Not being able to ask a girl out...

[YAmISoStupid]

Hey everyone i am a high school junior and ive only had one girlfriend a long time ago, I like to think i am pretty confident with women, i am a good flirt, but i cant ask girls out. I have already gone through a few girls where they like me for a long time, i like them, but i cant ask them out. Now I'm afraid i am going to do the same thing with this girl i like now. She has given me signals clear as day to ask her out, but for some reason when it gets to be time to do it the time wont feel right or i cant say it. Any help with this, I dont know if its something anyone can help me with but myself but i guess it couldnt hurt. thanks

[phyrespryte]

Sorry I dont have better advice than this...

 

JUST DO IT.

 

Damn Nike was smart.

Seriously though. Moments will never feel right because you're scared and you're probably thinking way too hard. What is helpful is practice. The more you do this the easier it'll be. What sort of worked for me was to come up with something to do, then figure out how to say and ask it, repeat it in my head over and over till it felt natural, then forget about out it until I see them again.

 

Hope that helped. Good luck!

[vampress1]

keep it casual... is there a school event like a baseball game or something you could go to together? If she already has plans to go with friends, say something like "cool, i'll probably see you there then..."

The thing to keep in mind is girls love confidence. This is not something everyone has, but it can be faked!

If you are nervous, stick to "dates" where there are other peers around (as buffers for uncomfortable silences)... parties, sporting events, dances etc. One on one dates are almost always awkward when you're new to the dating scene.

Good luck!

[YAmISoStupid]

The thing is, i am definetly not shy around girls, even the girl i would like to date (however she is pretty shy around me). arg ya the practicing it thing is a good idea, maybe ill try that for monday.