Art_Critic Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 The software peer to peer programs use the mydocument directories to upload/download to and from.. ie: movies, pictures, music I put all my porn in a directory called 2003Taxes
burning 4 revenge Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 We had a sales rep at work that installed edonkey and without his knowledge there were files downloaded of teens having sex.. The file names had their ages in them.." 2 14 year olds having sex for the first time " He found them on his computer and came to me to find out how they got there ( in his movies directory ) I opened up Edonkey and looked at the log and sure enough someone had uploaded them to his computer so they would be advertised for the downloaders.. So yes it can happen.. I have witnessed it myself I apologize then if that is the case, and I guess it could happen. It just seems somewhat unlikely, but with such serious circumstances I agree anybody should be innocent until proven guilty
Alexandra Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 The software peer to peer programs use the mydocument directories to upload/download to and from.. ie: movies, pictures, music Geez Louise and I had already said that but then again I'm a woman so what do I know.... I put all my porn in a directory called 2003Taxes Mine's called "OldFamilyReunionsPhotos" and I've rarely had to even use hidden files in it for some weird reason.
alphamale Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 I put all my porn in a directory called 2003Taxes my directory is called Spank_The_Monkey Its on a UNIX box, hence no spaces in the name...
ImWithHim Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Come on! This is not an accident. Those of you that think it could be an accident, please tell me where on YOUR computer are files labled "kiddie porn" or "gay porn." I download tons of crap and I've never ever run across a file I didn't intentionally download or one even remotely labled such as that. He labeled the file, stored it there hoping no one would find it, and now the g/f is in denial. If it's on his computer, he's obviously into it. I'm sorry this happened to you but com'on, be realistic. You're dealing with a sicko - drop him ASAP. There is nothing to talk about. People that are like this do not change. Lets hope that all he's doing for now is LOOKING and he's not acting. Anyone that stores kiddie porn on their computer is a sick, disgusting freak. There is no explaination for it and no excuses to be made. I couldn't care less about the gay porn, but the fact remains that as I said before, if it's there, he IS into it. Do you look at gay porn if you're not into it? No. And you certainly don't store it if you're not into it.
alphamale Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Come on! This is not an accident. Those of you that think it could be an accident, please tell me where on YOUR computer are files labled "kiddie porn" or "gay porn." I download tons of crap and I've never ever run across a file I didn't intentionally download or one even remotely labled such as that. He labeled the file, stored it there hoping no one would find it, and now the g/f is in denial. I would totally agree IWH....if it walks like a duck and looks like a duck, its a duck.
ms_jnj Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 I know it's serious but I can't do this, for many reasons. I'm quite certain it is all a mistake and not the way it seems, I just don't know how to get that cleared up 100% Sorry hon, but there is no mistake when it comes to child porn. What possible 'accidental' excuse could he have for child porn? Even if he 'accidentally' dowloaded it (though it isn't like it is just floating around everywhere) why the hell is it still on his computer? Why didn't he immediately delete it in disgust when he saw what he had downloaded? I know you probably love him, and that's why you're convinced that this is a big misunderstanding. But I urge you to think of the children who were abused in the making of that porn...and what exactly having such material says about your boyfriend. What kind of person gets off on the abuse of children? Is this someone you want in your bed at night? People can act like one thing and be another. In this case he's pretending to be the great guy you love and is really a pedophile. It wouldn't be the first time it's happened. There is no accidental mistunderstand in the downloading of child porn. None. Tell yourself what you like, but I can't imagine being so in denial that you can happily live your life with a man you know is a pedophile at your side. Accepting his sexual desires for children, no matter how to manage to rationalize it, makes you just as guilty as he is. I know this is harsh---but I work with children for a living and feel that there is no excuse for child abuse, no matter how much you love someone. This world just makes me so sad and mad and confused sometimes...
Author lynn_anders Posted May 7, 2006 Author Posted May 7, 2006 Well I just talked to him about it. He seemed surprised and didn't know what I was talking about. I told him he should delete it in any case and that I know he isn't into that kind of stuff. It was just all kind of strange, I mean, I think I might mention it again in detail to him, to see if he could give me a possible explanation as well. And he is definitely not a "child molester", at least that I'm sure of, he isn't a porn addict either. Even though "being surprised" is the expected reaction whether he's guilty or not, I do believe him. He's very trustworthy and that's just how I know him.
TheSwordfish Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Confront him, you checcked his my music folder.... Ther is supposed to be music there!
justagirliegirl Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 I know in some cases when you download p2p there are viruses that contain porn. The thing is, he had to know about this because you didn't find this stuff in some obscure temp folder. The were specifically put into the music folder by someone and unless someone else regularly uses that computer, it was your boyfriend who put them there so he had to know about them.
