begood2urself Posted May 4, 2006 Posted May 4, 2006 I just started dating this girl recently. I don't know how I feel about it. I wasn't (are not) on the market for a relationship, I was actually happy being single, since my last gf was devastating. I met this woman, we hit it off... We feel extremely comfortable around each other, even though we have only been hanging out for a couple of weeks. But I am freaking out!? There was a reason why I haven't been in a relationship for a while... that being the fact that they make me crazy, angsty, insecure and bring up all my baggage. She knows that I don't want a girlfriend, but she is still willing to hang out with me, even though its developing into that. We get along great but, we also annoy each other and have mini fights all the time... its reminds me of all of my other relationships and I don't like it. I actually hate it. I don't feel like dealing with my issues right now I was happy just where I was. She tells me that a good and healthy relationship is what will help me get the bad relationship taste out of my mouth. But I feel like she is almost trying to convince me. I like her a lot, I feel a connection, but I want to end things with her, its not even about her, I just can't deal with all of the sh*t this is bringing up for me. Advaice anyone?
Walk Posted May 4, 2006 Posted May 4, 2006 Hiding from your problems won't make them go away. But aside from that... If you've just started dating and already constantly having mini-fights?? Seems like a red flag to me. I'm not too sure it's your baggage your feeling, or that this girl just isn't right for you. What kind of mini-fights? Like, over what, and what takes place? Also, I strongly believe in not dating until you're emotionally and mentally ready too. It just leads to too many problems later down the road. Hurt feelings for both partners that could've been avoided if you'd waited until you were ready. (I'm just using "you" as a generic term for anyone. I realize you've told her you weren't ready many times already.) If you can give a description, or account of some of these mini-fights, that might be helpful. How long have you been dating? A few weeks? A few months?
Alexandra Posted May 4, 2006 Posted May 4, 2006 If you've just started dating and already constantly having mini-fights?? Seems like a red flag to me. Hahaha Walk, seen that? The OP posted the same thing twice, we must have said the exact same thing with the red flag at the same time on each of them.
Walk Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 I just saw the post in the other forum. I hate that. Then no one answers, and the OP never comes back to check if anyone answered anyway. BIG RED FLAGS!! Great minds think alike, eh?
Alexandra Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 I just saw the post in the other forum. I hate that. Then no one answers, and the OP never comes back to check if anyone answered anyway. BIG RED FLAGS!! Great minds think alike, eh? *Missing blush smiley* We sure as heck do No wonder you never saw my reply on your rant thread either... you go by sub-forums. I for one just click "New posts".
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