Radiation's guide on frequency of contact & sex

[radiation7740]

Gentlemen, I do not believe it is a good idea to answer the phone on the 1st ring when a girl calls you. Why? because it will show her that you have no life. She will lose attraction for you if she suspects that you are waiting at her every beck & call.

 

I believe that when you do answer her calls you should wait 4-5 rings before picking up. Do not answer her calls all the time. I would say you should ignore her calls 1 out of every 4 times she calls you. Let it go to voicemail & wait 1-2 days before returning her call. If her voicemail is an emergency message then call her back immediately.

 

Make sure your gf is initating more calls than you. That's how it should be. I believe a guy should initiate calls no more than twice a week unless it's for a specific reason such as confirming dating plans. With those extra calls don't stay on the line for more than 5 minutes.

 

I no longer believe that sex should happen spontaneously. It should be planned out and discussed. Check your calendar to see which nights you can make available for sex. I also have come to the belief in planning out the length of time of having sex. I don't want to go more than 35-40 minutes. I would set my alarm clock for it to go off after 40 minutes. Planning ahead makes it all the more exciting. Looking forward to sexual activity is alot more exciting than the act itself!

[KnowHowLoveFeels]

What's the purpose of this post??? Is it to make us on LS know how immature you really are???

[radiation7740]

What's the purpose of this post??? Is it to make us on LS know how immature you really are???

 

 

Women are attracted to men who play hard to get. Women are turned off by the desperate clingy guys.

[visotech]

This seems like some sort of "Don Juan" philosophy...I suggest you don't try it with a girlfriend, if you are with a woman you should be beyond such silly games.

[allina]

So f***ing stupid. I would never put up with it, or a man idiotic enough to follow it.

[SuperMonk]

Yo dude, don't post these kinda advice when this site has about 60-70% female audience. It might offend them or even clue them in, it's almost like a girl giving away other girl secrets on playing phone games/mind games. I have made posts that would blast women and show them in their true light, I get a lot of hate private messages from women (this confirms that I know their crap) however, you should be quiet on the tactics my fellow man. Try not to play games, but to keep them down below us.

 

Gentlemen, I do not believe it is a good idea to answer the phone on the 1st ring when a girl calls you. Why? because it will show her that you have no life. She will lose attraction for you if she suspects that you are waiting at her every beck & call.

 

I agree and disagree. Girls are not idiots, they're smart and they *WILL* find out your email/phone patterns pretty quickly. But, I like your idea.

 

I believe that when you do answer her calls you should wait 4-5 rings before picking up. Do not answer her calls all the time. I would say you should ignore her calls 1 out of every 4 times she calls you. Let it go to voicemail & wait 1-2 days before returning her call. If her voicemail is an emergency message then call her back immediately.

 

Hmm, most girls do this all the time, why play their pathetic games? We can crush them easily with a couple fingers or one hand. Their "hell hath no fury" is no match for pure testosterone.

 

Make sure your gf is initating more calls than you. That's how it should be. I believe a guy should initiate calls no more than twice a week unless it's for a specific reason such as confirming dating plans. With those extra calls don't stay on the line for more than 5 minutes.

 

I agree and disgree on this one too. How can you "make sure" your girl initiates more calls? It should be an even exchange and a secure man would not mind calling a little more than the girl calling him just as long as he's not calling 5 times in a row in one day. Look, if you treat a girl like how you treat a friend (when you call a friend up to bs for a couple minutes and then tell him to meet you somewhere) she will be your friend fast. I learned this the hard way cause I did what you did .

 

I no longer believe that sex should happen spontaneously. It should be planned out and discussed. Check your calendar to see which nights you can make available for sex. I also have come to the belief in planning out the length of time of having sex. I don't want to go more than 35-40 minutes. I would set my alarm clock for it to go off after 40 minutes. Planning ahead makes it all the more exciting. Looking forward to sexual activity is alot more exciting than the act itself!

 

I disagree man, when I wanna f-ck I will determine when it will happen. I always make sure the setting is ideal and making her all juicy before I bang in and out raw style. You are kidding about the minutes to have sex? Is your life that busy?

[Groovy]

I have waited for a certain someone to call and when he doesn't I go out and meet someone else. And sometimes that other guy is just too late and he lost.

 

The worst advice is that I should be intiating contact more than he is. Men are the pursuers. Do you really think women don't like being pursued? Look at nature in species- the man is pursuing- not the female and it's been that way for eons.

 

The only women who will chase are probably drunk at a bar looking for a good shag and will give you crabs. Any real catch who wants to feel like a real woman deserves expressed interest greater than what you show. But good luck on your advice that everyone thinks is crappy.

[alphamale]

The worst advice is that I should be intiating contact more than he is. Men are the pursuers. Do you really think women don't like being pursued? Look at nature in species- the man is pursuing- not the female and it's been that way for eons.

that is total bulls*** GROOVY....when a woman finds a man she REALLY LIKES she will be the one pursueing him. Women make the final decision as to which man they want. Period.

