summergirl Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 This guy I like asked me out and I finally had a 1st date with him. We had a nice conversation and good laughs. Me and him got some common in interests. At the end of the date, he said he had a great time and hoped we can do it again soon. He's cheerful and fun, I feel positive around him, he makes me feel comfortable and really wanna spend more time together. But I'm afraid we're gonna fall into a "friend-zone". He's different with other guys I've dated before, he didnt seem to flirt at me at all, he complimented me in a non physical way (like i'm smart, have a good taste in movies/music). Because usually guys always tried to hold my hand or at least say I'm cute, and they will predictably call me again really soon. I'm afraid because of the common we have, he sees me as a cool friend to talk to. I know it's kinda too early to analyze, but is he just trying to make a different approach towards me or we had no chemistry? So instead of being his cool friend to hang out with, I think I have to be more vulnerable-feminine to him. But how to do it if I have to keep myself as a challange? I feel like whenever I like a guy and I try to chase him, it always fails. How to be a good catch for him? It's been a week but he hasn't contacted me again, I think he's busy with his work. I'm dying to ask him out next weekend or should i wait for his invitation again?
cupidette Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 summergirl, go ahead and ask him out. Don't wait for him to do it. Sounds like he is just being a gentleman, he probably does have romantic interest in you.
visotech Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 The guy you described is much like myself. I hate the idea that men are the ones who always have to make the moves, and I love it when a girl takes charge. Try to ask him out a few times, actually, you might find out some free time he has, and tell him "we're going to go do such and such". Worse case situation is you end up being friends, make your move, theres nothing to loose.
Author summergirl Posted May 7, 2006 Author Posted May 7, 2006 Cupidette: Yes, I felt that too, I will ask this gentleman out soon Visioteh: I feel when I make the move, the guy doesn't see me as a good catch and a challange anymore. Being in a friend zone is what I'm afraid the most. I will definitely ask him out and tell him the "we're going to do this and that together", and I'm sure he'll say yes. But what if he never invites me back, and for how many times should I make the initiative to call or to ask out first?
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