island1852 Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 Hello, I need help! Quick background for you. After my boss's son and his gf of 6 years broke up, he asked me on a date. For about 2 weeks we dated, but he discontinued the relationship because he still had feelings for his ex. A couple of months later we began talking again. He has a child and now he usually only calls me when he needs a babysitter. However, once he returns home he expects me to stick around and talk to him after his son goes to bed and/or have sex. He keeps telling me he wants to move in and be his live-in nanny, but then I think he changes his mind and then changes it back, etc. Sometimes he suggests we get married, just so we both have somebody, "not because we are in love." Our relationship is totally at his convenience, not mine. I'm expected to do things for him and be there for him when he needs me, but when I need something (even someone to talk to) he is unavailable. I feel like I'm being taken advantage of, but I can't seem to tell him no or get him out of my life and it doesn't help that I work with his mother. I think we are good for each other because he is a single dad and I am 6 months pregnant (but the father doesn't want to be involved) so I am about to be a single mom. So the big question here is this: can I make him stop taking advantage of me and realize that we would be a good match? Is there any way he will ever see me as more than someone at his disposal?
Adunaphel Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 can I make him stop taking advantage of me and realize that we would be a good match? No. Because you would not be a good match. What on earth makes you think you'd be a good match? Is there any way he will ever see me as more than someone at his disposal? Yes: dump him, forget about him and move on with your life. Find a decent guy who'd treat you nicely. What is so special about this guy that you are putting up with his behaviour and acting like a doormat? Doeshe have so unique qualities that you'd never find in other guys?
Groovy Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 Well, if you don't break up with him I would at least share your feelings. It sounds like a tough place to be because you are single and pregnant and he has a nice kid, etc. Try to think of what's best for YOU not financially or "practical aspects" but what you need emotionally to be HAPPY because that should supersede them all. If he is not fulfilling emotional needs you will be miserable every day. If he really is a player let him be. I dated a player once and it didn't work out. I thought it was me until I saw so many women come and go for him year after year and it will continue often times for the lifetime of that person.
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