YoungNY Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 Is there something strange about a 23 year old man being in a relationship with a 19 year old woman? He graduated from college almost 2 years ago when they started dating, she was a senior in high school then, but now she's a sophmore in college. He ask her to move into his apartment with him, but her family is having a fit. They let the relationship continue when she was under 18 and he was 21, but now that they are getting serious he family dissapproves. They say it's the age issue. They say that because they are now at different stages in their lives, playing domestic and being together, combined with the age difference will 'cause problems that will lead to their break-up. What do you think?
miscellaneous Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 They are both adults and I mean...they are not that far apart. Only 4 years apart. I think that people are expressing disapproval because she is still in her 'teens' and they are still regarding her as a kid. But come on! When she is 24 he'll be 28...sounds better without the 'teen' doesn't it. I am 25 and my fiance is 34. No one thinks our 9 year age difference matters but I am sure if I was 19 and he was 28 everyone would have made a big stink about it. Once this guy is treating her right and they are in love I say leave them be. AND you must remember that women do mature faster than men. A 19 year old female can be very settled and perhaps an equivalent to a 23 year old male.
Curmudgeon Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 What age difference? That's not a real big difference. I married the ex when I was 23 and she was 18. I was an Army officer and she'd just graduated from high school. The marriage lasted 25 years, but it shouldn't have!
Alexandra Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 Absolutely agree with what was said above. My only question is, are you any of the two heroes of the story? If so why do you refer to them in the third person?
2sunny Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 That's not really a significance difference in age. My ex husband was five years older than me. I did however found myself extremely attrated to this lovely gentleman who was about 65 years old (i'm 44). Don't know why, but we kissed before we hardly spoke with each other. It was not a bad thing at all, quite nice acually.... Needless to say, I came to my senses and left before I got myself into trouble. He was sexy though and I really would have liked to spend more time with him - age difference or not. Some people in life are worth knowing - and you just seem to connect as soon as you meet them. Or maybe it was just my mood for the night.... hmmmmm.....
Curmudgeon Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 HEY, young lady, I'm only about 60. You promised not to tell!
Alexandra Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 HEY, young lady, I'm only about 60. You promised not to tell! To the OT Corner both of you! Tsk! You can't be left alone on the forum without one of you elapsing into that lovely dovey mushy stuff on other people's threads!
Curmudgeon Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 Not quite sure what the question is but if it's why I refer to her as the ex, that's easy. She's certainly not my ex because that implies ownership and connection and she's nothing to me on a personal level. Happenstantially, she's the mother of my children. That's all!
2sunny Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 Actually, I was thinking about getting a room! You got it roomy! :love:
Alexandra Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 Not quite sure what the question is but if it's why I refer to her as the ex, that's easy. My question?!?! It was to the OP, kiddo. 2sunny I'll even pitch in so that you pay for the room! He clearly needs it
Curmudgeon Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 You realize, of course, that's the price of admission.
Rosalind Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 "the ex", instead of my ex...I like the sounds of that - and I'm gonna implement that right now. okay, carry on - find a room
2sunny Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 My question?!?! It was to the OP, kiddo. 2sunny I'll even pitch in so that you pay for the room! He clearly needs it Oh honey, C=Lion doesn't need a thing! We just have this "thing" and probably always will as long as we are here on LS. I admire a great many things about his accomplishments and his intelligence. We both grew up in the same area and seem to (curiously enough) hold a similar old fashioned value system. If he right now lived closer to me - I know I would enjoy having a meal with him (and his wife) every now and then. Some folks are just a good thing.... C=Lion seems to be one of those.... I think he's wonderful, and that big mane! I just can't keep my hands off of it! :love:
catgirl1927 Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 To the OP, that's not an age difference at all. Why on earth is her family freaking out? Is there more to it than you've said? It can't just be the age difference, surely...
Rosalind Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 ha ha - you called her shirley..nevermind yep, there has to be more to this, than an age gap of 4 years.
Author YoungNY Posted May 2, 2006 Author Posted May 2, 2006 Absolutely agree with what was said above. My only question is, are you any of the two heroes of the story? If so why do you refer to them in the third person? No, my question was about a friend who ask for my advice, but I didn't know what to tell her.
Recommended Posts