Dumbkid06 Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 So over the past 2 months i cheated on my gf with my ex. My gf found out about this by logging onto my computer and looking up my internet chat history and found our conversations. So now its all broken up and im not here to ask how to get back together because even though that might still be what i want, i know its an impossibility at this time. The thing i dont get is why did i even do this? It was my philosophy for the longest time that i wouldnt cheat on my gf's and then when it seems i have the best gf in the world i cheated on her. I dont get why i did this and i havnt been able to talk to anyone about this since it happened. ( yesterday). The thing is i loved my gf and she loved me and the attraction to my ex was only sexual but it was the one thing i felt was lacking in my current relationship. Maybe its just male tendency to get tired of things after a while but i still dont understand how i could hurt someone like that that i had loved so much. any speculation would be greatly appreciated and please dont flame me for this, im killing myself enough over this...
laRubiaBonita Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 what exactly did she find out? how long where you two together?
Author Dumbkid06 Posted May 5, 2006 Author Posted May 5, 2006 she saw us talking about what we had "done" a couple weeks before and me and this girl had been together for a year and 3 months which is the longest i have had a gf.. and i was her first bf ever.
laRubiaBonita Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 call it an experience to chalk up there and leave her alone.
Author Dumbkid06 Posted May 5, 2006 Author Posted May 5, 2006 i guess.. this forum is all full of, for the most part good people and now i feel like im the enemy which hurts everyone and these good people. I came here to reconcile with what i had done but it wasjust me that was in the wrong here. thanks for posting larubiabonita, although i feel alot like how you described your ex which seemed like a total a**h***. Is there anything i can do to make my ex gf's life any better, i was her first bf and first everything and now shes more hurt that i care to imagine and theres nothing i can seem to do.
mini696 Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 There is nothing you can do... You WERE an a**h*** to her, and you are NOT going to be the person to make things better... Well done for feeling guilty though... I hope you never do it again.
CYlai Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 oh gosh... As a lady, my best advice for you is, leave her alone. Cheers, CY
laRubiaBonita Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 if you really want her back, you will have to the best bf ever ever ever....and never do anything suspect, never have any contact with the other chic again, tall her you are sorry....maybe cry. but then you will just have to see if she wants to deal with it, AGAIN. you can try your hardest, but it is up to her now.
a4a Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 if you really want her back, you will have to the best bf ever ever ever....and never do anything suspect, never have any contact with the other chic again, tall her you are sorry....maybe cry. but then you will just have to see if she wants to deal with it, AGAIN. you can try your hardest, but it is up to her now. Maybe Cry crawl, beg, buy things, and cry some more! Why did you cheat on her? If you really cannot respect her, be faithful, or truly care for her...... do her a favor and let her go. Don't use her any more. Do you really think that getting back with her is in her best interest or are you just being selfish again?
Guest Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 Why did you cheat on her? If you really cannot respect her, be faithful, or truly care for her...... do her a favor and let her go. Don't use her any more. Do you really think that getting back with her is in her best interest or are you just being selfish again? i really dont know, i wish i had a valid reason. i had to leave work today because i couldnt pull myself together.
Pantero Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 Just leave it alone, man. Let it go. In time, you will have a chance to do right with another g/f which you will inevitably meet - given the fact that you do get over this and find the answers for yourself.
laRubiaBonita Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 this is just one of those lessons learned the hardway..... and sometimes the hardway can provide more clarity in the long run.
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