Author Lishy Posted May 7, 2006 Author Posted May 7, 2006 I like Alpha's wit too ... He hits home most of the time and also gives us the insight into how a playa thinks! I just dont think he is the playa he acts like he is! I also do not think he gets the women like he says he does! A guy like that simply would not consider even coming to Loveshack! He probably posts his real problems here under a pseudo name! I would love to hear about the 'real' him!
Touche Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 I like Alpha's wit too ... He hits home most of the time and also gives us the insight into how a playa thinks! I just dont think he is the playa he acts like he is! I also do not think he gets the women like he says he does! A guy like that simply would not consider even coming to Loveshack! He probably posts his real problems here under a pseudo name! I would love to hear about the 'real' him! I agree with everything you said but you know what? I'm not quite as curious as you are about hearing about the "real" Alpha. I think I have a pretty good idea of what he's all about. He's pretty transparent really. There'd be no big surprises and I think you know that too. Yes, he's a BIG BS'er, but he's fun and direct and I like that. Hell, I don't have to be his g/f, so it's all good!
Author Lishy Posted May 7, 2006 Author Posted May 7, 2006 Yup so true Touche! He can be whome he wants to be ..... I ain't married to him so I dont care lol
hyakku Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Damnit I find an interesting thread and I'm 7 pages too late. All well. I'm sure most people on LS don't agree with most of my morals, I'm probably most similar to Alpha, though even in most respects I can disagree with him in many ways, however I agree 100% with him this time. No matter what bulls*** women want to say, they love the chase. At least, like he said, Attractive and intelligent women do. Why? Because men always cahse them and do the same things OVER and OVER again. What the f*** is taking her out to an expensive restaurant going to achieve? Its gonna bring up the same feelings that the other 20 guys gave her when they took her to that restaurant. As Alpha, I can 100% say that I am indifferent to women when I meet them. In fact, if I DO find myself feeling even in the least bit attracted where my decisions and normal behavior (teh way I should be acting) are compromised, I literally go inside my head and usually say the following, "Stop f***ing around. There are 3 Billion other women out there, she hasn't done s*** to impress you yet. When she impresses you, THEN you can be attracted". If it doesn't work the first time I say it, I say it again until I remember it. I'm not going give a woman brownie points just because she looks good. s*** I could go across the GWB and get a hooker that looks good. What matters is how they can impress me and prove themselves to me. Where alpha says he bores easily with women, I think I can better explain for him (if you don't mind me doing so ). Many women do get, EXTREMELY boring, no matter how good they look. Until you can find that woman that keeps that tension going, all the time, and you are ALWAYS having fun, women do get boring easily. IN fact, not to sound cruel, but if you put a real man (REAL, I'm sure you know what I'm talking about), and an incredibly beautiful woman in the same room, if she doesn't have her s*** together, the guy will NOT stay with her for looks. No matter what your mommies and daddies told you growing up, when you find the one out of maybe 10,000 guys that is a REAL man, if you aren't up to scratch you get cut. Right now I'm working to become more of a man, right now I do all the things a real man does, but I still think I can ascend, and sometimes I do screw up, and let a woman use her looks to get her way at times, this is why I'm happy I can still improve. But if a woman looks great, but is boring as hell, all she's getting from me is sex, and she's a fool if she thinks I;m going to stick around longer if all she does is talking about shopping and mundane s***. Lishy, the games aren't "Needed", but you have to ask, are you settling? It almost sounds like you've given up. I absolutely love when women play the game with me, it let's me know, "its on". It also let's me know that I may have a potential woman that might be useful for something OTHER than sex. Yea it sounds cruel, but its true. I;m not going to ssubject myself to the pain of havin ga boring woman, just because I have a chance of "changing" her to my liking, or because I'll "get used" to her. That's not how it works. You should be attracted and having fun with the person, the entire duration of the relationship, when that stops, I end it. Most people try to, "work on their relationship", to me thats a bunch of bulls***. I'm sure alpha and I and other could argue for days, what it comes down to in the end is.....who's getting laid more .
