Chinook Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 I would say men go after the married women first because men know they can't have them. uh, no one said anything about anyone being married. In my experience, I'm single... it has always been the man who has chased me when I haven't been either that into him or when I've played things cool. One of those guys was married - soon as I found out I ditched him. That made him chase harder! Until I said, I don't think so buster. It's still all a game.
Author radiation7740 Posted May 6, 2006 Author Posted May 6, 2006 That's sad you think women in most cases like to be with men only for financial gains. I can't think of any wedding I've been to where the woman was clearly marrying for money. In most cases they were either equal or the woman made a lot more, which is very common these days. You sound very bitter. Love is blind. That's if we are talking about love in the true sense of the word. They either marry for money or because they are feeling lonely and want to marry for the sake of getting married and not because they want to marry the man specifically. I'm not bitter. I can just smell it several miles away. I don't know about you but I like to know why a woman does what she does. My ex wanted to reconcile but I couldn't be sure that she wanted it for the right reasons. She may have been lonely & wanted to use me to pass the time until someone better came along or maybe not. I'll never know. Safe to say I kept the power on my side by turning her down.
Fun2BMe Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 I would rather be alone on any given day or night than to spend it with someone I am not genuinely into. Everyone I know says the same thing. Can you imagine not being interested or in love with someone but going out with them because you would otherwise be bored? Think about it and be honest with yourself. I would be more bored spending time with someone I did not have feelings for and would rather be at home watching tv or whatever.
Author radiation7740 Posted May 6, 2006 Author Posted May 6, 2006 I would rather be alone on any given day or night than to spend it with someone I am not genuinely into. Everyone I know says the same thing. Can you imagine not being interested or in love with someone but going out with them because you would otherwise be bored? Think about it and be honest with yourself. I would be more bored spending time with someone I did not have feelings for and would rather be at home watching tv or whatever. I would say that about 75% of women will not break up with their boyfriends on a permanent basis unless another guy was in the picture.
Fun2BMe Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 I would say that about 75% of women will not break up with their boyfriends on a permanent basis unless another guy was in the picture. That might be true. People spend their time with whoever they have feelings towards. If they meet someone else who they feel stronger towards, it is a sad thing for the existing relationship but I can see how they might decide to leave for the new person. If feelings were not involved, people would be jumping from one person to another on a weekly basis. There would be no long term relationship. After all, such and such has tickets to go see a concert and you don't this week, so bye bye to you would be the case, if being with someone was about not being bored.
Author radiation7740 Posted May 6, 2006 Author Posted May 6, 2006 That might be true. People spend their time with whoever they have feelings towards. If they meet someone else who they feel stronger towards, it is a sad thing for the existing relationship but I can see how they might decide to leave for the new person. If feelings were not involved, people would be jumping from one person to another on a weekly basis. There would be no long term relationship. After all, such and such has tickets to go see a concert and you don't this week, so bye bye to you would be the case, if being with someone was about not being bored. The feelings die out long before she makes the break up speech. While she may not have feelings anymore she'll remain in the relationship to pass the time because she's lonely until some other guy sweeps her off her feet. 75% of the women will do that.
Fun2BMe Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 The feelings die out long before she makes the break up speech. While she may not have feelings anymore she'll remain in the relationship to pass the time because she's lonely until some other guy sweeps her off her feet. 75% of the women will do that. Now we are slowly coming to the same conclusion. You agree she was with him in the FIRST place out of feelings (and not boredome which is what I first thought you only thought). Once those feelings die out, for whatever reason, even in some cases there is no new guy in the picture, she will eventually leave. She won't be in love Saturday then wake up Sunday morning thinking geez I no longer have feelings and am cutting him off. It may happen over the course of months but there is a moment when she feels it is all gone and she will break up. She will not have been with him when they were at the point of being gone just to pass the time even though that is where you and I disagree. It may be that she still liked him more than say a stranger who she doesn't know at all. I'm not talking about someone who develops deep hatred. If a man loses sexual desire for a woman he won't hesitate to leave. If a woman does, she might still linger on with him because women can have strong social, nurturing and friendship bonds outside of a sexual context.
Groovy Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 That's sad you think women in most cases like to be with men only for financial gains. I can't think of any wedding I've been to where the woman was clearly marrying for money. In most cases they were either equal or the woman made a lot more, which is very common these days. You sound very bitter. Love is blind. That's if we are talking about love in the true sense of the word. He does sound bitter:( I was engaged to a guy who was after my money. He wouldn't marry me unless I put him on my mortgage and he has nothing but debt. He spent so much of my money before I called it off. My best friend is living with a bum she supports because she is loney and afraid. She wants to break it off but he has no job and no where to live. There's plenty of men taking advantage of women's money, let's not single them out.
