unsafe Posted May 4, 2006 Posted May 4, 2006 So I dated this guy last year for about 4 months. We had been friends for about two years before that. Things ended badly. We had a good relationship or so I though, but then one day he changed and flaked on me and just didn't try anymore. I figured it was one of those I'm just not that into you things. After we broke things off he confirmed he had gotten back with an ex girlfriend. Yet he kept in contact with me every way he could. He would text me or e-mail me. Then about 3 months after we broke things off he started telling him how much he messed how wrong he was and he was a mess and missed me. I talked to him but I never gave in to see him or anything. He hurt me, I really liked him. ANd I didnt' know why but now then I knew why he treated me this way. He has said he once another chance but everytime he asks me out. He wants me to go up to him and leaves about 30 minutes away from me. And since he messed up I think he should make the effort and come to me. I finally told him about a month ago if you want to see me you will have to come down here. Then Friday almost a week ago he called me he hasn't called me in so long. And asked me to dinner. But I already had plans. So I said sorry but I can't. He said well there I go putting myself out there. I don't understand. He wanted me to drop everything for him to have dinner. Yeah I had strong feelings for him but he hurt me? Then today we talked on AIM. He said he thought we had good times. I miss him. I think I'm crazy. He knows how I felt, I just don't know why I feel like I want him around again. Does it sound like he wants a second chance?
jerbear Posted May 4, 2006 Posted May 4, 2006 you won't know till you talk to him. Do protect yourself in case he does not want a second chance. Do you really want a 2nd chance with him? 3rd 4th chance? since you have feelings, I say talk to him but no sex, hugs, kisses, or gropings.
Author unsafe Posted May 4, 2006 Author Posted May 4, 2006 Thanks, I think he wants another chance he just wants me to pursue him. And I think he should pursue me. After all he was the one that went back to his ex.
jerbear Posted May 4, 2006 Posted May 4, 2006 Thanks, I think he wants another chance he just wants me to pursue him. And I think he should pursue me. After all he was the one that went back to his ex. I see he has to prove his worth? I hate to say this, sometimes the prey has to wiggle its tail for the predator to chase. Like this so goto dinner and split the bill.
daphne Posted May 4, 2006 Posted May 4, 2006 I totally disagree. I think you're right unsafe. He went back to his ex and hurt you. If he's serious about wanting another chance, he'd man up and do it on your terms. He'd come to you and try to make up for it. Everything else is half assed. Do you want half assed back?
blue skies Posted May 4, 2006 Posted May 4, 2006 I think if he wants you back that much, he would come to you. Its not like you are outright rejecting him and he has reason to be afraid to come. You are being very reasonable. The prey may need to wiggle its tail, but do you want to be prey? Or do you want a good relationship? It sounds to me like he is being a bit childish. sorry..... Blue skies.
Lishy Posted May 4, 2006 Posted May 4, 2006 it sounds like he is at a loose end! Dont be his back burner girl honey! You know he has the tools to hurt you and he feels no pain when he does! Onwards and upwards and dont look back is my advise! Kick him to the kerb!
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