StussyMagnet Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 Hi, y'all. I started a post a wee while ago about short term relationships and was truely thankful for the advice and comments given. So here I am with another question. -- My original thread - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t86677/ -- I have just been informed by a mutual friend that a major factor in her break-off was that I had invited her to lunch with my family on Easter Sunday and she thought this was a bit too much, too soon. So my question is, does anyone else think that having lunch with your new bf/gf's family after 3 months of dating is too soon? This girl was also very hesitant to go to the evening reception of a wedding with me after a couple of months of dating! Christ, I've taken a 1st date to a wedding before. It's only a wedding! ditto It's only lunch!
pippen_2k Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 There just poor excuses .... If she really did dig you she would have gone without hesitation.
pricillia Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 I agree with the other posters, she should be able to invest some of her time with you if she really digs you...
Author StussyMagnet Posted May 6, 2006 Author Posted May 6, 2006 Don't get me wrong, we made a lot of time for each other all the time. It was just as if she saw the 'meet the parents' lunch as a big deal and freaked out. I didn't even lay it on thick. I told her it was just a suggestion and it was totally cool if she didn't want to go. Thinking back, she was pretty surprised/freaked when I asked her and I thought it was strange. This was probably a red flag that I chose to ignore. Thinking back, there were others
Chinook Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 Sorry but in this fast 21st century day and age... I've had friends move in with each other within 3 months!! Meeting the parents should not be a big deal. At all. It should be a pleasant experience that the b/g f wants to do for the partner (even though it is like getting grilled!)
westernxer Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 Nice avatar, Stussy. "Withnail and I" is my all-time favorite, and I have NOT gone on holiday by mistake. Maybe your ex should watch it, to see what she could end up with.
Author StussyMagnet Posted May 6, 2006 Author Posted May 6, 2006 My favourite too westernxer. Watched it today to cheer myself up and was laughing my arse off the whole way through (as usual). Suggested watching it to my ex while still together but she didn't fancy it. Another red flag! I tried adding a quote from it as a signature but it doesn't seem to have worked! Chinook, exactly. I'm the same. I've had several mates move in together within 3 months too. Perhaps she was just commitment-phobic! (is there such a word?) I just remembered another red flag. She once told me that the longest relationship she'd ever had was 8 months. She was 30 years old drop-dead gorgeous, funny, sexy, intelligent and in a good steady job. Could probably have had any man she wanted (I certainly knew a fair few who would have filled my shoes given half the chance). Does that not seem a bit strange? Aaaanyway, enough of my yakking, I'm off to have another beer and watch new episode of Lost!
Author StussyMagnet Posted May 6, 2006 Author Posted May 6, 2006 Perhaps she was just commitment-phobic! Not that I was looking/asking or even hinting about commitment! As far as I was concerned we were still in honeymoon stage where everything is fun, fun, fun!! I think I am a bit pissed now so I am going to bed. At least I'm pissed and happy now and not pissed/miserable!
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