Fun2BMe Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 He does sound bitter:( I was engaged to a guy who was after my money. He wouldn't marry me unless I put him on my mortgage and he has nothing but debt. He spent so much of my money before I called it off. My best friend is living with a bum she supports because she is loney and afraid. She wants to break it off but he has no job and no where to live. There's plenty of men taking advantage of women's money, let's not single them out. That's so sad you were taken advantage of financially. I know quite a few women who have. Charming men sweep them off their feet, milk them dry and move on to their next prey. Also, Brittany Spears husband comes to mind:laugh:Kevin Federline.
climbergirl Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 Gentlemen, I do not believe it is a good idea to answer the phone on the 1st ring when a girl calls you. Why? because it will show her that you have no life. She will lose attraction for you if she suspects that you are waiting at her every beck & call. I believe that when you do answer her calls you should wait 4-5 rings before picking up. Do not answer her calls all the time. I would say you should ignore her calls 1 out of every 4 times she calls you. Let it go to voicemail & wait 1-2 days before returning her call. If her voicemail is an emergency message then call her back immediately. Make sure your gf is initating more calls than you. That's how it should be. I believe a guy should initiate calls no more than twice a week unless it's for a specific reason such as confirming dating plans. With those extra calls don't stay on the line for more than 5 minutes. I no longer believe that sex should happen spontaneously. It should be planned out and discussed. Check your calendar to see which nights you can make available for sex. I also have come to the belief in planning out the length of time of having sex. I don't want to go more than 35-40 minutes. I would set my alarm clock for it to go off after 40 minutes. Planning ahead makes it all the more exciting. Looking forward to sexual activity is alot more exciting than the act itself! You.... Are.... Joking. You have to be.......either that or you have the most boooooring sex life EVER! If the latter is true........my condolences...and if looking forward is better than the act--find a different partner.
alphamale Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 There's plenty of men taking advantage of women's money, let's not single them out. I totally agree with that GROOVY....but what goes around comes around. Women wanted "equality" with men, now they have it.
Alexandra Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 I have avoided this thread. Yanno, in the same way that one would try and avoid being involved in a train wreck. Uh well I'll have the clean the blood splatter off my dress later I guess. Anyone debating here is letting radiation's thought-mates jump to his defence hence furthering his conviction that he has a point, has cracked the mystery of the universe and now not only knows the secrets of happiness in lo... sorry, dating and sex but is ready to share them with the world. Please don't help with that, he does a botched job at it as it is. Then again he's young and impressionable so maybe there's hope for him. AlphaMale I'm shocked, well not really, surprised at you endorsing just about anyone as long as they seem to have parts of the game in common with you. Hmmm I keep over crediting...
alphamale Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Uh well I'll have the clean the blood splatter off my dress later I guess. its not blood....it's President Clinton's semen AlphaMale I'm shocked, well not really, surprised at you endorsing just about anyone as long as they seem to have parts of the game in common with you. I'm an equal-opportunity whore
Author radiation7740 Posted June 3, 2006 Author Posted June 3, 2006 Does anybody else set their alarm clock to go off after a certain time when you are having sex? Once that alarm clock goes off for me it's time to get dressed and go home.
Author radiation7740 Posted June 3, 2006 Author Posted June 3, 2006 I am being serious. How would you feel if your partner's alarm clock goes off while you are having sex and he says "it's time to go"????
Fun2BMe Posted June 3, 2006 Posted June 3, 2006 If you don't like having sex for more than 35-40 minutes then don't tell others to stop too once they reach the 40 minute mark, not that I've known anyone who keeps time. I think that's a sign that you really hate sex if you are counting the minutes. What a sad problem to suffer, not something to tell others to do too because most people enjoy long sex for reasons you would not be able to understand since you don't experience the same satisfaction from it. You might want to see both a doctor and a shrink. I also have come to the belief in planning out the length of time of having sex. I don't want to go more than 35-40 minutes. I would set my alarm clock for it to go off after 40 minutes.
Fun2BMe Posted June 3, 2006 Posted June 3, 2006 It has been my experience that whenever I go into a restaraunt to eat lunch or dinner alone while I have a smile on my face it raises a woman's curiousity. I usually bring a book to read while I'm waiting for my food. Some of the waitresses would ask me what I'm reading & I would tell them. Then some ask me if I had a gf and I would smile & say no. Afterwards I could see the countenance on some of their faces as if they were surprised at my answer. Maybe they wonder what makes a single guy like me content. That does not make sense. If I was a waitress and saw a man eating alone in the restaurant and asked if he had a gf and he said no, I would not be surprised. After all, he is dining ALONE. If he said he did have a gf, I would think that they were fighting or he didn't like her enough to dine and talk to her instead of reading a book to himself.
Author radiation7740 Posted June 3, 2006 Author Posted June 3, 2006 If you don't like having sex for more than 35-40 minutes then don't tell others to stop too once they reach the 40 minute mark, not that I've known anyone who keeps time. I think that's a sign that you really hate sex if you are counting the minutes. What a sad problem to suffer, not something to tell others to do too because most people enjoy long sex for reasons you would not be able to understand since you don't experience the same satisfaction from it. You might want to see both a doctor and a shrink. There's no way I'm going to waste money seeing a shrink. Going to a doctor for these kinds of things is out of the question.
Fun2BMe Posted June 3, 2006 Posted June 3, 2006 There's no way I'm going to waste money seeing a shrink. Going to a doctor for these kinds of things is out of the question. Why is it out of the question to see a doctor? And don't you think having a more satisfying sex life is worth seeing a shrink about when most others see them for much more trivial reasons? Unless you are of course content with how things are. It does sound like you are so nevermind.
Author radiation7740 Posted June 3, 2006 Author Posted June 3, 2006 There's too many men that use women for sex. Which is worse? To be with a guy who only wants you for sex? Or a guy who only wants sex for 40 minutes a week or so? I think the real men learn how to control their sexual urges. So yes I dislike alot of things about the male gender. I can talk badly about males because I am one too. So don't anybody accuse me of being sexist.
MarnieGirl Posted June 3, 2006 Posted June 3, 2006 Women make the final decision as to which man they want. Period. hells yeah.
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