blind_otter Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 Exactly. As am I. Is there something so wrong about needing that same exact thing from the one I have desired?? Not quite the way riobikini has described because I said RAW and PASSIONATE and just below the surface, not pathetic and tacky....unless of course he looks like Clark Gable and then I could work with it/him... Maybe I think older than my 20 someodd years on this earth, but I want passion, revenge, lust, heat, hot, heavy, raw and fierce...not some cold, lifeless dull fish who asks me what size my chest is in a prepubescent cracked voice and smelling like urine and semen. I want my ardor DAMMIT... This is my theory as to why I want to date older men. But it hasn't really panned out that way, I tells ya. They say that there is a match for everyone out there but I doubt that. Unless I plan on traversing the planet until I locate that perfect match. I used to beg my exH for passion. Something SOMETHING!! Anything! I think I've subsided to mumbling bitterly to myself. If I had a beard, I would mumble into the beard. I've accepted the fact that I yam what I yam, an alien.
riobikini Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 b_o, the man for you just simply hasn't rode in, yet...give him time....he'll turn up when you're least expecting it. -Rio
Author typical Posted May 2, 2006 Author Posted May 2, 2006 My theory is an older man as well...however, I have started to talk myself out of this, having some serious qualms to consider such as the whole mid life crisis thing. I can imagine going on a pretty good clip with him and then all of a sudden, mid life crisis hits and he wreaks chaos in my life with a vast array young maidens and sordid pre break up excuses which I will buy into involuntarily because he has made himself a permanent fixture in my life..... Thus I am stuck somewhere inbetween at the moment.
Walk Posted May 3, 2006 Posted May 3, 2006 I think I have an inkling of what your attempting to describe. My marriage with the ex was passionless, no energy, no spark, no emotion. He went through the motions, but it always felt like he was a golem. Wooden. My current is definitely the opposite. Very passionate, heated, strong willed, and firery. It's like trying to snuggle up with the sun sometimes. I can barely stand the intensity of emotion that radiates off him. You can physically feel it sometimes. What I really admire about my bf is his never die attitude. Not in the "happy go lucky" kind of way, but the "whatever life throws at me I'm going to beat it", kind of way. I've finally begun to trust that no matter what, he'll always fight to keep this going. The man's been officially dead twice, and has more wilpower and strength of character then any man I've ever met. He doesn't ever quit or give up. Not to say he wouldn't step aside to let me leave if that was my choice, but he'll work just as hard as I do to keep this going and make it the best it can be.
Walk Posted May 3, 2006 Posted May 3, 2006 This is my theory as to why I want to date older men. But it hasn't really panned out that way, I tells ya. They say that there is a match for everyone out there but I doubt that. Unless I plan on traversing the planet until I locate that perfect match. I used to beg my exH for passion. Something SOMETHING!! Anything! I think I've subsided to mumbling bitterly to myself. If I had a beard, I would mumble into the beard. I've accepted the fact that I yam what I yam, an alien. Aw B_O... But you're a wonderful alien!! And to hell with all those people who can't see that.
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