[Groovy]

Alphie, look BOTH people need to decide they like each other.

 

I do not ask a man out and I do not call him first. I'm too good to be chasing some man down. If he isn't calling me too much I assume I am on the back burner and look for some who digs me more. I got 2 phone numbers last night at a party and I am calling the guy who called me at 1 AM to make sure I got home OK. Not the guy who is waiting for me to call him.

[alphamale]

Alphie, look BOTH people need to decide they like each other. .

no...usually its the women who decides which man she likes. men will f*** anything and are generally easy when it comes to pussy and relationships.

 

maybe GROOVEY you have not found man you really really like yet. but, trust me, when you do, you'll be running after him!

[westernxer]

Have you guys seen the links below for the related threads?

 

lost_in_chgo has, like, four different versions.

 

Guides in general suck. If you're money, you're money. That's all there is to it.

 

I learned this from experience (success AND failure).

[Groovy]

I did pursue men when I was younger, but that's all you end up being is a good screw. Women want commitment and love with that good shagging.

 

And if they pursue they don't get it so now I only get pursued and am receptive and open to it. I may open a door for opportunity but never directly pursue.

 

We are talking about different things, a women getting a good shag and a women getting a meaningful relationship.

[island1852]

I completely agree with GROOVY. Women have been programmed NOT to call and NOT to pursue men thanks to books like "The Rules." So now if men stop calling, nobody will be calling anybody and relationships will never form.

 

Radiation, if you really like a girl why is it so hard for you to show your interest by calling her and sustaining a conversation that lasts for over 5 minutes? If you really cared about her and wanted her in your life, I think you would want to make her feel special and wanted. Rather than make her feel as though she doesn't really mean anything to you. Are your threads guides for players or guides for men who want to find true love? Because it seems like the former rather than latter.

[alphamale]

I completely agree with GROOVY. Women have been programmed NOT to call and NOT to pursue men thanks to books like "The Rules." So now if men stop calling, nobody will be calling anybody and relationships will never form..

Look I1852....if you are an attractive member of either sex then you will have people hitting on you and chasing you all the time. OK???

[radiation7740]

I have waited for a certain someone to call and when he doesn't I go out and meet someone else. And sometimes that other guy is just too late and he lost.

 

The worst advice is that I should be intiating contact more than he is. Men are the pursuers. Do you really think women don't like being pursued? Look at nature in species- the man is pursuing- not the female and it's been that way for eons.

 

The only women who will chase are probably drunk at a bar looking for a good shag and will give you crabs. Any real catch who wants to feel like a real woman deserves expressed interest greater than what you show. But good luck on your advice that everyone thinks is crappy.

 

 

I agree with alphamale that women make the final decision about the relationship and how long they want it to last. Men have no say so in the matter.

 

A woman is either into you or she is not. If she is into you then neither hell nor highwater can stop her from going after her man. Yes you might have your pride but your interest will override your pride if it's genuine. If a woman makes half hearted attempts at getting in contact with you then she's not into you.

 

By the way who says that men have to be the pursuers? This is the 21st century. Maybe back in the 60s and earlier than that it was acceptable for man to do the pursuing but nowadays women are more finanically independent. Therefore if they want you they will come after you. It is more acceptable for the women to pursue now. Yes women do have the final say in the relationship.

 

I think alot of men pursue too much. They don't know when to stop. They ignore the red flags and hints that she's not into them yet they keep on kissing her butt. That just pushes her further away. Trust me if a woman has a choice between two men. One man plays hard to get, the other man is clingy and desperate. She will prefer to date the man who is playing hard to get.

 

Afterall it has been said that the right person/soulmate is most likely to come along when the man is not pursuing. I advise all men to work on self improvement whether it's improving apperance, getting a better job, discovering new hobbies, working out at the gym, etc, hang out with friends, make new friends of the same or opposite sex, go to the movies or restaraunt alone. Gentlemen if you do these things then fate & time will start to kick in & draw a woman to you.

 

The only way true way to find happiness is to work on self improvement for oneself. Don't do it for someone else. It has been my experience that any changes I make for other people do not stick. Only the changes I make for myself stick around. I change what I don't like about myself.

 

I've been out of a long term relationship for several months. I was clingy & smothering in that relationship and that's what caused its demise. I have been reprogramming my mind for the last 8 months or so & learning to be self sufficient. Women are attracted to self sufficient men. What do I mean? Men who act like they don't need anyone in their lives & are happy being single.

 

It has been my experience that whenever I go into a restaraunt to eat lunch or dinner alone while I have a smile on my face it raises a woman's curiousity. I usually bring a book to read while I'm waiting for my food. Some of the waitresses would ask me what I'm reading & I would tell them. Then some ask me if I had a gf and I would smile & say no. Afterwards I could see the countenance on some of their faces as if they were surprised at my answer. Maybe they wonder what makes a single guy like me content.

[TheTallOne]

Your guide is good...

 

To get insecure women.

 

Any "real" woman is not going to fall for that s***. Sorry.