Touche Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Damnit I find an interesting thread and I'm 7 pages too late. All well. I'm sure most people on LS don't agree with most of my morals, I'm probably most similar to Alpha, though even in most respects I can disagree with him in many ways, however I agree 100% with him this time. No matter what bulls*** women want to say, they love the chase. At least, like he said, Attractive and intelligent women do. Why? Because men always cahse them and do the same things OVER and OVER again. What the f*** is taking her out to an expensive restaurant going to achieve? Its gonna bring up the same feelings that the other 20 guys gave her when they took her to that restaurant. As Alpha, I can 100% say that I am indifferent to women when I meet them. In fact, if I DO find myself feeling even in the least bit attracted where my decisions and normal behavior (teh way I should be acting) are compromised, I literally go inside my head and usually say the following, "Stop f***ing around. There are 3 Billion other women out there, she hasn't done s*** to impress you yet. When she impresses you, THEN you can be attracted". If it doesn't work the first time I say it, I say it again until I remember it. I'm not going give a woman brownie points just because she looks good. s*** I could go across the GWB and get a hooker that looks good. What matters is how they can impress me and prove themselves to me. Where alpha says he bores easily with women, I think I can better explain for him (if you don't mind me doing so ). Many women do get, EXTREMELY boring, no matter how good they look. Until you can find that woman that keeps that tension going, all the time, and you are ALWAYS having fun, women do get boring easily. IN fact, not to sound cruel, but if you put a real man (REAL, I'm sure you know what I'm talking about), and an incredibly beautiful woman in the same room, if she doesn't have her s*** together, the guy will NOT stay with her for looks. No matter what your mommies and daddies told you growing up, when you find the one out of maybe 10,000 guys that is a REAL man, if you aren't up to scratch you get cut. Right now I'm working to become more of a man, right now I do all the things a real man does, but I still think I can ascend, and sometimes I do screw up, and let a woman use her looks to get her way at times, this is why I'm happy I can still improve. But if a woman looks great, but is boring as hell, all she's getting from me is sex, and she's a fool if she thinks I;m going to stick around longer if all she does is talking about shopping and mundane s***. Lishy, the games aren't "Needed", but you have to ask, are you settling? It almost sounds like you've given up. I absolutely love when women play the game with me, it let's me know, "its on". It also let's me know that I may have a potential woman that might be useful for something OTHER than sex. Yea it sounds cruel, but its true. I;m not going to ssubject myself to the pain of havin ga boring woman, just because I have a chance of "changing" her to my liking, or because I'll "get used" to her. That's not how it works. You should be attracted and having fun with the person, the entire duration of the relationship, when that stops, I end it. Most people try to, "work on their relationship", to me thats a bunch of bulls***. I'm sure alpha and I and other could argue for days, what it comes down to in the end is.....who's getting laid more . Funny but I agreed with just about everything you said here. Only difference being that I can say the same thing but just switch the genders since I'm a woman.
hyakku Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Funny but I agreed with just about everything you said here. Only difference being that I can say the same thing but just switch the genders since I'm a woman. Its too bad everyone doesn't think this way, everyone would be improving themselves and the human race as a whole would be better. Too many people settle and it leads the "average" people to believe they can get away with just being "blah".
Author Lishy Posted May 7, 2006 Author Posted May 7, 2006 I agree with everything said as well! A guy has to be interesting to me as well and have the same wacky sense of humour that I have - Laughing is so important to me. BUT I have to say that 'interesting' and 'game playing' are too very different things. Game playing does not make you feel good - It makes you feel insecure and can actually make you feel sick at times. It turns decent, normal, balanced women into psycho freaks who freak out and embarress themselves by acting like some nutter straight from the funny farm! That happens because they feel so insecure and unsure. Whilst it is not good to be predictable and boring it is also not good to just stop contact for a day or two out of the blue, for no reason - There is a fine line and once it is crossed there is no going back IMHO for a relationship (in any sense) to work, you need trust and respect - How can you trust or respect a guy/girl who blows hot and cold and you dont know where you stand? It just breeds insecurity and that is no help to anyone! We all love a bit of what we cant have and we all like to win the prize, but if you make the chase too long then the prize, all of a sudden, is not worth winnning! This guy I have met is really nice, he is not too full on and he makes me laugh so much, he has a great sense of humour and we can chat so freely It has only been a week, I dont wanna get married or have a serious relationship and I am not taking it serious at all - I am used to game playing men who make me feel nervous and unsure and I can tell you it is refreshing to meet a man who makes me smile with his texts and burst out laughing face to face! None of us is playing games and it feels good, yet weird as I am used to the games! That is why I started this thread!
