Back with gf, but still think of "her"

[cabeach]

This is my situation, briefly. I am a lesbian, mid 30's who was with a woman for about a year before I cheated on her. My girlfriend and I got back together about six months ago. I was very lucky she took me back, and since I have stopped contact with this "other woman". But, the problem arises, as of late, I have been thinking about the other woman a lot. I am not sure what to do with this feeling, as it will not go away. Any suggestions?

[Gemini1975]

That is difficult. How do you turn off feelings? Are you still in contact with this other women. Im in the same situation and as hard as it is I've taken the out of sight out of mind position.

 

If you still want to be with your girlfriend - you have to let go...

[cabeach]

I have not had contact with this woman since January. SHe has texted me once, and emailed me once and I have not responded. It is very hard to remain distant, but I am scared to open that door again, but temptation is so evil. I do love my gf very much, I just don't understand why I think of this other woman as often as I do.

[Gemini1975]

I know its hard - I love my husband very much but I think about the other guy constantly. I can't get him out of my head. Sometimes I think what if things didn't work with my husband. Would he be there for me? I wonder does he think about me the way I think about him? Does he miss me like I miss him? Questions i'll never know the answers too

 

Its like when I quit smoking It used to be the last thing I thought about when I went to bed and the first thing I thought about when I woke up. Its an addiction

[KnowHowLoveFeels]

Hi!

 

I totally understand how you are feeling right now! I haven't seen or talked to my MM for 6 months... but I still think of him constantly. Actually, it does get better with time. Just remember that you love your GF and that she loves you. That's it. That's the 'real' thing right now. Tell yourself that the other woman has already moved on... and you need to do the same.