francis Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 after a direct email to him, asking for reconciliation, he replied and told me that he doesnt know. he apologised three times. he says he is confused, that he's struggled to move on without progress and he's kind of seeing someone else but doesnt know what he's doing. he says he is scared of the bad times we had. i am at a loss on how to respond now. i haven't replied, but would love some advice guys.
Author francis Posted May 3, 2006 Author Posted May 3, 2006 i emailed him back telling him how i feel he emailed back today he says that he never thought the break was permanent and that he feels that our connection is unique and cannot be replaced i replied a few hours later responding that i agreed, but left it at that, i don't want to push anything i am very close to the end of my degree now can anyone advise me on how i should take this?
littlekitty Posted May 3, 2006 Posted May 3, 2006 Well firstly I don't think dropping everything and moving to HK is the right option. I think you need to continue to focus on yourself and getting your own life in order. He's not giving you anything concrete to go on, and you can't wait around forever for 'maybe'....! Concentrate on finishing your degree. Make plans for afterwards here. If any thing does come of this connection, it seems it will happen in time anyway. But don't go off to HK in the hopes that it will work out. The most attractive thing you can do, is to get on with your own life while he mulls over what the hell he wants...!
Author francis Posted May 6, 2006 Author Posted May 6, 2006 so now he's gone off the subject of reconciliation in his last email, he thanks me for the support i have given him throughout, he says he couldnt have done everything that he's done without my support no mention of anything else so i'm back in limbo - no-man's land this is so confusing, or maybe its clear and i'm just deluding myself
BBetsy Posted May 6, 2006 Posted May 6, 2006 first of all, what is "HK"? second, you need to back off and leave him alone to contemplate his loneliness for a while......easier said than done, I know.
Author francis Posted May 6, 2006 Author Posted May 6, 2006 HK is HongKong, where he is second, you need to back off and leave him alone to contemplate his loneliness for a while......easier said than done, I know. I know! I know! That is the plan from here on out... he told me that he is leaving for a business trip next week, so he's gonna be busy I feel that my NC will be wasted because he won't be sitting around missing me, he's gonna be too busy...my mind is warped I can only back off by not replying to his emails...I've done this a million times, and he usually emails me around 4-5 days later, asking me how i am, and that is when i weaken and reply. I feel like there is nothing more I can do. The ball is in his court so NC for me should be the easy option. The trouble is, do I ignore every email from now on, unless it refers to a reconciliation? do i just dissappear?
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