visotech Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 My ex and I had a chat today about how we both don't like being alone. I said it looked like she was doing fine, shes been hanging out a lot with her freinds and such, but she said she just uses that as a distraction, and she still feels alone. She then proceeded to say that she would be up for cuddling but not sure if it was a good idea. We talked about it and said the only way it would be a good thing is if we were on the same level about things. And she said no kissing, no pressure of rebuilding a relationship, just friendly cuddling, (so basically I pretend to be her gay friend for the day?). Lately I've rid myself of the thought of hoping for second chances, and I told her that as well. She asked how I felt about the cuddling idea, I said that it would be nice, to have the warmth of someone ther, but all outside advice points to "bad idea". But I also thought to myself that you have to live and learn for yourself. I figure life is all for the experience, something in me tells me yeah cuddling with her would be nice, and a 100 people here on LS will advise against it. But how will I ever know what would have come out of it - im not hoping to rebuild a relationship, but I am hoping to keep a solid friendship out of it, where we can be close and still confide in eachother. I can take someones advice, or I can find out in my own expreinces, im only 20, i feel as if I have nothing to loose, I would rather live/hurt/learn then sit on LS reading other peoples bad experiences. So back to the idea, am I in way over my head? Is this an ok thing to do, or am I secretly just tricking myself?
pippen_2k Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 It dosent really matter dude, just give the girl a hug and live and learn like you said
westernxer Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 im only 20, i feel as if I have nothing to loose Except your youth. Why waste it cuddling with an ex when you could be out meeting new chicks? In San Diego of all places, which is full of hot chicks. Stop being a pussy...
GB111 Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 One of the worst ideas I've read about on LS. There's no such thing as cuddling so you can cope. Make them want you back, if you want them back. NC.
Alexandra Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 "Just a friendly cuddle"? --- I sure must be having the wrong male friends...
NotAnotherTeen Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 I would first look really in depth to how you feel. If you really dont want her back, i would advise against this. She maybe wants to get back with you, and if you agree to this, she may get her hopes up, only to find out you dont want to have her back. Also, being in that close of contact with someone can lead to other things, even though u said no kissing and w/e. In the heat of passion, logic eludes you. You might take it further than either of you are prepared to do, or want to. Even if you want to get back with her, be wary. When you finally get the chance to hold her in your arms, you might get ahead of yourself, and maybe even ask her out again, because everything feels so right. In that case you risk being shot down if she doenst care about you like that anymore, and you will only hurt yourself. I would suggest other ways to remain close. Have good conversations, talk things over. Try to maybe hang out with each other, but in the company of friends. Coming into actual physical contact like that though will most likely only hurt both of you. However, if you firmly feel as though you want her back, and feel strongly that she wants you back too, then i spose you could go along with it. It could lead to a rekindling of your relationship. Either way, its your choice buddy, and you'll learn no matter what you choose. But whatever you do choose, make sure ur sure of your decision, so you will be left with no regrets.
littlepiggy1 Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 Bad idea. If you want to cuddle, maybe you could try a cuddle party?
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