kscholze Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 I went out with this girl last night (not specified as a date), and things went well. She emailed me first thing this morning saying she had a great time and could really use another friend in the city. Does that mean that any romantic possibilities are out the door?
Pyro Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 I went out with this girl last night (not specified as a date), and things went well. She emailed me first thing this morning saying she had a great time and could really use another friend in the city. Does that mean that any romantic possibilities are out the door? She used the word friend, so it could be a bad sign. Ask her out again and this time act a little more flirty and see how she reacts. if she acts distant, then she only wants to be friends.
Author kscholze Posted May 2, 2006 Author Posted May 2, 2006 I thought so too, another question is. Why would she email me first? I would think she would have waited for me.
Pyro Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 I thought so too, another question is. Why would she email me first? I would think she would have waited for me. Waited for you to do what?
Author kscholze Posted May 2, 2006 Author Posted May 2, 2006 oh, to make first contact. I am thinking way to much. Havent had to do the whole dating thing in a while
MadDog Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 I thought so too, another question is. Why would she email me first? I would think she would have waited for me. It's likely she e-mailed you first to be polite (e.g. to say thanks) and to let you know in her own cryptic XX ways that she's interested in you as a friend and not a boyfriend. It would have been better if she e-mailed you and straight up said, "I enjoyed our outing but I don't want you to get the wrong idea. I'm not interested in dating you." but only 1% of girls will be that cool, if that. So in other words, don't take her taking the initiative to e-mail you as hope.
Author kscholze Posted May 2, 2006 Author Posted May 2, 2006 I just figured if she wasnt interested she wouldnt have emailed at all. How could she not like me..Im freaking HOT ;-) jk
Pyro Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 oh, to make first contact. I am thinking way to much. Havent had to do the whole dating thing in a while I would think that if she were interested, she would have called you, instead of email. Some tend to use email instead because they are afraid to talk to you in person or at least have to hear your voice. Like I said, you may have a chance, so if you are still interested, call her and see if she wants to go out again.
kitten chick Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 overanalyzing do do do do do going back to my corner now
starlet Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 It sounds like right now, she does mean friends. That doesn't mean that that won't change, maybe later on, it could develop into more but for right now I wouldn't get my hopes up.
Author kscholze Posted May 2, 2006 Author Posted May 2, 2006 Ok, one more part to the story. After the date, we were walking back to our meeting point, and I say "thanks and I had a great time". And she said "do you want to grab a beer". anything?
Pyro Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 Ok, one more part to the story. After the date, we were walking back to our meeting point, and I say "thanks and I had a great time". And she said "do you want to grab a beer". anything? Well, what did you say? If you said no then she might have taken that as you are not interested in her.
Art_Critic Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 Ok, one more part to the story. After the date, we were walking back to our meeting point, and I say "thanks and I had a great time". And she said "do you want to grab a beer". anything? You're the one that went out with her.. What do you think she meant ? Call her up and ask her out again... Go from there and stop ( As KC suggested ) overanalyizing
MadDog Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 How could she not like me..Im freaking HOT ;-) jk That may very well be but who knows what the hell criteria the girl is using to assess you. Are you tall enough, how does your financial future look, does the color of your hair go well with the new carpet she got? If there's one lesson I've learned and continue to learn, it's that most girls have very little, if any, method to their madness. Instead of actually trying to figure out why they're thinking what they're thinking, you really need to be satisfied with figuring out basics like is she interested or not. If girls made sense, they wouldn't be called girls.
Pyro Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 Simple solution: call her and make plans for another date and see what happens.
gfto Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 Normally, the f-word is the kiss of death, but this is a rare exception. First of all, I don't think it makes any difference that this wasn't explicitly referred to as a date. You guys went out together somehow. That's a date. Did you ask her out? What did you guys do? meet for drinks? She e-mailed you the next day! That's incoming my friend! I'd say she's interested in you. By e-mailing you (the next day no less), SHE is doing the pursuing. Again, I think this is that one in 10,000 instance in which the woman's use of the word "friend" doesn't mean "not if you were the last guy on earth." I'd call her and invite her out for dinner and bowling (or something fun like that). At the end of the date, kiss her....on the lips. This is how you find out whether she's interested in you. If it lands on her lips, you're in. If not, then she probably did, in fact, mean "just friends." Good luck!
Author kscholze Posted May 2, 2006 Author Posted May 2, 2006 I did ask her out to a baseball game. we had some drinks. At the end of the night I went in for a handshake (trying to be polite) maybe this is where she got the friends thing from? Or maybe she wants to hang out but doesn't want to freak me out
TheSwordfish Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 She probably like syou, but you messed up with teh handshake and stuff :(n You made her a friend. Go change that!
gfto Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 the handshake was a mistake, but it didn't ruin your chances. Like I said, make another date. This time, kiss her. You're overanalzying her use of the word "friend." What's important here is that SHE contacted YOU the NEXT DAY, expressing interest in getting together again. Go with it!
TheSwordfish Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 The word friend isn't as bad as it seems..... It would be worse if you tried to kiss her and then her using it. Many girls call you a friend as long as they aren't sure what you want from them yet.
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