphel Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 I hate playing games myself. I hate it when people play games. I regularly fall for games people play. :( Recently I've been caught in the "make you jealous" game. I could tell it was game-playing, yet I fell for it. I am hating myself for this. And I'm supposed to be an intelligent person.
riobikini Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 I won't play those silly little dating games. They're far too 'high school' for me. Some may like them, -but people who have a full life with career and family, like me, are annoyed by them. It's a 'time-waster' and I simply do not have time to stop and try to figure out what the object of the game is, why it's being played, or why the person playing it feels it's so important. Let him occupy his time with an X-box...or something *meant* for playing games with. Not me. -Rio
MadDog Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Games are lame. I think few people actually consciously sit there and don't call back, don't pick up on the first ring, etc. The ones who actually do that on purpose probably read one too many women's magazines. Not looking desperate only works if, surprise, you're not desperate. You can't pretend to not look desperate when you actually are. Also, like I said in another post, showing interest (not to be mistaken for desperation) actually takes a good deal of confidence. Afterall, you're putting yourself on the line and can potentially get rejected. If someone's going to shy away from you if you show direct interest, they're probably not interested in dating you.
SuperMonk Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Uh, not really. I can see how it may work for some people, but for me it doesn't. If the girl plays, I usually won't play along with her and then she stops playing in a way that *IS* a game (for getting her to play it my way)
Pyro Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 There is no need to play games. Just be yourself and the rest will fall into place. I know what i want, so I do not need or want any games in my life.
2sunny Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 I don't and won't do the game thingy. I think anybody who knows me for even a few minutes knows that if they want to call - then call. If you don't want to - then don't. I guess it adds up to me being a very upfront person who is honest with anyone. If you play the games - you are OUT... kind of like the guy I booted to the curb yesterday because he's always late. Too inconsiderate and disrespectful. I told him I would never do that to any friend and I wouldn't do it anymore with him (and YES, he had been warned before). It's too bad to because he was fun and very handsome.... oh well.
Pyro Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 I don't and won't do the game thingy. I think anybody who knows me for even a few minutes knows that if they want to call - then call. If you don't want to - then don't. I guess it adds up to me being a very upfront person who is honest with anyone. If you play the games - you are OUT... kind of like the guy I booted to the curb yesterday because he's always late. Too inconsiderate and disrespectful. I told him I would never do that to any friend and I wouldn't do it anymore with him (and YES, he had been warned before). It's too bad to because he was fun and very handsome.... oh well. Anyone who plays these games don't have enough confidence in being themselves around the opposite sex or they are just incapable of having a serious relationship.
Author visotech Posted May 8, 2006 Author Posted May 8, 2006 I'm glad a lot of you seem to agree...it just seems that browsing around loveshack, talking to friends, and watching tv - everyone is playing the games. I felt a bit left out hah So what about the games of breaking up? I imagine if you had a long trusting relationship with someone and it ended in an honest breakup - do you still go out of your way to play the contact games, pretending to be busy, pretending they dont exist, instantly ending years of knowing eachother?
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