basscatcher Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 WOW this thread got interesting since the last time I was here... I have to agree with EVERYONE's opinions.. For me: It's the men who are unique that keep themselves in my 'psychie'. There is a aire of mystery about them that keeps me interested in getting to know them...I can't predict them... Predictability is what is boring.. that is what looses my interest. (Maybe this is what Alpha is referring too. When a woman becomes completely predictable he gets bored with her. He looses interest in her.) I am like this with men. Like I said earlier, the men who keep me interested tend to be: spontanious, exciting, playful, flirty, mysterious, adventurous, and romantic. A man can do all this if he is creative and imaginitive. BUT once he starts humiliating me as a woman.. Ignoring me, avoiding me, going ALOOF on me, treating me negatively I will loose interest fast.. If I like a man and he likes me he better damn well show it or ~poof~ he will be gone or pushed on the back burner while I go play in someone else's sandbox.. visa-a-versa!! ------------after posting this Lishy put it all together very nicely. Well done girlie!!!!!!!!!!! Bravo..
MadDog Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Lishy made a good point. A guy who is hot and cold is actually quite insecure compared to the guy who can show interest consistently. Think about it. I consider myself a confident guy and I have no issues with letting a girl know I'm into her. I'm also putting myself at greater risk because there's always a chance she won't be as into me at which point I'm SOL. If I play the whole hot and cold game, if it turns out she's not into me, I can just say, "Oh well, I wasn't that into her." It takes confidence to show consitent interest. Ironically, I think this is one of the few types of displays of confidence that some girls won't respond to. Then again, those girls are also drama queens (because they love staying up at night wondering if their guy is blowing them off) and I don't like drama queens--no huge loss there.
alphamale Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 I just dont think he is the playa he acts like he is! I also do not think he gets the women like he says he does! A guy like that simply would not consider even coming to Loveshack! He probably posts his real problems here under a pseudo name! I would love to hear about the 'real' him! Here's the real Alpha: - I am an excellent mix of feminine and masculine - I believe in education and being smart - I believe in being well rounded - I believe in tradtional values and roles when it comes to the sexes - I was married once for 3 yrs, no kids, I divorced her - I usually so the breaking up with women. I get bored or they want too much from me (marriage, etc...) - I am mostly honest with women and tell them what I want and never promise what I cannot deliver - My father is a physician and I respect and look up to him - My mother was a well-educated housewife who gave up her career for her 3 boys - I was born in england and my family came to the US when I was seven - I am sensitive on the insided and exude masculinity on the outside - I can take care of myself, cooking, cleaning, etc... I can even sew a button on my shirt. I am independent and need no woman for that crap. - I am successful and college-educated and work for one of the 100 largest companies in the US. - I like hanging out on LS cause its fun - I've slept with probably 40+ women which includes LTRs, one-nighters, etc... what else u want to know?
Author Lishy Posted May 7, 2006 Author Posted May 7, 2006 To show interest keeps the security there so when you act un-predictable it does not cause too much damage and make a girl/guy go all nutso and therefore ruin what COULD have been a good match! It is important to keep things exciting .... Who can give tips on how to keep a guy/girl interested but not insecure?????? Or is that a whole new thread?
Author Lishy Posted May 7, 2006 Author Posted May 7, 2006 Here's the real Alpha: - I am an excellent mix of feminine and masculine - I believe in education and being smart - I believe in being well rounded - I believe in tradtional values and roles when it comes to the sexes - I was married once for 3 yrs, no kids, I divorced her - I usually so the breaking up with women. I get bored or they want too much from me (marriage, etc...) - I am mostly honest with women and tell them what I want and never promise what I cannot deliver - My father is a physician and I respect and look up to him - My mother was a well-educated housewife who gave up her career for her 3 boys - I was born in england and my family came to the US when I was seven - I am sensitive on the insided and exude masculinity on the outside - I can take care of myself, cooking, cleaning, etc... I can even sew a button on my shirt. I am independent and need no woman for that crap. - I am successful and college-educated and work for one of the 100 largest companies in the US. - I like hanging out on LS cause its fun - I've slept with probably 40+ women which includes LTRs, one-nighters, etc... what else u want to know? Well thank you for sharing that Alpha! I am impressed ...... but what I would really like to know is the reason you first came to this site? I would also like to know about your love life right now! Oh and also have you ever had your heart broken? Also Alpha, what makes a woman boring to you?
MadDog Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Here's the real Alpha: - I am an excellent mix of feminine and masculine I thought alphamales were all masculinity and no femininity. Then again, you did admit to drinking rum and diet coke in the past. (Just giving you a hard time).