Guest Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 I know in some cases when you download p2p there are viruses that contain porn. The thing is, he had to know about this because you didn't find this stuff in some obscure temp folder. The were specifically put into the music folder by someone and unless someone else regularly uses that computer, it was your boyfriend who put them there so he had to know about them. The My Music folder is a folder that people don't necessarily use for storing music or pictures, especially if you're computer literate. The My Music folder, however, is a folder where viruses, P2P programs, etc, normally put crap in. Noone I know put their music, or anything else for that matter, in the My Music folder. I put my music on some of my other harddrives to make sure that I have enough space on my windows hard drive to install programs. I personally would have had no clue of what's in my My Music folder unless I checked it out a couple of minutes ago, because I never go to that folder. When I've been disinfecting computers from viruses and worms, files like the ones described are very common and tend to be all over the hard drive. I would recommend installing an anti-virus program and check so there are no viruses, then install all windows security updates and install a firewall. There are viruses that can enter the computer by just being connected to the Internet if the necessary security updates have not been installed. I have heard about cases where kiddie porn has been found on computers and when the computers have been inspected, it has been found out that they have been "zombie" computers, that is infected with a worm and are spreading spam and kiddie porn to other computers all over the world.
ImWithHim Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Well I just talked to him about it. He seemed surprised and didn't know what I was talking about. I told him he should delete it in any case and that I know he isn't into that kind of stuff. It was just all kind of strange, I mean, I think I might mention it again in detail to him, to see if he could give me a possible explanation as well. And he is definitely not a "child molester", at least that I'm sure of, he isn't a porn addict either. Even though "being surprised" is the expected reaction whether he's guilty or not, I do believe him. He's very trustworthy and that's just how I know him. Oh my god. I have to say, you are an idiot.
Author lynn_anders Posted May 7, 2006 Author Posted May 7, 2006 ms_jnj, I forgot to say that of course child porn is bad, anyway you put it, but the issue was different, it was just whether he knew about it or now, in other words, whether he's into that. ImWithHim, I don't know what makes you say that, and I know what I'm doing in this case. He called again because he's almost home to check his computer and judging by his questions and reactions to it now, I believe him. Quite easily. We'll find out how it got there, but he doesn't seem nervous about it as if I just discovered the biggest thing ever. He's reacting as you'd expect someone to react in his case if he were innocent. And I know he isn't capable of an Oscar-worthy performance, either.
Author lynn_anders Posted May 7, 2006 Author Posted May 7, 2006 And just to clear things up even more. If you think I come off as an idiot because of the post I made, I admit I worded some things badly, but it was the middle of the night and too much was going through my mind. When I called him, he wasn't home near his computer to check, he was at his parent's house and I happened to have woken him up in the middle of the night. I told him what I found and he seemed very surprised. He wasn't all defensive saying things like "It's not me, it's not my fault, it's not me!" or something. He didn't seem very nervous about it, he was just quite confused and our conversation carried on normally. He called me this morning on his way home saying he can't stop thinking about that and he is going to check his computer when he gets home. I told him it's okay and that he shouldn't get all upset cause he didn't know. He said it's not really okay, and asked why I didn't tell him earlier, at the moment I found it. Now, I know him very well, and he would never lie to me. He is the last person on Earth I'd expect to be drawn towards child porn. For the 2 and a half years we've been together, there was never an instance that made me wonder or doubt about that. And we have been together in many situations were these tendencies would show. He is just in general, very honest with me. Now I can either believe my boyfriend, whom I trust completely about something that most of you already said is possible to have happened, and has happened before (files accidentally ending up in folders through p2p servers) or I choose to not believe him simply because it would be all too big of a 'coincidence' or because some of you don't seem convinced because you have the presumption he is guilty anyway. I don't have the slightest gut feeling anymore that something is wrong. As I said, we'll find out how it happened. He has a very messy computer, and many folders that have tons of files that were never accessed or checked, he has many downloading programs and basically no track of most things on his hard disk.
Walk Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Get a good spyware cleaner. Ad-aware has a free one that works really well. So does microsoft.
crazy_grl Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 He labeled the file, stored it there hoping no one would find it, and now the g/f is in denial. You don't know that *he* labeled the file. If you were trying to hide kiddie porn on your computer, would you give it such an obvious name?? That would be just stupid. It was probably named that when it was downloaded onto his computer. And you certainly don't store it if you're not into it. The files are all 0k, so he's not storing it. They're empty files. They've probably been deleted through a p2p program like someone said. If he was keeping those files or downloading them purposely to that location, then at least some of the files would be larger than 0k. The thing is, he had to know about this because you didn't find this stuff in some obscure temp folder. The were specifically put into the music folder by someone and unless someone else regularly uses that computer, it was your boyfriend who put them there so he had to know about them. As has already been pointed out, there are programs that automatically put files into the music folder. If those files were all that was in there and no music, then he probably doesn't even use that folder and doesn't look in it. I know I don't ever use the default music folder. lynn, you don't sound like an idiot to me, because there *is* a reasonable explanation for how this could have happened without him knowing. Just make sure you keep your eyes open in the future and if anything else suspicious happens, then you may have something to worry about.
SuperMonk Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 When he's around, ask him if you can play some music from his music folder. Then monitor his reaction and go from there. I would probably use this technique to give the bad porn the shove off. Memo to self: Your girlfriend/wife might check out your computer, I better delete all my porno!
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