joel Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 ok met this gal off the online personals. if a girl decides to go out with you-lets say for coffee, and then next wk later for dinner at tgi's does the really mean shes interested in you. later on shes invites me to go clubbing with her freinds -which i end up meeting. shes says she'll introduce us as just friends, but she does mention pda, holding hands, cuddling=towards me as shes interseted. hmm what is happening. her last relationship she got dumped really bad-she told me thats why shes taking things slow-but it has also been a while-i'm like get over it. the girl i'm seeing right now works 8 hrs a day mon-fri and goes to school p/t 2 x's a wk for 2hrs each day. she tells me shes busy-we haven;t hung out in like 3wks now. should i buy it or not i phone her approx once a wk to see if she wants to hang out, lately shes been busy with school as i mentioned above. i phone her-she never phones me. she inviting me to her freinds party in a month from now. stating these points is she interested or she just playin around. i asked her on it and she says shes been very busy. essays for class is like 20 pages and dues in 2 wks. i asked her if shes into me and she said kind of. we knew each other for a month-went out 2x's and 1 time meeting her friends. so we barely know each other. how can i make her as my gf. how do i show her without saying "i want you to be my gf" . also i haven't -held her hand, kissed her, or any physical thing. i'm shy and inexperience at my age of 25- no gf , hardly ever dated. so i really need help. thanks guys
obsession Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 i'm sorry, but you're coming across as too needy and insecure. you seemed like a nice guy, but people have different timeframe of getting over their ex. for you to say "it's a while get so over it" shows just how inconsiderate you are to her need (versus your need to get a girlfriend). IMHO, I think she only likes you as a friend. personally, i would be majorly turned off by someone who constantly needs reassurance when you haven't even establish a relationship yet.
SuperMonk Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 Man, you gotta do a search on the internet for "Ladder Theory" , You are in friends hell and your position is "Cuddle B!tch" . Oh yeah , is your girlfriend? No, but you are to her. Go to that website and stop hanging around this girl, she's cramping your manhood.
agnf666 Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 By reading your post, I think so maybe thinking things are going too fast for her. Depending on her last relationship, when they broke up is a key factor here. So, peobably needs so more time alone to figure things out. She's just not ready to date yet, she thought she might be but she is just not ready.
cupidette Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 joel, don't waste any more time with her. If she calls you, just tell her you are busy. Let her figure it out. The key is to never become unbusy, you are done with her. If you feel you need to waste more time with her, then that is up to you.
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