Guest Posted May 4, 2006 Posted May 4, 2006 While my husband was away in the army, I found out through my own snooping and gut feeling that he was cheating on me. After alot of poking and prodding he has so far admitted to 30 women, and has a child with one. I found this out 4 years ago, since then he has not done much to help me get through it, not even cutting off contact with the women. He has not shown me much affection, or desire since then, he says maybe he has a problem. Over the last few months he has joined myspace, and added several female coworkers as friends and spends hours looking at local women on it. Within the last 3 weeks he has started going to his friends house 2 times a week for what he say's is a martial arts class the guy teaches. One day he even took a shower before going and put on cologn, strange i thought since he was going to roll around with guys. I have also noticed he has several female coworkers phone numbers on his cell phone but has called one of them 3 times in the last 2 weeks, twice while he was at work. And the third one was yesterday, he was going to go to his friends house for class, then ended up not because he had our son asleep on him and i had to go pick up our daughter. I found last night he called this women right after I had left the house. last week i told him i wanted a divorce and that i had my suspicions of what he was doing now days, his responce was i could shove the divorce papers up my ass he wasnt signing nothing, and my suspicions are completely unfounded. He always has a way of making me feel like the smallest pos, and like im the one in the wrong. But why would he be calling this woman? Am i crazy?
vampress1 Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 Where is your self respect? What kind of role-model are the two of you for your children? This post is ridiculous!! You know exactly what needs to be done... speak to a lawyer. On a side note, have you been tested? 30 WOMEN?!?! If your hubby has a child with one of his flings, he's clearly not using protection... gross!! GET OUT! GET OUT! GET OUT!!
SoleMate Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 You're not crazy, you just feel that way because you're married to a hardcore, brazen, serial cheater who verbally abuses you to boot. I truly don't understand why such a man would marry at all. It must be pure selfishness. You can certainly get divorced without your husband's cooperation in any state in the US. There may be some extra issues since he is in the military, partiularly if he is deployed. His lack of cooperation will make things slower and more expensive, but he can't stop it happening. "If you or your spouse is in the military, additional considerations may apply to your divorce. Military divorces can differ from standard family law cases in regards to: Domicile and residency requirements for filing and service of process Compliance with military rules and regulations regarding family support Military retired pay as marital property under the Uniformed Services Former Spouses Protection Act (USFSPA) Military retirement benefits Service-member's Civil Relief Act (SCRA)" Good luck, please keep posting so we can give you advice and support.
Scott S Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 Do whatever you must do to extract yourself from this. Whatever is required, it cannot possibly be any worse than what you are living with now! You would be better off living inside the old Chernobyl reactor than remaining in this relationship!
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