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she needs space to finish collage.how can i keep from loosing her after a 5mo break


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She and i are almost four years apart in age. I am 26 and she is 22. She was a senior in high school and i was in community collage when we started dateing. We have been together for nearly five years now.All and all it was a good relationship. There was never any cheating on either side even though there were opportunities. We have made it through many good times and bad. We were even able to keep up a long dist. relationship for almost four years when she went off to collage on her own. It is about three hours away from where i live and work now, but we drove it every weekend to see each other. I have loved her from the minute i layed eyes on her, she is one of the most beautiful people that i have ever known, inside and out. She is honest, selfless, trustworthy, and everything i could ever want in a woman. Over the past year we both have had our fair share of ...growing up the hard way. Her family is her foundation, the one thing she was sure she could always count on. Well, about a year ago her mom secretly confided in her that she was about to leave her dad. She had to keep this secret from her father which she adores with all of her heart. Then my gf found out that her mom had been having an affair with another man for quite some time. This completely shattered everything she thought she knew about happiness in relationships. Her parents had been married over thirty years and had to children and raised them perfectly. she also has an older sister who is my age that i went through high school with. i wasnt exactly part of her crowd and she has done everything in her power to sabotage our relationship from day one. About a month ago she went to jamica for a few days with her sister and her sisters friends. The day she gets back she says those dreaded four words......we need to talk. then she goes on to tell me that she feels like she has missed out on so much in collage, like hanging out with her girfriends and the things you cant normally do with a boyfriend in tow. she has about four or five months of collage left and she says that after she graduates we can talk about a relationship again... maybe. She swears up and down that she still loves me and is still in love with me and dosent want to date anyone else. She just says that she wants the space to do what she wants to in her last stretch of collage.

Its only been a month and i am going completely out of my mind. i love her so much it hurts to breath sometimes. I guess what i really want to know is, what do i need to do to be sure she will want me back after all that time. what can i do to keep that spark we used to have before all of the drama. We are still friends and we talk every day. but sometimes i break down and loose it while im talking to her. i feel so lost. i know that her sister is doing everything she can to get her to hook up with someone else, and there is nothing i can do to stop it. if anyone else has been in this kind of situation, let me know how you handled it and what happned. i love her so much and i dont think i can bare to go on without her much longer

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