newyorkguy Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 Am new to this site. Not really sure if this would even apply on something this site. Will give short version....if anyone replies and needs more details I will answer. Met up with an ex last month. We dated back in 1994-1995, she and I were friends before that. At the time before we dated she was in bad relationship. I was there for her to vent to and one thing lead to another. She broke it off with her guy and we got together. I know, rebound. When we broke up I was hurt...mad etc but looking back at it I knew that was a very really possibility. Over the past 10 years we would run into each other now and then. Just quick talks, no hanging out etc. Well this past December she was in a very bad car wreck. Did not visit her in hospital(3hours away) but I did think about her and hope she was doing well. Last month we saw each other again, mutual friend had us over for dinner. I drove her home that night and she invited me in. Tells me she wants to see me again and would I like to try. I said yes...knowing that with her state of recovery she can not be there physically/emotionally. Guess what am I asking should I do that? I care for her deeply...not just a result from the accident either. Wondering if I am setting myself for a fall...to me this is almost a rebound situation again. Any advice/ ideas would be appreciated. Thanks:bunny:
gfto Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 I'd say forget about it. She already dumped you over 10 years ago.
westernxer Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Wait a few days to make a decision. Many times I find that once girl is out of sight, she's out of mind. Happens all the time.
Alexandra Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 I said yes...knowing that with her state of recovery she can not be there physically/emotionally. Guess what am I asking should I do that? I care for her deeply...not just a result from the accident either. Wondering if I am setting myself for a fall...to me this is almost a rebound situation again. As opposed to many new posters you sound very balanced and rational and as if you have it worked out. Factually you can't really ignore that this is the second time that a traumatic event would be the catalyst for you two getting together. The one question you could ask yourself being given that you have already established it's risky is "Is it worth it and could I handle another fall?"
magda Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 I say take it slow and go on a few dates just to see, if you want to. 10 years is a long time... anything could happen.
visotech Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Take it slow see how it goes. What do you have to loose? Theres no way to predict the outcome of it all, so why not just give things a go?
pippen_2k Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Your barriers are already up, so you will be alot more cautious this time around. Any sign of 'lack of interest' on her behalf, just bail. You will save yourself alot of time.
Author newyorkguy Posted May 7, 2006 Author Posted May 7, 2006 Thanks for everyones input. Have to agree, did not work first time, why would it now. Think she picked me because I am familiar to her. Do not doubt once she does recover I will be kicked to curb again, not a given but things do have a way of repeating themselves.
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