OdenallPi Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 I like this young lady a lot, and I have had a crush on her for more than two years now, during which time we've been friends. We have a lot of similar interests and enjoy going to movies, concerts, etc. When we hang out, oftentimes it feels more like a date than anything else, but I respect her, and I never made any kind of move on her because she had a boyfriend. And more recently, also because I had a girlfriend. Well, she broke up with hers over a month ago. I broke up with mine last week (it wasn't an ugly break, just a matter of different needs). The logical thing seems that it would be to ask this young woman out. We continue to hang out often, and I feel like we have amazing chemistry. Still, I wonder if she isn't one of those rare beings who everyone feels like they have chemistry with. She has complained to me that since her break up, fourteen guys have asked her out, most of them mentioning that they had felt this "connection" with her too. Some of them were like me; friends beforehand. She seems to be genuinely discouraged about this situation, and though my feelings for her are only getting stronger, I don't want to put her in an awkward situation. I feel like I might be betraying her trust if I do, and either way, I do not want to jeopardize our friendship because it means a lot to me. What are your thoughts?
MadDog Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 I wouldn't necessarily be too quick to become number 15. Why don't you continue to hang out with her and see if she shows any interest in you beyond friendship? See if there's a change in behavior. If she just acts the same as you two always have, she probably isn't interested. If she does start acting differently though, that might be a green light and you might as well try it out.
mini696 Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 I have a friend like this too... Having all these guys like her can be fun, but can also be real annoying because she cant find a genuine friend (especially male) who doesnt just want to sleep with her. Is she aware that you feel the way you do? All I can suggest is go real slow and basically show her how great a guy you can be... When a girl is upset over having friends crack onto her, you will only make things worse by adding your name to that list. If you find some way of explaining it to her, tell me because I would love to know.
obsession Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 You could ask her out on a "date". She has all the guys chasing her, so you can be sure that she's not going to make a move (even if she likes you). If you really like her (and now that the opportunity is here since she's not with her boyfriend anymore), don't pass it up. How many more years are you going to wait if one you get a S/O again? The worst that could happen? She could reject you and things might get awkward for a bit. But if you are good friends, it will pass. Are you sure you're not being her friend because there's that chance that you COULD be more than friends?
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