[Groovy]

There's pursuing then smothering. I enjoy a phone call each day but not 3 times a day. I enjoying seeing him each week but not all the time in the beginning. There is a balance and each women has her pace. She needs to find the right man who moves along in the journey like she does.

 

I disagree if I am into a man I will pursue him. I live with my thoughts and not my heart because a heart makes foolish mistakes. I'm not the only one who goes by logic and tosses feelings to the wind.

 

It's OK too pursue a man being a woman. But you make it sound like it's our responsibility. Not a single women here has agreed to your post but yet you all think it's right so go on with your plan if you'd like.

[Guest]

I've been out of a long term relationship for several months. I was clingy & smothering in that relationship and that's what caused its demise. I have been reprogramming my mind for the last 8 months or so & learning to be self sufficient. Women are attracted to self sufficient men. What do I mean? Men who act like they don't need anyone in their lives & are happy being single.

 

I agree, I do not like a man who is extremely clingly. A little is nice, though. So if a girl is calling you and chasing after you all the time doesn't she seem needy and desperate to you? Is that not a turn off?

[Groovy]

You'll laugh and it's neurotic but I have a guide that goes against everything here. One day I was bored and created a score sheet for men. I was bitter and drunk at the time...

 

Looks

Money/ Ambition

Sex

Intellect

Bad Habits or Traits I'd like to change

Kind Heartedness & Morals

Emotional IQ

How much they like me

 

The last category is 40% of the score. Looks and money, good sex are part of the equation but how much effort he puts in and digs me is the biggest factor. That's measured in buying flowers or dinner, calling me, cuting my grass for me and all that good stuff. those are the ones that last. If he is great in all other categories but is some dork who doesn't call me or pursue me with special ways he's out of the game.

[Fun2BMe]

I disagree 100% with EVERYTHING you wrote. In the past two months I have been dating someone, I initiated the phone call ONCE and returned a call twice. All other times, I answered the phone when he called. I like to be pursued and know he is interested in me. Now that his calls are less frequent, I am prepared that things may come to an end. I'm not going to be degrading myself by calling him, plaing his game if he doesn't answer and all that cra*. Next.

 

And the one time I initiated the call, I let it ring twice, then hung up and he called right back.

[Chinook]

Women are attracted to self sufficient men. What do I mean? Men who act like they don't need anyone in their lives & are happy being single

 

The exact same thing can be said of single women. Men go after single women who don't need them all the time.

 

Every single time I've been into a guy and gone after him, he's run a mile. Act it the other way around like I don't care... they come after you.

 

It's all a game really. Waste of time if you ask me. I think I'm done dating. I like people. I like finding out about them and I like listening to people's stories and their lives. But, I have enough drama of my own without picking over someone elses - plus I'm too old for all these push/pull games that people play.

 

[radiation7740]

The exact same thing can be said of single women. Men go after single women who don't need them all the time.

 

Every single time I've been into a guy and gone after him, he's run a mile. Act it the other way around like I don't care... they come after you.

 

It's all a game really. Waste of time if you ask me. I think I'm done dating. I like people. I like finding out about them and I like listening to people's stories and their lives. But, I have enough drama of my own without picking over someone elses - plus I'm too old for all these push/pull games that people play.

 

 

 

I would say men go after the married women first because men know they can't have them.

[Fun2BMe]

I would say men go after the married women first because men know they can't have them.

I may be wrong, but isn't the typical scenerio of married men going after single women?

[radiation7740]

There's pursuing then smothering. I enjoy a phone call each day but not 3 times a day. I enjoying seeing him each week but not all the time in the beginning. There is a balance and each women has her pace. She needs to find the right man who moves along in the journey like she does.

 

I disagree if I am into a man I will pursue him. I live with my thoughts and not my heart because a heart makes foolish mistakes. I'm not the only one who goes by logic and tosses feelings to the wind.

 

It's OK too pursue a man being a woman. But you make it sound like it's our responsibility. Not a single women here has agreed to your post but yet you all think it's right so go on with your plan if you'd like.

 

 

 

The thing is in the 21st century most women are finanically independent. When a man sees that then if he has enough sense he knows there is no compelling reason to pursue her because she has no use for him. He knows that she is likely to find him disposable and reject him.

 

Men are like walking wallets in your eyes. Afterall if you are finanically independent you have no reason to go after a man unless you are really into him for who he is not for his material posessions. Gentlemen we are at the brink where alot of women have no use for us anyway. If she pursues me in spite of her finanical independence then I know there is a possibility that she is into me.

 

I say women have the final say in the matter because in the final analysis there is nothing a man can do to gain a woman's interest in him. However there is alot that a man can do to make her lose interest like chasing her, not being a challenge, not spacing out calls. I can make a woman lose interest but I can't make her gain interest.

[Fun2BMe]

That's sad you think women in most cases like to be with men only for financial gains. I can't think of any wedding I've been to where the woman was clearly marrying for money. In most cases they were either equal or the woman made a lot more, which is very common these days. You sound very bitter. Love is blind. That's if we are talking about love in the true sense of the word.