Touche Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 To show interest keeps the security there so when you act un-predictable it does not cause too much damage and make a girl/guy go all nutso and therefore ruin what COULD have been a good match! It is important to keep things exciting .... Who can give tips on how to keep a guy/girl interested but not insecure?????? Or is that a whole new thread? I could give you tips but I thought this wasn't your style? If you're not comfortable with it, you won't put it into practice.
alphamale Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Well thank you for sharing that Alpha! no problem I am impressed ...... but what I would really like to know is the reason you first came to this site? I was on a men's magazine's forum for about 6 months and got banned permanently because I said that a famous american bicyclist got testicular cancer by having anal sex with other men. The repeated blows to his nut-sack caused the cancer.....It was a joke but apparetly one in bad taste (I kid you not here, this is true). I looked around for a few months and settled on LS in Nov of 2004. I would also like to know about your love life right now! I was dating a woman casually for six months and broke up with her on Feb 14, Valentines Day. Oh and also have you ever had your heart broken? of course, hasn't most everyone? Also Alpha, what makes a woman boring to you? the fact that there are other women out there
Author Lishy Posted May 7, 2006 Author Posted May 7, 2006 I could give you tips but I thought this wasn't your style? If you're not comfortable with it, you won't put it into practice. I am not saying that I will use them hon, I am completely refusing to play ANY games with this guy, he does not deserve that right now .... I should not have used the words 'tips' - I just want to know what it is that makes a girl/guy more interesting/less boring/more of a challenge to the other sex!
Author Lishy Posted May 7, 2006 Author Posted May 7, 2006 Alpha ......... Do you ever feel like one day you would like to settle down? Do you think that is achievable with the way you treat women right now? Do you think there is a Miss Right out there for you or do you just want to dick around for the rest of your life? Plus, how old are you?
alphamale Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Do you ever feel like one day you would like to settle down? Do you think that is achievable with the way you treat women right now? I'm really not interested in that. It would be quite a rare woman who could keep my interest for more than six months. If the right woman comes along who can tame me then so be it, I will settle down with her. Do you think there is a Miss Right out there for you or do you just want to dick around for the rest of your life? until miss right comes around I'll settle for a number of miss right nows Plus, how old are you? 41
Author Lishy Posted May 7, 2006 Author Posted May 7, 2006 So Alpha you are not getting any nookie at the moment? I am quite the same that I do not want a relationship but I have lots of very valid reasons and not just cos 'there are lots of other guys out there' I have a feeling that you have a real reason too!
Touche Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 If you met the right one, you wouldn't care about the fact that there are other women out there. It's sad, that at your age you haven't met THE one but it happens. I know lots of people in their 40's who haven't. Lishy, I think some people already answered your question. Don't be predictable. Don't ALWAYS be available in the beginning. Let him see that you have a life of your own. Do NOT chase HIM. Do NOT call him. You can call him BACK but don't initiate the call. It's too soon for all of that. Offer to pay when he invites you out sometimes. Do NOT fall in bed too soon. Do NOT initiate anything physical. Do NOT touch him too much. Do NOT reveal too much of your past, especially when it comes to relationships, too soon. Talk about your interests and ask him about his. REALLY listen to what he says and really show interest in what he's saying. Let him talk. That's all I can think of for now. I'm sure others will have more.
alphamale Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 So Alpha you are not getting any nookie at the moment? nope, and its by my choice. I'm in a cooling out period. Sort of in-between-women. i need to recharge my batteries. Women take a lot of energy out of me.
Touche Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 nope, and its by my choice. I'm in a cooling out period. Sort of in-between-women. i need to recharge my batteries. Women take a lot of energy out of me. Again. You've been with the wrong ones then. The right one wouldnt drain you. With the right one, it's EASY. It's not work. It's fun. It's relaxed. And it's not demanding. A good relationship shouldn't be high maintenance.
alphamale Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 Again. You've been with the wrong ones then. I pick the "wrong ones" on purpose because then I don't have to worry about commitment or a serious relationship, etc... The less I have invested in any particular female, the better. Personally, I don't know how any man can stay with the same woman for years and years. I'd slit my throat.
MadDog Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 I pick the "wrong ones" on purpose because then I don't have to worry about commitment or a serious relationship, etc... The less I have invested in any particular female, the better. It sounds like you're just afraid of being hurt. Anything worthwhile takes courage and a strong will my friend.
alphamale Posted May 7, 2006 Posted May 7, 2006 It sounds like you're just afraid of being hurt. probably MD....enough about me, let's talk about someone else
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